What do you think of spoiling children?

My Granddfathher always said that you can't spoil a child with love. If you love your child you will teach them self control and not give them every new gadit that comes on the market. You will stop and think is this good for my child? How will it affect him? Is it good for me to allow my child to act this way? Will my child be liked if he acts this way. I personaly don't like a child that acts up every time he doesn't get his own way. Children need to have permiters put in plase. In fact I believe they really want them. Children should be taught manneers too. You want your child to be liked and welcome every where they go and some spoiled children are not really welcome.

I think you have to really try and think about what your doing to spoil your child and find ways to correct a spoiled child, other wise they could grow up to be spoiled adults. But this can be hard most people don't take the time to reflect on what they are doing to spoil your children.

I agree with you. Do not spoil your child. I am a disciplinarian when it comes to raising my children. I am iron fisted. I want my children to listen to my instructions and groom them to be successful humans. This did not go down well with them though as I am now experiencing the rebuke from them. They are successful in their studies and careers but think of me as the wicked mom who showed them hell instead of heaven when they were growing up. I care less of this as I have done my job as a mother and as long as they have landed themselves in a comfortable position in life I am happy to go.

It really depends on what kind of spoiling you're talking about. I do not believe that a baby under the developmental age of 1 can be spoiled. It's our job as parents to teach that child that we will be there for them. We will comfort them when they cry. As a child gets older I believe we are responsible for teaching the child to be able to entertain themselves for a reasonable period of time. As for raising brats- My children will never be rewarded in a store for misbehaving. If they throw a fit for candy, they're going to continue to throw a fit because they're not getting the candy. I don't care too much what people think or how many looks I get. I also will not do their homework, or back down on a consequence. I will get them the unnessary toys they do not need for christmas or a birthday. I will give them ices for breakfast when they don't feel good. I will never put down a complaint that people see as nothing, like clothing bothering them. I will never tell them to deal with something because they'll survive. My children are of course spoiled at times. If they cry, I'm there to hold them. If they mess up, I'm there to teach them how to fix things. I get up in the middle of the night to change my son's sheets if his pull up leaks, and I would never punish or put him down for wetting the bed. They have way too many toys, but use all of them. I could care less if they get their "good clothes" dirty, or if something rips. So again, I'm not exactly sure what kind of spoiling you're talking about, but there's my opinion.

I think it is okay to spoil your children but it has to be gradually decreasing in certain age. Spoiling children too much would make them lack of the feeling of responsibility, they wouldn't know the thing that is good or bad if you always make them see that everything is good. You would never taught them how to respect people if the only thing they know is that people loves them and think they would always right. Children have to learn about 'not being selfish' and 'responsibility' since they were kids and you wouldn't be able to make them learn that if you are spoiling them too much

Some says i did. I thought it was love, just looking forward that he got the needs he wants. wherever he wants something, even just a small amount, i don't expect any suspicious that he's lying. I trusted him. He sometimes let his friends with them at home, i don't mind, as long as they are in my house. Sometimes he ask permission that he will going to stay a day to a friend, later he goes home late, later he don't says anything at all. When i had this questioning, he close his ears on me and when he ask for money, he don't really say what he needs it for. Although at times, food, projects same old alibis. Too much care, too much attention, and too much love may spoil a boy especially there is No to what he ask for. Sometimes i ask where did i go wrong? Am i really spoiling my kid? And realize i was, but whose gonna tend him to what he needs, i ask myself and whose going to monitor what he do, how could i get along with his attitudes. Its too late, now i trying to give him a pat on his shoulder. "son, your attitude is beyond what i expected?" i get a word, "Mom trust me" . I dont understand but still i'm here to support what you mean. I can forgive and forget things out because i love him and his my son. But slowly,i working with his friends before going to say Yes and No to him. I still have my alas, to pray, and my only hope with God is to keep my boy safe and sound, and touch his heart to find the goodness within him.