Have you ever lied about being in a relationship?

I agree with you. If you never lie you never have to remember. I live by this. I talked about what happened with my partner. He wasnt upset at all. He actually just hugged me and said that every relationship goes thru small tests of endurance. THis was one. See why I love him . THanks Friend. dl

thats the way I felt about 2nd hubby had a good 42 1/2 years before he passed on

Lucky you! I have a first love that has a large ego. THis is one of the reasons we arent together today. I am happpy with what I have. I think this incident reinforced what I already knew. I AM IN LOVE!!! We have been together for five years. Everyday still seems like its a new relationship. He completes me. This is the first time in my life I have ever been able to say that. Thanks dl.

Hey fairy! How the heck are ya? Long time no talk. Dont forget about us myLotters. We enjoy your responses and discussions. You are definitely correct in your response. I have the perfect man for me at this moment. If I were to trade him for a memory I would be crazy and deserve any unhappiness that I may get. I think It was the fact the my first love still cant forget about me after all this time. He has become a person that I would not even look at. WHen I look at him I Remember him as he was. I shouldnt do that. If you only knew how special he made me feel. He literally fought for me. No one has ever stuck up for me in that way. He loved me. I do know this. However thanks to you I realize that I have something even better now. Even though me and my first love will always have that time in our life, I dont think it could ever be the same. We were kids then. There's been alot of water under the bridge. Alot of relationships since then. I think that its better left as a memory. Thanks fairy. You truly are a good friend. Imean that!!!Dont ever forget me as one of your friends. dl

I think that you and your husband have been blessed. TO find that kind of love on the first shot is almost a miracle. To have kept that bond alive for over 30 years is beautiful. I feel so bad. I do have unconditional love. I think I was self sabotaging. I have experience a relationship that was so terrifying I thought I would never ever love, or trust again. When I met Alex, everything changed. I felt safe. I didnt worry as much. When I was in that awful other relationship I had two children die. One from a beating. I have always felt that I was being punished for something. I hadnt done anything. I have always been a kind, loving and gentle person. I couldnt understand it. My childhood was wonderful. Great parents. Then this. In my mind I thought that maybe you werent supposed to be that happy. This is why I was faced with this. I know see how wrong I was. I have been a victim because some prey on a person's kindness. I wasnt sick he was. I have talked to my fiance about the incident the other day. He just smiled and said I passed another one of lifes tests. HES DEFINITELY THE ONE FOR ME!!!!!! Thanks for listening. dl

I am happy that you are loved in such a special way. We must remember one thing. FLirting is innocent. Its following up on it thats the problem. If you flirt as long as it stays flirting, it shows you are human. I do think you should take some time by yourself to make sure that he is what you really want. That's what I did. It helped me. I spent the weekend alone. I thought about my feelings, and our plans for the future etc. I saw that I was interested in him no matter what. It will help you to clear any misinformation you may have and or doubts. Remember that your happiness depends on you especially. Happy myLotting my friend.dl

I hate to say it but I have to disagree with you. I have been thru hell in relationships. When I met my fiance I thought that fate was playing a cruel joke. We are like peanut butter and jelly. We match perfect! I dont think my relationship is lacking anything. I think that I have to put all my fears behind me and realize that we are a couple because we love each other. I think I was looking for a way to prove that I wasnt worthy. After submitting this discussion and receiving all these responses, I was able to see what I had done for what it was. NOTHING. I have talked to my partner about what happened and he said that life gives us tests all the time. I passed. I finally realize that my love is real and not going anywhere. HES ALL MINE FOREVER. or so I hope. lol dl

You are extremely lucky to have never experienced this type of situation. I am glad you found a partner that you have that unconditional love with. When you have this kind of love there is nothing anyone or anything could do to come between you. Congratulations. You are truly blessed. Thanks for responding and happy myLotting. dl

As I was talking to my first love, I could see that he was still 17 in maturity. I did think for a brief second that things would be just like they used to be. NOT. I have children now. He has children. ALso and most importantly, I am with a good, decent, loving man. Not only is he my boyfriend he's my best friend. You dont find that just anywhere. I am so proud of myself for realizing that going back in history wont make my problems go away it will just prolong them for awhile. Thanks for responding and happy myLotting. dl

First off Qujing, never give any man or woman for that matter that much power. This man knows you have put up with him behaving badly so he thinks he can do what ever he wants to you. NOT! You need to be strong my friend! Dont let him cry and make you feel guilty. Only you know how you truly feel. Does this man make you cry? Is he nice to you all the time? Does he lie to you? Does he cheat on you? Does he make you feel like you nothing or not good enough? If you answered yes to any of these questions You are not happy with him my friend. You need to be with someone who cares about you as much as you care about them. You dont need a man to define who you are. YOu are a good person. I can tell just by what you have told me. If I know that, then he should know that because he knows you in person. If you need to talk send me a private message. I would love to help. Good luck in whatever you decide. dl

Honestly I think you are assuming that I cheated. I said flirt. Everyone flirts whether they admit it or not. I think that flirting is healthy as long as its not pursued. I do know that I was hoping to regain a teenage memory. I know that can never be possible. I am so glad I chose to do the right thing. I think the best thing you can do to help your friend is not to judge her. Be there for her or him. Let them know that flirting is human nature. DL

The other man in question was my first love. MY first everything if you get my drift. I was very happy back then. He and I truly had something special. I didnt have children then. I didnt have a house and bills either. Things have changed drastically for both of us. It ended badly. We did get back together but it wasnt the same. I think that is was a weak moment. I didnt say anything inappropriate. It made me realize how lucky I am with what I have. I love my honey with all that I am. For once in my life I dont feel as if I am missing something. This is where I need to be. thanks for listening. dl

:-) anytime dear...wat u feel is perfectly normal....so chilll..;-)

That sounds like me. Its something I would do as well. Its hard to hurt someones feelings. I was never good at that. I was always the one that gave in. SO dont feel bad. You are not alone. Thanks for responding and happy myLotting dl

I must admit at first I didnt mention I was in a committed relationship. Very quickly I realized that this isnt what I wanted to be doing. I told him then. What really made me see that my ex and I had no business even suggesting something like this was when he didnt seem to care I was in a relationship. What kind of person did he turn out to be? Now I know. I have been over and over it in my mind and I am so happy to be with my man now. Its been 5 of the best years of my life. seriously. dl

I have been over it in my head a thousand times. I think I feel guilty because I am so happy and have it so good. I tried to sabotage my happiness. I know that my ex is everything I dont want. I knew that from the start. I think I needed to realize that I have the right to be happy. I have been thru hell and back. I have earned my happiness. I am positive that I will never go thru something like that again. thank for responding and happy myLotting.dl

Now see that's what I am talking about. People are so quick to judge. Its not that simple. I have always been the one to take the back seat to all my friends, boyfriends etc. My first love was the person who made me see that this wasnt how life is supposed to be. We were teenagers. Things were much simpler then. Now we both have children by others. I have seen a different side of him over the years. He has become something I am not attracted to. When I bumped into him I was caught off guard. I felt guilty about being happy. I know he's not having such a great time of it right now. I felt like I owed him something just for a minute. I then realized that I am responsible for myself and my children. No one else. Where was he when I was going thru hard times. He didnt offer a kind word. I guess I needed to realize these things myself. Then I was able to move on and mention how happy I am in my committed relationship. I dont think I was ever foolish. I think its part of life. Life is a constant learning experience. thanks dl