Missing Friends
By leenie50
@leenie50 (3992)
United States
October 15, 2008 10:16pm CST
Hi Friends,
I've been thinking lately about many of my friends here that I haven't been in touch with recently. I've been wondering if everyone feels like I do. It seems like people just drop out for a while and sometimes even permanently. I know others have discussed this in the past, but I'm feeling very sad because I have met some really terrific people here and don't want to lose any of the friends I've made.
Of course we all have our lives outside of mylot but because I'm not in the public anymore surrounded by co-workers and others I meet along the way, I've become to depend on my friends here to communicate with. I love the stories and the concerns we share. I love the different avatars, the pictures and the silliness we allow each other to share. Is there anyone that you have missed lately and wonder where they are? Please share, because they may not know you are thinking of them. Hugs to all.
leenie4 people like this
19 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Oct 08
H[i]i leenie,
actually a lot of my friends are not anymore here for the past 2 and 3 weeks..I miss them and their participation in my post as well as our exchange of greetings and talked but I guess they have reasons also for being inactive!
I wish someday, they will be back and I know that soon, I will be working, wish that even if we are not regular here anymore, we will still see each other here and communicate!
We don't see our friends here but we really establish closeness and that is amazing![/i]
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Oct 08
hi kaleegirl, how are you? LOL! I am great and very lazy also here but trying to work each day, I just cannot stay longer! Nice to see you here and that is a great idea, meeting here every Friday! LOL!
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@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hey there checapricorn,
How are you doing? I try to be here as often but sometimes I just can't seem to think of what to say. I miss writing to all of you. I will try to be here at least once a day. I still want to be part of MYLOT family. What are you going to be doning? stay in touch. We should make friday a friends day, lets all meet here. even if it's just to say hello. 
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi Che,
I know it's tough when you are working and just living in general. But like kalee said, just pop in once a week and say hello like shelly used to do. Did you know shelly from Australia? Every morning she would pop in and just say hello to everyone. She was like a ray of sunshine. She hasn't been here for a month or more. I really miss her. I miss you too so don't be a stranger.
Hugs
leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
So spill jill. What two were kicked off? How do you know when someone has been kicked off? I've been looking for a friend and his avatar is gone from his profile. I have no idea what happened to him. He was really enjoyable to talk to.
I'm not sure, but navtech sounds familiar. How long has he been gone? Hugs
leenie
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@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hello my friend,
I've been one who comes and goes, and lately been gone for a while,I miss writing to all my friends. And as you said, lately I've been very busy and also been feeling kind of down. I don't know if it the weather or just everything in general. I will look through my email to see who has been writing or hasnt'. I've notice that you have stopped writing. I was very surprise to see your post. It very hard to get use to being at home without anyone to talk to. When I use to work, I had my friends, now that I don't work, I don't have friends outside the house. I do have my friend here on my lot and I know that if I need to talk, that all of you will be there. I may not write that often but Iknow I miss my friends here. hugs to you and MYLOT friends.
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I'm stuck at home all week and when the weekend comes around my husband is always to tired to do anything. which really burns me up. I'm being out with my sister, to parties, we have been to a nightclub, where the people are around the same age, we dance with each other and we have a good. It not like before where you wait until someone comes by and asks you to dance. I miss the good ole days. This Saturday I'm off with my sister again to a party. And not having a car doesn't make thing easier. At least if we had a car we could go for a drive. I also miss working and talking to other people. I'll look for you discussion. I hope you feel better. hugs to ya my friend
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@amanda333 (739)
• France
16 Oct 08
i've not been on here that long, but alot of people seem lovely. If i got friendly with some people, i think i would miss them if they left
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@amanda333 (739)
• France
16 Oct 08
hi
leenie, thank you for your kind comments, i've lived in France for many years now, have a lovely day, god bless
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi amanda,
It's really nice to hear from you. I don't believe you are on my friends list but I will make sure I reconcile that. It's always good to have new friends, and I hope we become good friends. I see you are from France. When I meet someone new I like to read a little about them and see where they are from. I hope along the way you will tell me about France, as I've never been there. Hugs.
leenie
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@Wyrus168 (131)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Well... there's this girl which I'd been secretly in love for 3 years... she's my best girl-friend, not girlfriend, though... It's been a year since I last seen her, I wish I could see her again, hug her, and tell her how much I feel about her... I just love her so much...
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi Wyrus,
Did you meet this girls here on mylot? Or somewhere else? I think you need to find her and do just what you said. I know it is risky, but what do you have to lose? She's not in your life right now so see if the possibility exists for you. She just may be wondering where you are and why she hasn't seen or heard from you as well. Life is too short. You have to make it happen. Now start searching. And make sure you get back to me on this please. I'm going to make sure I put you on my friends list so you will know where to find me. I wish you all the luck in Love.
leenie
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@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I still miss Mooch. It's not that we were online buddies or anything, but I always admired her ability to come up with different topics to start discussions with. She was a proliferate discussion starter and I enjoyed just seeing how many different things she could talk about. I'm lucky if I can think of one in a day and she would have many EVERY day.
