Don't go to bed angry!

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@mom4kids (658)
Canada
October 9, 2008 6:18pm CST
Do you believe this old saying is a good one? Good advice? Do you take it? I always try not to go to bed angry, I find I can't get to sleep anyways because I'm so angry and the wheels won't stop turning in my head from all the turmoil there and I don't like to be angry anyways so I always try to get issues resolved before I go to bed otherwise I'm not gonna get much sleep. I like to be at peace not to have anger.
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@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
10 Oct 08
YES, I believe you should NEVER go to bed angry!!! (1) as you said, you do NOT sleep well, (2) you wake up even angrier as you're still angry from the disagreement plus blaming them because you didn't sleep & (3) anger is a WASTE of GOOD emotions. So, while you're still angry & up all night anyway, why not scream & yell until you get it ALL out & settle the problem??? That way you (1) get a good night's sleep, (2) you wake up peaceful, & (3) you're ENJOYING those GOOD emotions
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@salonga (27964)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
That old saying is biblical. It is actually implied in Ephesians 4:26. I believe it makes sense to really avoid going to bed with a light heart. When you are angry, it is very hard to sleep. It's as if you're anger is eating you. I always as much as possible do want to rest at night with no single feelings of anger to anyone. It's a nice feeling. I can always talk to God with no barrier if there is no anger resides in my heart. However, there are times that I can't really avoid holding the anger till I fall asleep but I make it a point not to hold the wrath for long. I try to resolve the issue as I wake up the next time or the earliest time possible. Related Bible Verses: ---------------------- Psalm 37:8 -Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm James 1:?19?-20 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; ?for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
@mom4kids (658)
• Canada
11 Oct 08
yeah there's also a verse in the old testament that talks about not letting the sun go down on your anger.
@salonga (27964)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Yes right as I've mentioned it is found in Ephesian 4:26: Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. Have a nice day!
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
9 Oct 08
Yes I agree with this especially if it is because of issues with another person, clear the air with the other person you just don't know it could be your last chance to do that...
10 Oct 08
Yeah i know what you mean, try take your mind off before going to bed, go to a happy place... lol
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I agree that it's good advice. I try to take it but it doesn't always work. I try my best to follow with it though. Because I tend to feel that when I go to bed angry that I wake up in a bad mood also so then it not only ruins my night but starts my day off bad also.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
My husband is having the difficulty of sleeping too when he is angry. When we have argument he is having the hard time sleeping. And he usually complains the next day that he did not get enough sleep coz i argue with him lol. It makes me feel guilty though but sometimes i cant control my anger too when there are certain things i wanna discussed with him and it turn out to be a heated argument. As much as i can i dont like arguing either. But im the type of person who easily forget things after i released my anger. It did not affect my sleeps at all.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Yes, I believe this old saying. As a matter of fact, my grandmother has told me this many times. When I do go to bed still angry or upset, I tend to wake up in a bad mood the next morning, whereas; if I go to bed happy, or at least contented and calm, I wake up feeling pretty good in the morning.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Since we were young this tought I already heard from my parents. I am so much proud of them and up until now they still remind us this. That is always good to practice to resolve a problem before going to sleep, because we never know what would happen while we sleep. And i believe that is good to sleep if your mind is at peace and clear, you will achieve the restful night.
• Malaysia
10 Oct 08
Hi Mom4Kids, agree with you. It really not a good way to have unsolved situation and bring it to bed. For me i am that kind of person too. If i have something still not solve, especially if that's related to work, i hardly get sleep. I will keep awaken automatically, and it cause me more tired who night, it also impact for following day's performance. So as you mentioned, don't go to bad angry or with issue. Thanks for your sharing and happy myloting.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Well, the Bible states that we should not let the sun go down on our wrath. It is not good for the soul to harbor resentment and frustration within. Even if I am truly not at fault, I have found it very easy to apologize and get the lines of communication flowing. It breaks the ground and most of the time, I get an apology too. Tempers fly very easily, but we must know it is not good for our health to linger in this danger realm. I guess it is because I just hate conflict and I won't have any parts of it enveloping my life. It's OK to acknowledge the emotion, but move pass it responsibly and in love. Blessings...
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes don't go to bed angry, get up go fighting..hahaha.just joking.It's kinda hard to sleep when you're in bad mood and i bet if you can go to sleep.so might as well talk about it so you can relax and have a good night sleep.although some problems cannot be resolved in one talking so you might need the whole night to fix things up.and if it does not fix it yet all night,atleast you can have a break now,have some sleep and talk about it again later.and you'll see the problem is more clearer this time,because youre so tired fighting all night(lol).
@Paula08 (33)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes, I agree too. Makes us have nightmares, or bad dream when we sleep angry or thinking vindictive.
@chinna533 (309)
• India
10 Oct 08
yes.. all of our tensions, tierdness , depression can be avoided by sleep .
• India
10 Oct 08
I am completely agreed with you as going to bed with angry mood is dangerous for health.I explain you how. If you go to bed with angry mood then you will not be able to take a good sleep and you will also get horrable dreams in night.And it is well known that for good health a lengthy and quite sleeping is very much required.So if you have any issues which makes you angry then make them clear before going to sleep or completely forget them.Thats how you will get a good sleep and healthy life.
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
yes! i agree, because it can make you bad sleep
@alena824 (376)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
It is very difficult to settle down at night if you're in a snit. Anger is a very draining emotion. It eats at you and if you can't let it go, will not contribute to your well-being. I always find that my stomach churns when I am angry and about to go to bed. If the problem cannot be resolved before turning in for the night, it will help to pray or meditate just to lighten the load or burden.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
10 Oct 08
the bible says you shouldn,t go to bed angry with your mate, because your mate could die in their sleep and you will feel bad because you was angry at them when they went to sleep.angry only robs you of your peace and your energy.it also causes you stress it not worth it.
• India
10 Oct 08
Yes. That's very much true. All the thoughts during the sleep are a reflection of what happened just before you went to bed. My teacher always used to tell me that before going to bed, think about your goals and ambitions for the life and you will be thinking about it, and wake up with fresh determination the next day. bourne
@smiley83 (1535)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 08
well, i usually hear about such stuff from my parents, friends, relatives and even my lecturers as well... they believe that, once you get to bed angry, you would grow old very fast... sometimes, when i feel really down, i would go to bed crying without anyone's notice coz i don't want anyone to feel worried about me as they have their own stuff to worry about... things that might get me upset and angry are usually stuff related to my study, boyfriend, or friends...i know it is such a silly stuff sometimes, but what can i do! Smiley,
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
i agree with you completely on this matter... i can never go to sleep when i am angry with somebody... i have to resolve it first before i can go to sleep... so i always make sure that i resolve my issues with my hubby first when i have disagreement with him before i go to sleep... otherwise, both of us will end up argueing for the whole night and have a sleepless night... take care and have a nice day...
• China
10 Oct 08
Yes ,you are right.Solve all the problem before go to bed.It is good to me.Thank to shareing experience.