what is one change you would make to your relationship

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
September 5, 2008 5:44pm CST
i think the one thing i would like to change about mine would be that we don't fight that much and when we do we only bicker a little bit and no serious fights or anything like that because it gets really old at times and i think that our relationship would be better if we didn't fight, of course i think everyone thinks like this from time to time, i mean i know that i do and i think that is the only thing i would change about our relationship, so what about you, if you could change one thing about your relationship what do you think it would be? thanks for taking the time out of your day to read and review my discussion and i hope that i get answers soon, i hope that you all have had a great day and will have a great night and weekend, be safe and thanks again for taking the time to read my discussion, thanks again!
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
5 Sep 08
You relationship would definitely be better if you were not having serious fights frequently. But, the important question begs to be asked. WHY are you having so many serious fights? I mean, every couple fights, although usually not so seriously, so there must be something wrong here
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
5 Sep 08
no we don't have serious fights, we just bicker sometimes and then by the next hour its finished up, we had a few serious fights is what i meant i just wished we wouldn't disagree at all...thanks for replying!
• United States
6 Sep 08
Well every couple has fights and arguments. Me and my boyfriend are quiet and when we argue we both close down. I just wish we could open up a little more when things are getting to us. I mean we DON'T quarrell because we both can't stand it and I just want more open communication between the two of us... it would just make us so much better. We have talked about it and were working on it and so far so good, it'll just take time.
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
If i had a change to change in a relationship, i would like to make up my relationship with my ex ex ex ex gf. She was nice and a beauty, where i had wasted off with her. Cause of not cherishing her well and our relationship, not treating it serious and thinking of playing and not serious.
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
6 Sep 08
There is nothing about my relationship that I would change. I love my partner very much and we are a good match for each other. There are lots of things in my life I wish I could change but they are not directly linked to my relationship. I am good at wishing I could change things that I cannot change. lol. I wish I could make us both perfectly healthy but I know I cannot. Both of us have illnesses that cannot be treated and cannot be cured. Mine is not life threatening and I am told that might get better by itself in time. My partner though has an illness that will kill him in time so I treasure every moment I have with him and I try and keep him as healthy as I possibly can. You say that you bicker a lot with your partner. This is not good and it can lead to big problems in time. Do you know why you do it? What causes it? Is there anything you can do to stop it? If you can then it would be good if you did as this sort of bickering can lead to misery in the long run and can actually destroy a relationship. I know that it does not seem all that much now but it can cause major problems over time and it would be better if you could fix it.
@android (895)
6 Sep 08
I think we all have problems somewhere in our relationship, I known my partners and mine have been extremely bad lately and we have just seperated. It was initially a permanent move but we have been talking things over and agreed that if we can both make changes and work together, rather than pushing each other away, then that is something which can help us get closer to each other. I did believe for several months that she was cheating on me, but after questioning her time and time again, going and doing the research and talking to other people, I have found everything to be consistent and it looks like it could have been me that was the fool! At one point I even thought she might be a narcissist, which really scared the cr*p out of me, but thankfully she's not! (I think!). Anyway, at the end of the day nobody is perfect and if we really love each other then we have to accept each other for who we really are. If problems are ever that bad then why not try talking to a relationship or counseler.
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
I would say its the pride that both of you have. Its really hard to swallow one's pride. Fight is just one cause of it. Often times we thought that some misunderstandings are challenges to make relationship better, but wouldn't it great if both of you humbly accepts each other with your shortcomings?
@Galena (9123)
5 Sep 08
if I could change things it would be so that last year, Richies doctors would not have prescribed him Diazepam. he had a very bad reaction, and is now a paranoid schizophrenic. I still love him, but it's really hard. if I could change that, our relationship would still be perfect. as it was before that happened.
• United States
5 Sep 08
I guess most people have something they would like to change in their relationship. It's practically impossible to have a perfect relationship all the time, unless you are being fake with each other, in which case it isn't real anyway. As for me, I have finally found the most wonderful relationship of my life. However, if I could change one thing, I would change the fact that I never quite know how to cheer him up when he's feeling down. It isn't very often, but sometimes he just gets into a mood that is hard to pull him out of. I wish that I knew how to take better care of him on days like that.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
5 Sep 08
The main thing I would like to change is for my husband to get a REAL job, and start bringing in a steady pay check. I was always the main bread winner, now I am unemployed. We do not argue, he knows what needs to be done, but he will not get stable and steady. Right now he has a commission only job, and of course when does not sell anything there is no pay check. I guess my thing is that I am tired of struggling. That is the biggest thing, if I could change in my relationship I would.
@ashly1979 (1376)
• United States
5 Sep 08
hum i am sorry that your relationship i hope you can work though this if you dont mind me of asking you this how long have you been toghter me and my b/f has been toghter for now 5 years now i would not change a thing in my relationship i whish you good luck i hope things get better for you have you try to talk to your mate about this me and my b/f ues to fright like cats and dogs but not anymore i use to bad about the women not any more so now we get a long good he goes to work all the time and brinks the money in the home i real do hope things works out fro you i cant real gave out advice that good i hope i help you some have a good night