How can I be a good mother?

@aize003 (225)
Philippines
September 11, 2008 7:06am CST
I have 3 weeks before i give birth this is my first time and I'm very anxious and nervous, I'm not sure if I'll be a good mom to my child..how will i know if i won't be a bad parent for my child?give me some advice thanx
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11 responses
11 Sep 08
OK, im a man who has no children but I will give you advice anyway. Dont beat your child Dont eat your child Dont mistreat your child Dont use your child as a door stop Dont use your child as an excuse to go out shopping Just a few pointers, hope I helped
@aize003 (225)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
well thanx for your advice I take your advice and I'll surely won't eat my child..lol happy mylotting ^_^
11 Sep 08
Im glad I could help, if you ever need anymore help about ANYTHING else just ask me and ill try my best to give you a great answer like the one I have just supplied you with. Have a good day and congratulations on having a child
• China
11 Sep 08
wow ,nice answers~~~~
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
That's exactly how I felt before I gave birth to my only daughter. After I gave birth, I simply knew what to do. That's what they call "Mother Instinct." Once you feel the overwhelming love for your child once you see him/her, you will know that you won't let anybody hurt them. You will feel that you will do just anything necessary to make them grow healthy and to be a good person. Listen to the advice of your parents because they have gone through with what "YOU WILL" go through after you bear your child. I just wants to share a quote, " Being a full time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs...since the payment is pure love". God bless you and your upcoming baby!
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
That's exactly how I felt before I gave birth to my only daughter. When I gave birth, I simply knew what to do. I think it's what they call "Mother Instinct." Once you feel the overwhelming love for your child, you will know that you won't let anybody hurt them. You will feel that you will do just anything necessary to make them grow healthy and at the same time a good person. Also listed the advice of your parents because they have gone through with what "YOU WILL" go through after you bear your child. I just wants to share you a quote "Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs... since the payment is pure love. ~Mildred B. Vermont." God Bless you and your upcoming baby!
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Being scared and anxious is very natural with your first child. The moment they put that little baby in to your hands though you will have this natural love and protection towards the baby. Your natural nurturing and love will come out. Let the nurses show you how to do certain things, they are very good with new mom's. Talk to other mom's. You should not be expected to know everything right off the bat. You will learn as you go, but as long as you try your best you will be fine. Best of luck to you!
@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Just the fact that you are worring about being a good mom tells me that you are already concerned for the welfare of your child. You will be a fabulous mom. You will love her, care for her, and teach her right from wrong. It sounds like you are already a good mom to me.
• United States
11 Sep 08
Don't worry.. being excited is just normal., wait till you see the "miracle". To tell you honestly, parenting is not an easy job, but if you love and adore your baby everything will turn out well..just be sensitive to the baby's needs but don't be too overprotective to the point you'll be afraid of holding it. Another thing, if you want your baby to feel your love, cuddle her or him such that it can hear your heart's beat. Don't worry too much, there are only 3 reasons why they cry, one if their hungry, second if their wet and third if their sick. And as for your worry if you will be a good mom..its you who know yourself well.. right? Are you a good or bad person? In either case, just put your child's interest first before you and lastly STAY CALM!!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
11 Sep 08
I am not a Mother but I HAVE been a first time parent. It is scary, no question; but it is amazing how natural instincts seem to just kick in and things fall into place. The love you will feel for your new baby will be unlike any emotion you can possibly imagine! I can assure you that you will be a good Mother to your child and will find patience and understanding within yourself that you never even knew you had. It is also improtant to surround yourself with other Mothers and family if possible so you always have a supportive ear whenever you need it. Good luck with your birth and I wish you all the best!
@cindy003 (21)
• China
11 Sep 08
i don't get married,but i know you will be a good mom just when yr baby is coming out.it's natural~~~
@rakittera (802)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
There are no set rules in parenting. And nobody is ever prepared to be a parent no matter how ready one thinks he is. I had the same fears that you had when I was still carrying my child. But when I finally gave birth, everything just seemed to fall into place. I was able to do things that I never thought I could. I was able to take care of my baby. And for some reason, I came to know what she needs even if she doesn't know how to talk yet. I believe there's a certain connection between mother and child that nobody can explain. It's fascinating how I would look at my baby and know what I should do. I think it's what you call mother's instinct. You would just feel it. Don't worry, it will come to you in time. Good luck on your delivery. Take care of yourself and the baby.
@rainmark (4303)
11 Sep 08
You don't need to be anxious and nervous, just relax. Im sure you can be a good mother to your newborn baby.All you need to do is, look after him, support his/her emotionally and morally. Teach him/her to be a good person and respect eldest.Don't be so cruel to him nor hurt him.Just provide whatever he/she needs now and in the future and be a good role model.
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
being a good mother is an instinct. you dont have to do it. it will just happened.