would you move somewhere you didnt want to go, to please your spouse?
By eaforeman6
@eaforeman6 (8979)
United States
5 responses
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
10 Oct 08
When Hubby and I first met, he was working at a Prison and couldn't transfer right away. I moved up with him for a year till he could get the transfer. I didn't want to move and I missed my family terribly but it was a choice I made.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
14 Oct 08
yes, well he wanted to move right next door to all his family? I have issues with my privacy and when we did it before , it was not good. I dont want to be there and I dont want them right next door. If that makes him mad, oh well....It was very uncomfortable for me.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
14 Oct 08
A few years back, Hubby's stepfather passed away and we moved up to a trailer next door to his mom and one of his brothers. IT WAS A NIGHTMARE!!! She drove both of us up the wall, his brother was an idiot and neither one of us could wait to move away. Thankfully we moved back to the town I'd come from and we've been happy here since. Sometimes it's better to keep distance between family.
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
9 Oct 08
If my spouse had a good enough reason such as new job, health reasons, etc. yes I would but just on a whim then no I would not.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
14 Oct 08
We had lived there before and it did not work out. Thats why we moved. I cannot see any point in going back. He may have his reasons but I also have mine. There was too much interference and the town is the pits!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 08
That's a very tricky one my friend and there would have to be some sort of compromise, I mean why this town? Couldn't there be another place close by which was more ameniable and friendly? After all you have to live there, moving is a big commitment and going somewhere unfriendly and somewhere you didn't want to go well it would have to be thought about long and hard and it's not a decision you could make lightly, you also have to weigh up the reasons WHY your spouse wants to move and to this particular town. Is it a job opportunity? A lot of factors have to be taken into consideration my friend and weighed up, pros and cons and is the relationship strong enough, he could move and not you, how far the distance is, many many different factors indeed! I don't envy you or the person who had to make that choice!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
8 Oct 08
My husband wanted to move back home after his father passed away. His mom is still there and has other family members there.My family is here. I dont want to move there because I dont like it. I also dont get along well with a few of the relatives. He has agreed to stay here but dosent like it. I dont mind visiting there but thats as far as I am willing to go.I hate to say it but this wont be easy to deal with . There is no doubt that he will resent staying here.This could be the begining of the end, if he ever decides that he is going.....
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Oct 08
Okay, I can honestly answer this with a yes. I moved 1200 miles away from my family and where I grew up to be closer to my husbands family. Which was the biggest mistake of my life. We are moving next week to be further away from in laws because of all the problems. I wish it was back up north where I am from. because I hate Florida. I hate where we live. I have not been happy at all since we moved here 4 years ago.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
16 Oct 08
Yes, I can really understand where you are coming from. If I knew back than what I know now. I would of never moved away from my family. At least not so far away.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Exactly, and it was too much work to make it comfortable here and then just be expected to walk away. Especialy when Its so happy here and I love it so much! Its very pretty and clean!The people are very nice.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
14 Oct 08
you then can understand why I do not want to go! I have said no. If he cannot accept this and he wants to go, he willbe leaving alone. I am sorry but this is one time when I am not changing my mind. They will all have to deal with it.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Oct 08
No, I wouldn't move to somewhere if I didn't like it even if it was to please my spouse. Decisions such as that would have to be made by mutual agreement and neither myself or my spouse would do something that would make either of us unhappy.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I feel that way too. I am very happy where I am and there is no reason to go somewhere that I have been that I know I will hate. I do not want to go there at all, I will go out of respect but it is not something that I will ever be happy about.
