loyal or not?

Brunei Darussalam
September 28, 2008 11:13am CST
do you always listen to what your husband told you to do? or do you always follow your husband's order? me, im a bit stubborn...sometimes,i do what he told me to do but sometimes if it not right for me,then i would argue with him and ignore with his order...he would be very mad...but i just keep myself silent until he cools down...what about you?
12 responses
28 Sep 08
I am loyal to my husband but I didn't come with ownership papers.
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28 Sep 08
I do not think that any relationship should be based on one partner giving orders and the other obeying. If there is anything that my husband wants or that I want we discuss it if it is something that would affect both of us and is important. Little things we usually do what we want as we trust each other to do the right thing.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
3 Oct 08
There is no way that my husband would EVER tell me what to do. He will sometimes ask if I could do something for him but never tell. A relationship is supposed to be a union between two people not one person in charge. It takes two people to make it work otherwise someone is not happy.
• United States
3 Oct 08
I guess it depends on what the topic is.
@chabawel (330)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I will follow my husband if it's the right thing for our family. But it's not all the time I follow him because I do have a mind of my own. I do what's best for my family.
• United States
30 Sep 08
My husband would never even think of telling me what to do. Nor wo tell him. Our mutual respect is part of the reason we have a really great relationship.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
29 Sep 08
My husband doesn't tell me what I can and can't do and I don't tell him what he is allowed to do either. The day he starts giving me orders, is the day I laugh in his face. We talk things over and make decisions together. We respect each others opinions and neither of us give orders.
• India
28 Sep 08
yes i do agree with you. i also do the same which you do. i listen to my husband but follow all his orders are not important for me. Because i cant follow the order which i think is wrong. Because i think that if you follow one of his wrong orders then he will expect more from you and will force you to follow all his orders whether it is wrong or right.
• United States
28 Sep 08
I never let my husband tell me what to do.I listen to his advice and opinions but a decision regarding what I do is my choice.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I love my husband dearly and from the bottom of my heart. I always seek out his opinion on just about everything. But it is just that... AN OPINION... While he doesn't ask me to do alot, he does give alot of opinions of what I should do or what he would do. I just basically take the information from him that is helpful to my situation and make my own decision. I think though, if he did ask things of me more often that weren't terrible or uncomfortable or morally/legally wrong I would try to oblige. He is very patient and is content with me doing my own things (which include things with our family and our kids as I don't do anything without all of them with me). If he is angry, I will usually take on the challenge. I'm not one to run from confrontation from him and will stand my ground and battle until it is done. It ends quickly and we resume life as usual. But it doesn't happen often and is not severe. When we first got together and for the first six years it was often violent but we did some counseling and he went to jail for domestic battery and since then we can fight it out without any physical altercations and reprocussions...
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I agree, marriage makes two people become one and when that happens you both have to talk about things and come to an agreement that pleases both of you.
@alkhansa (88)
• Saudi Arabia
28 Sep 08
I would do what he ask as long as it is within reason and not against the law LOL. Oh yes, I would argue too sometime, and usually we came up with a compromise. And when my husband's angry, I never argue back, just let him be mad and then when he cools down, I would talk and get my point across and maybe even get mad. One at a time :-)