Response to your new discussions.

@dpk262006 (56482)
Delhi, India
September 29, 2008 11:59pm CST
Dear friends whenever you start a new discussion what do you expect from your friends do you expect all of them should reply or at least those who are regular here on mylot should come out with their responses? What would you prefer:- a) if they (your friends) have nothing to contribute they may skip the discussion; b) even if they have nothing substantial to say – they must write something; or c) they should always come out with their considered views and quality responses. Would like to know about your views on the above.
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@mayka123 (10824)
• India
30 Sep 08
Though I would be most happy if all my friends responded I would also understand that there are topics on which not everyone has something to contribute. I would not want them to answer if they have nothing substantial to say. There are discussions where I have not responded because either they are on topics that I avoid responding or sometimes it is that I have nothing to add to on that particular topic. So I would not mind if friends skipped some discussions where they did not want to say anything. At times we also have to understand that the notifications do not reach all our friends.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
Yours is a very rational and logical reply and you probably won't mind if some of your dear friends (me including) skip your discussion(s) because they had nothing to say.........LOL! I assume you would be happy either way - even if a friend skip your discussion or even if he/she contribute something on it. Many thanks for joining us and for quick response.
@mayka123 (10824)
• India
30 Sep 08
My discussions till date have been such that friends like you whom I know very well now can reply. So I think I would be hurt if my good friends here (including you) did not reply. I have till date avoided topics on which I felt all mylotters would not be in a position to reply. I would always expect your contribution to my discussions.....
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
Yes, I agree with you that easier and simple discussions get more responses and it becomes easier for friends to contribute. LOL!.....The problem appears to me, where it was - I also expect my friends to contribute and I feel good if it is a quality response. However, if they come out even with few lines, I would appreciate their attempts and efforts because I think, it is a better position rather than getting 'no response' for them. Donot worry I'm not going to hurt you by not responding.....to your discussion........I would try my best to contribute something interesting to discussions of all my friends, provided I am on-line and have some time to write some thoughts. I value my friends and wish I should reply to all their discussions, but due to time constraints sometimes it becomes difficult.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Honestly, i don't expect them all to respond. I will be very grateful if they did or at least the regulars but it depends on them, whether they like to respond or not. I for myself just read on if i have nothing of sustance to say. if i feel that i can contribute something to the discussion then i respond but if i don't have anything to say then i just read on. I don't respond just for the sake of responding, then my response makes no sense at all.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
YOur reply means that your friends should not respond for the sake of it, either they should skip your discusions completely or else write something interesting and substantial. Is it?
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Yes, i think so that is what i meant. But as i said i do appreciate it when they do. If they don't respond, then i would take it as the discussion didn't interest them which i do understand. The friendship doesn't end, whether they respond or not, but i've got a few friends with whom i do exchange responses regularly.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
Sweetie, You appear to me very wise and broad minded and specially I appreciate your thinking when you say 'Friendship does not get effected, even if friends do not reply regularly to your discussions'. This is a kind of understanding between friends. I am impressed with your thoughts.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
30 Sep 08
I'd go with the option a) I don't think all my friends (or rather the ones who are regular on mylot) should respond to my discussions. It's an individual choice and if they feel that they have something to add to express, they may do so...but I do not feel bad if they don't. I know most of my friends and how they think about certain issues (it might differ from mine) and sometimes some discussions are too personal for them to respond (even if they have something to say...they might not want to do so in public). I respect that.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
Yours is a very rational and logical reply and you probably won't mind if some of your dear friends (me including) skip your discussion(s) because they had nothing to say.........LOL! I assume you would be happy either way - even if a friend skip your discussion or even if he/she contribute something on it. Many thanks for joining us.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
1 Oct 08
I'd be happier if my friends had something to say and posted a response. But I'd rather have no response from my friends than something typed in just because I'm their friend. I wouldn't feel bad if they had nothing to say and I'm sure my friends (you included) know that.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
So in nutshell your friends should come out with some interesting responses, because they are your friends. Got it. Have a great day!