I also miss seeing SparkofInsanity on here as much as I used to. She is bright and witty and almost always had something fun to talk about.
But, I haven't really gotten too close to anyone in particular except someone who was a friend before she joined me here.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi jerzgirl,
I just requested you as a friend. We have a few friends in common. I miss a couple of my friends that only they could keep me coming back. That's not exactly what I mean. They were special and loved a lot of the sames things I did. but everyone here has so much to offer and it is difficult not to have those few special friends, right? Well, I look forward to hearing from you and seeing what makes you who you are.Hugs
leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
subha,
It looks like you have been around a long time by the looks of you number of posts and responses. I'll bet you've seen a lot of people come and go. I realize we can't keep track of everyone, but there are always a few you don't forget.
leenie
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Hi Leenie!
Haven't seen you around here too much. I've been wondering how you are as well. Hope things are okay there.
Yes. there are some people here who have permanently moved on to God knows where and I miss them and wish I had gotten their personal email or something. Sigh. I'm just hoping that one of these days they'll be back here.
Hugs to you.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I know... We might not be in the same discussions too often. Oh well. Don't worry. I'll be looking out for you.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi rose,
I see you around but we never seem to connect. I think the problem is that I spend all my time responding to others posts and only see my friends in passing. I think I'll have to post a little more often. Thanks for thinking of me. I was hoping this post would round up some of my friends. I think emails would help a lot with some you really feel close to. If I ever decide to take a break or leave, I promise to let my friends know. Hugs
leenie
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
16 Oct 08
iam sorry you have lost contact with your friends but iam annjilena and iam a mylotter here i look forward to your discussion
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi annjilena,
Thanks for joining in. I look forward to hearing from you and reading some of your posts as well. When I finish here, I wpuld be happy if you would join my circle of friemds. As they say, you can never have too many friends. I look forward to knowing more about you.
leenie
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@ellie333 (21016)
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16 Oct 08
Hi Leenie, I understand what you are saying here completely, I myself haven't been as active lately but many of what I calll the old dinosaurs do seem to have done a disappearing act and it is very sad, some pop back from time to time, others perhaps never will, I tend to accept that and move on and make new friends but in hope that the old crowd will return. I hope some of your old friends come back for a while. I got myLot burnout once and stayed away for about a week as I was so tired and so worried about not being able to catch up with everyones discussions but now I just switch off if I am tired and return refreshed the following day and accept I am human and can't answer to all. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21016)
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16 Oct 08
Hi Leenie, I think I am going to do what you do a choose a friend each day and answer every post as I have got so far behind and I don't want any feeling like I am neglescting them but at the same time I try to answer to new users to give them encouragement and hot topics too. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi ellie
I think it is the hardest when like you said the old timers just leave. I wish they could judt say a farewell post. I don't think they realize how much we care and worry about them. I agree, we need to move on and make new friends. Burn out is something we all experience, so that we understant. I've decided that if I choose to break away for more than a couple days, I will say so, so that people won't worry. Something else I've started doing, is going down the list of posts from my friends and choosing one or two posts to respond to. I can't do them all and still have time for myself. Hugs
leenie
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@freefogging (356)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I haven't seen my regulars around either, I wondered what happened to them all. But there are always people to talk to and discussions going,so that's ok. I disappear from this site sometimes because I have a wriring job on another site. Maybe that's where my friends went, I hope so, there are some good writers in here and some good writers sitedaround.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
hi freefogging,
Interesting user name. Yes there is no shortage of discussions that's for sure. I suppose I could delve deeper into all the topics and so on, but I also want to make sure I have time for my friends that stay close. That is why I haven't joined another site. I remember a while ago, someone mentioned a new site and a few were going to check it out. I thought about it, but I was still trying to learn all the ins and outs of mylot. I really wonder how people are able to do so much here and other sites. So free, what kind of writing do you do? I was once asked here if I was interested in doing some writing. I seriously thought about it but didn't have enough confidence in myself, I guess. stay in touch. I'd love to read some of your posts.
