Are you able to mend fences quickly after a heated argument?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
September 22, 2008 9:24am CST
My roommate and I had a horrible argument yesterday. Again over his moving out. He has been dragging his feet. My hubby and I need the room for son. He is due in December. Anyway things got heated there was yelling and it was just bad. The air was cleared, but now he is acting like the argument never took place. Is this a skill or is it denial?
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
22 Sep 08
It sounds like he knows he is wrong and trying to get you to forget about it by acting like nothing happened. My father is that type of person. He will get stupid and get in an argument and then the next day act like nothing is wrong like it never happened. He needs to get out and soon. You and your husband have been too nice to him and there is no reason for him to still be there. If he still needs a little more time to find a place he should at least be packing up all of his stuff. It should all be in boxes and waiting so he can just grab it and go when he does find a place.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
22 Sep 08
And because that makes sense, you know it won't happen.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
22 Dec 09
When I get mad it takes me a LLLLLLOOOONNNNGGGG time to get over it...I'm just that way. I also know ppl, like the one you describe, that seem to never be fazed by it. The ones that really get me are the ones you get into a fight with then they act like your best friend. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STANDING STRONG IN MY BELIEFS**[/b]
• United States
2 Oct 08
I know just the type. I hate arguments and prefer calmly talking things over. My wife and a friend of ours however have heated debates. I have learned that this style works for them. To each their own.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
23 Sep 08
DENIAL! all the way.. He knows it is a problem but I feel he keeps himself in denial so he won't have to deal with it. You can have him court ordered out. You have given him many warnings and also told him that he will have to move. I think it best now to have a paper drawn up to evict him. It would stand up in court. This man needs to get a move on what is he waiting for? you to bring the baby home before he moves? I do hope that you can get this matter settled. You don't need the stress that he is putting on you because of his actions or should I state non-actions of moving. He is endangering your health I would think having you stressed out like that, isn't good for you or the baby.
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
23 Sep 08
We have a friend that went through the same thing with their room mate. Finally what she did was to make up a form that made it look like they were in violation of their lease because they had an extra person living their. It got him out of their. As far as fixing the bridges some times it takes time to get over things that are said and done that are hurtful. Other times it just takes an "I am sorry".
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
22 Sep 08
I suspect he is being cunning and using his skill to cajole you and your husband to extend his stay at your house. Just be nice with him but firm. Your exigences are a priority and he must find elsewhere. The sooner the better.
@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
22 Sep 08
its a skill dear when you realize you make a mistake and you want to overlook it it requires skill and only cool minded people have it but great have the courage to say "sorry"