@Sreekala (23718)
• India
30 Sep 08
Hi Deepak, I will be happy if all the mylotters responded but I never expect the same. What I am doing is, go through the headlines of discussions and responding to those interested ones. I think I have to give my opinion on the subject. If I am not able to understand the same then I just drop it. I am not bothered if my friends do not respond to my discussion. There is no compulsion in between friends. They have liberty to respond or not to respond. I am doing my duty and let others do the same. Best wishes.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
HI! Sreekala! I appreciate your logical thinking and response. Everyone wishes that more and more replies could be posted in response to his/her discussion(s) but sometimes it does not happen. Yes, when we cannot contribute something substantial on a discussion, we may be allowed to skip that particular discussion. So in nutshell, you won't feel bad if anyone in your friends' list does not respond to your discussion ( you would take it in right spirits, I believe). Many thanks for joining us for discussion and for sparing your invaluable time for us.
@Sreekala (23718)
• India
30 Sep 08
Deepak, I am not greedy. I am happy with what I have. Yes I take in the right spirit. Thanks and Happy Ramdaan and happy holidays.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
Happy Navaraths, EID and Ramdan to you too!!!! I can understand your point.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
30 Sep 08
i do expect my friends to contribute,even if they do not have anything substancial to write.its their support that counts.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
Even if they say that they have nothing much to say on the subject, you won't mind? It is? Thanks for joining us.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
1 Oct 08
yup.you got it right.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
I have taken not of it. Now even if I write a brief reply, I suppose, to your discussion, you will take it in right sprits.......LOL!!!!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Hello deepak! Honestly, although I want all my friends to respond to the discussions I started to, I know it would be impossible. First of all, I know there are discussions that they can't relate to or that they don't have something to say about it. Another one is that not all of them are active anymore. In your choices, I would prefer a and c. If my friends have nothing to say to my discussion, they can skip to it and it's ok with me and that's the time c would come up because I want to consider their views so that their response to me would have good quality.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
7 Feb 09
Aisa! I must say that you have given a very practical and honest/wise response.Yes, it is not possible for all the friends to reply to our all the posts, because they may be having their own compulsions and commitments and sometimes they cannot relate to your discussions. What would be your reaction, if I fail to respond to your new discussion(s)? Will you feel bad?
• United States
7 Feb 09
hmmm..well, I don't think I would feel bad..many there are other factors..whether you can't relate or you don't know I started a new one
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
30 Sep 08
Hi friend,To be frank I dont expect anything from anyone ,I just start a discussion whatever I feel.Then later I check whether I got any responses ,sometimes I get lot of responses and sometimes I dont.But I dont even think of mylotters or my friends here about responding to my discussions.I think that no one is interested in my discussion and proceed further.For sometime I'l not start any discussion when I dont get much responses.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. It is good that you do not expect much and later on donot feel disappointed on that account. Thanks for sharing.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
30 Sep 08
I do not expect my friends who are regular here to respond to each and every discussion that I start as the subject matter may or may not be of interest to them and there is certainly no compulsion. Having said this I do really appreciate the fact if a friend takes the effort to respond. It may be a line or a para or Two. The effort to say something is always appreciated. At the same time i would totally respect the fact that they may not want to respond to a particular topic and would certainly not be judgemental about them. If one really goes into this a little, then once can categorise this into friends who respond once and leave it at that. Then there are those who build up an active thread adding value and content each time. The topic may digress, but the thread is kept interesting.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 08
Alok! You have answered the issue very well and you have advocated all the options which I have mentioned. So you would be happy either way - even if a friend skip your discussion or even if he/she contribute something on it. Many thanks for joining us and for quick response.
• India
30 Sep 08
well whenever i start a new discussion i expect my friends here to respond for the discussion i would like to receive their quality response i want them to respond very honestly and i would welcome a straight forward response
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
So your friends should come out with their quality responses, as much as they can, this is what I gather from your reply.
• India
3 Oct 08
ya honest response is what everyone needs why did i say something wrong friend???????
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
8 Oct 08
No, you were very clear.