leenie
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@frankiecesca (2489)
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16 Oct 08
I try to pop in once a day but I too know what you mean about some who are not seen for long periods of time and then suddenly pop back up!! x
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Always nice to see you frankie. I know it's difficult to be herre everyday for a lot of people, with work and everyday chores and other interests. But once you join mylot, people get attached to their friends and when they are gone, we get worried. I'm sure that sounds silly to some, but that is what mylot is for me. A little money here and there is nice, but friends are what's important. Hugs
leenie
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@calyxus (825)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
yeah, how sweet of you leenie! i do hope i can make friends with you guyz... you know, i'm some kind of a loner in the outside world, but i try to be very friendly over the internet, and i want to make friends with as many people over the world. well, i miss my family. i havent gone home since june after i went to school. School's a bit far away from home you know.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi and welcome calyxus,
As you will find out soon, we have a great way of connecting with people here without making you feel comfortable. It's amazing how mylot brings the need for friends out. I really enjoy not only relating to people here but enjoying everyones differences. We all have so much to share. The more people you make as friends the more at home you will feel. Consider yourself one of my new friends.
leenie
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@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I miss some of friends especially those who were my friends in high school or in my hometown. They all mean so much to me since they made my life great during those growing days. I am just happy that we still communicate even through social sites on the net.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
nengs,
The important thing is to maintain that connection any way you ca. If you see them in social sites or on the net at least you have not lost them. We don't have to see or hear from our friends everyday to stay connected. It's when we try to locate them and can't, it becomes sad and feels like something is missing. Hold on any way you can.
leenie
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@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
18 Oct 08
You're reading my mind. In fact, you're definitely one of the people I miss most. We English teachers figured out the time we have to put in for extra paperwork with the latest government mandates, and it's a minimum of 12 hours a week. Added to the incredible pain from my jaw injury, I can't keep up with anything. Finally, late yesterday, Workers' Comp. made a final refusal to pay for treatment, which we'll take to court, of course, but my lawyer got my regular insurance to agree to cover it, and they, too, will go after Worker's Comp. It was too late to set up anything until Monday, but I'm sure now that it will be soon, with better care, that I finally get "repaired". Then I can go back to almost a normal life, and bein a myLot junkie again!
Loved the Ben Stein thing, did everyone in my address book! Thanks.
Much love,
Joanne
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
19 Oct 08
The case managers and adjustors won't even talk to a patient, so you have to have a lawyer. How I wish I were getting thin, but I've never been so fat! The doctors are concerned about nutrition, so I have to drink several Boosts a day, and they're HIGH in calories. I haven't actually eaten since August, so I do what they say about nutrition. I dream about salads!
Please keep in touch on myLot and off.
Love,
Joanne
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Hey Sweetie,
I've really been thinking of you a lot lately. I cannot believe how workman's comp. is trying to deny you. They did the same with me when I worked for the bank in the early ninties. I had to have two surgeries on my wrist and elbow due to my job. They fought me so hard. Then the bank wouldn't give me my job back. I fought them while taking care of my terminally ill husband. I didn't have a lawyer but I won anyway. I was so proud of myself. Today, I would not even think of going without a lawyer.
I can't imagine the pain you are in. are you getting skinny? You take care sweetie and we'll be in touch.
Love leenie
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
16 Oct 08
There are a few that I have noticed not being on here for awhile and I have wondered if everything is ok with them, I hope so.. I haven't been doing as much on here as I used to but am now getting back into the swing of things and hope to see all of the old friends posting again.. You do get into the habit of "chatting" with all of the people on here and you do get a group of friends who you can "hang out" with and chit chat back and forth, so you miss them when they are no longer posting.. Maybe with the winter months coming up before long everyone will get back down to business and start posting again.. Have a great evening leenie..
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hi Donna,
Good to see you. It's really nice to be able to see people you've come to consider friends. Even though most of us have never met, it's the personality coming through, not what we look like. Rember the words pen pal? I guess that is what we are.
You have a point about the Winter months. Thanks for the encouragement.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hey leenie! Well I miss you for one! I'm sorry that I
haven't written in awhile! Been having alot of stuff
going on, but I'm always here until the early morning
hours trying to make some extra money to pay some bills.
Don't want to get into stuff here, but will write to
you offline about what's been going on. Still no Shelly?
Have you heard from her about her Dad? I do hope he's
ok. She hasn't signed on in a month. I checked her
profile yesterday. Has she been in touch with you since
the last time? I am quite concerned about her. It's
really strange for me since we had gotten pretty close
and now I don't hear from her at all. Makes me feel very
sad. Well, I will be in tough with you offline so we
can catch up!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hey Sweetie!!
Yes you are definately one I've been missing. Still no Shelly. I really miss that little ray of sunshine. I haven't heard a word. I wish she would just drop a little line to one of us. Just to let us know she's ok. I know you are busy, and I look forward to getting an email from you. I will also write.Hugs
leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Hey Chevee,
It's frustrating because you don't know what has happened to them. I don't want all of you to wonder or worry if I decide to take a break. I'll let you know. I had one guy that we connected with on a few subjects and he just suddenly is not there. His Avatar is gone. His discussions and responses are still there. I hope he comes back. I'm glad you responded. Thanks.
leenie