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I cannot and would not expect my mylot friends to have the same interests with me. Each and every one of us has individual reasons why we do and don't respond to a discussion. Why not force someone to answer to your discussion when they don't think they have anything substantial to say? Why force them to come out with quality responses if they really can't? I'd rather they skip my discussion than force them to do something they don't like. Hey! Mylot's supposed to be fun! But well, it will be wonderful to come up with a discussion wherein all my friends can participate, that will be a glorious day! Happy mylotting!
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Hmmm... that's a tough question, I'm bad in Math, hehehe! Maybe around 30% responses from my friends list will do, but more than that will really make me happy!!!
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
Good to know that even if 30% of your friends respond, you are happy.
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
When I start new discussions, I prefer my friends or the other mylotters to respond with quality rather than posting a response just for the sake of it. I don't really expect ALL of my friends here to answer my discussions but I admit I'm hoping half of them do.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I'm hoping half of them would. Wishful thinking. But 1/4 is also okay, besides there will be other users who are not yet my friends who will answer.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
Good to know that even if 1/4 of your friends respond, you are happy.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I don't really think of obligating my friends to respond to my discussions. If they do then that is very well with me. It is also well if they skip or don't respond at all. Cheers!!
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
That's what I feel too.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting reply. Thanks for sharing.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Hey dpk, I would hope that if I were to start a new discussion that my friends would be there to support me and write some sort of comment so I know that they are looking out for me. I always answer most of my friends emails unless on the rare occasion that the subject is one that I don't know anything about or that I don't belong in. I do believe that if you don't really have anything that is worthwhile to contribute to the discussion then you might as well just stay out of it!
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I really don't pay attention to that. I have friends here that have NEVER responded to my discussions but we meet up in other discussions. I just assume that my discussions are not anything they are interested in or maybe they missed them. It's no big deal. I don't respond to all their discussions. If my friends have nothing to contribute, I'd rather they skip it.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
YOu appear to be very broad minded and liberal. Thanks for joining us.
• United States
30 Sep 08
I think if they are your friends and are a regular on mylot they should always come out with their considered views and some quality responses It is always considerate to add some sort of response if your friend starts a new discussion.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
Thanks for joining and sharing.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I don't really notice who responses much, so I don't get mad if friends do not respond, as long as I get at least a few good answers that are very well thought out. That is all what is important to me. I normally go for the new discussions myself.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
YOu appear to be very broad minded and liberal. Thanks for joining us.
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@madasp (563)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I would choose A. I don't expect everyone on my friends list to have all the same interests as me, so I don't think they should have to feel obligated to respond. If its not something they can relate to they shouldn't have to bother.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. You take the things in the right spirit, I believe. So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
30 Sep 08
I have quite a lot of friends here , whenever i start a discussion not all my friends reply my discussion , or they reply my old discussion , i try to reply whole of their discussion , so they take pain to reply some of my discussions and leave off , am atleast happy with those people , but some dont even turn up and have courtesy on mine i get irritated with those people , so i stopped replying to my friends discussions ( especially who dont mind me ) and neither im starting a discussion so i think there is no worry to think about , only if i start a discussion i should worry to get good responses ! so i move forward to reply to mylot top discussions and do my best to responding there
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 08
It is nice to read your interesting and logical reply. You take the things in the right spirit, I believe. So out of your all friends how much of them do you expect would respond? Thanks for sharing.
@saraines (154)
• United States
30 Sep 08
i believe as long as there is an opinion anyone can respond, that's what this site is for, no? sometimes hearing things from outsiders, not only your friends make you look at things from a different perspective, because friends care about us, they might tell us things they know we want to hear.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
YOu appear to be very broad minded and liberal. Thanks for joining us.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
30 Sep 08
Hello dpk. I don't expect all of my friends to respond to my new discussions because it is not easy for the discussion to be read based on my own experience. Why do I say so? You know, I have got so many friends on my friend-list and I myself find it hard to be able to read all the new discussions by my friends because the new email notifications will cover the previous ones and they will finally become old ones and hard to be discovered unless I stay all the day mylotting. So I think that it is very normal for my new discussions not to be responded to. lol. Thank you for the discussion, dpk.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 08
YOu appear to be very broad minded and liberal. Thanks for joining us.