Do you correct your friend's mistake?

@sivanj (1263)
India
October 20, 2008 12:32am CST
Everyone does mistakes and we all know that to err is human. It may be your boy friend or girl friend. But being a friend there is one duty which i am talking about. If a friend does a mistake in front of your eyes or you learn about that it becomes your duty to correct them. I have done it several times. We used to get into strong arguments and quarrels. But you know now a days we are close to each other because my friend feels that i am there to care so much for his good living. Do you correct your friend's mistake? How many times have you corrected your friend's mistake?
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@omar0913 (942)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Oct 08
Correcting your friends mistakes is part of your friendship, without a concern, one can never be called as friend. In our lives we look for someone or a group or any persons work, to look for guidance, and that knowledge gave us the abilty to share it to others who are we concerned with. Guiding a friend strenghten the relationship and keep the bind tighter. Take Care my friend....
• United States
21 Oct 08
I do and I see nothing wrong with that unless you start to act like their mother or father. They might say or do something you dont agree with, so you'll just naturally help if they're true friend.
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@felher08 (195)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Mistakes can always be done by anybody. Some mistakes need not be corrected if they are done due to forgetfulness. There are mistakes done intentionally to hurt others. This I react for correction. Intentionally done to hurt the feelings of others becomes morally wrong. Happy mylotting!
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
22 Oct 08
We only correct m istakes of people whome we care about, and friends come very much in that category. If we keep turning a blind eye to our friends faults, then we are sadly lacking in our duty. We may hurt the friend in that process, but then ultimately it settles down. Actually we should do it quite tactfully so as to hurt that person to the least and still make him see sense.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Only if it was dangerous to them to not fix it, otherwise, other than pointing it out, if it is truly important, I would try to step back. I feel that mistakes are for a reason as they are lessons.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Hi sivanj, Yes, I do correct my friends mistakes. I correct my boyfriend all the time. He uses words incorrectly and it drives me crazy. I have been trying to tell him over and over the right way to use a word and he still can't get it after over a year of my telling him. I am only doing it to help him and he knows hit. I am not trying to be mean or make him look dumb. I just want him to learn. But, it just isn't working and it drives me insane! But, I keep trying anyway. I will to it to my friends that I know won't take offense. I wouldn't do it to someone that I know can't help it and won't learn anyway. I am not trying to hurt anyones feelings.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
Well I've lost count ha ha. But I know my friend asked me, specifically, to go with her when she was getting her eyebrows tattooed on, she is of the fair hair variety, because she knew that I would be right in there, making sure that it was penciled on correctly before the did the actual "inking". And yes, there was a few mistakes, one line was a TAD longer than the other one, there was an odd bump, etc etc. So I made sure that was corrected before she went under the needle. I myself thought she was crazy for getting it done, because that would be directly on her bone, where it will hurt the most. THANKFULLY, they put numbing cream on that spot for a good 15 minutes before she went in the ink room.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
21 Oct 08
It depends on the kind of mistakes. If it's a matter of grammar and such things, I do not correct people, but if it is something that I know will bring harm to them - either physically, mentally or financially, I will say something. As a general rule, however, I usually try to stay out of other people's business.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
21 Oct 08
a true friend doesnt sit back idly and watch a friend go headlong into disaster without doing something. they will tell you when youve got food stuck in yer teeth, they will be honest and say yes yes, those jeans make yer a55 look like it belngs to a cow, and they will clock you square in the mouth when you get out of line or head into self destruction. so yes.. being a good friend i will stand up and slap them around if necessary..and they do the same for me. not only do i expect it.. i demand it.
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@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
21 Oct 08
For me it would depend on the mistake and the circumstances surrounding it. I wouldn't like everything I said or did to be negatively spoken about in front of people. If it was a direction, or a fact of history, etc. then I may say "you know I think that was really.. this". But when you come down on people in front of other people it can make them feel badly - and badly toward you too I think. So it would depend on what was happening for me.
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@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
21 Oct 08
When I can I will corect friends, but sometimes friends are not really that grateful, heck I have a friend that is no longer a friend because once I said no
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
21 Oct 08
i think being a friend it is our duty to guide them whenever they require and to help them whenever they need it and correct them whenever they are wrong. i know may be your friend will not like it but they will surely understand later and morever being a friend we have and they have full right to correct each other and it is really important that we do it. there are chances when we go in a wrong way and if our friend stops us and tell it is wrong then there is no any mistake of our friend and it is good that they guide us. what they do is for our good. might be i have stopped my friends in doing something wrong and now all my friends are far apart from me and i really miss them and i have a very few friends now and we always discuss what to be done and what not to be done.
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• United States
25 Oct 08
Once I corrected a friend who used the verb "envelop" for the noun "envelope." From the expression on her face, I knew I'd gone too far. However, most friends accept corrections and sometimes even appreciate it.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
21 Oct 08
I'm absolutely agree with you. A real friend always correct his or her friend's mistake. For the sake of courtesy who does not correct his or her friend's mistake he or she is not a good friend. On the contrary he or she is dolng harm to his or her friend.To prevent from wrong doing and to keep right path is also sign of real friend. I also correct my friend's mistakes. But can't say how many times.You are not only a good friend , but also a good person.
@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
20 Oct 08
yes. i would and of course the choice of word is very important as we do not want to mean anything disrespectful or offensive to our friends. but since we are friend, there is nothing to hide about and we can be frank with each other. true friends will not be too disturbed or have the relationship destroyed over this
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@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
22 Oct 08
I see the types of mistake he has done, is it going to harm or hurt someone. Mistake is intentional or unknowingly. I take the right apprach the mistakes, not too aggresively.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Oct 08
well i guess depending on what kind of mistakes she does ..sometimes if its too personal and her life is being affected already..then i had to keep silent unless she will solicit my opinion on the situation...i guess for me i have no right to correct or say something ...
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
[i]Hello sivanj, Yes, I correct my friend's mistake because I care and love them. It's really hard how to approach and tell them, but I need to do it anyway. Indeed, it's hard for them to accept it but eventually he/she will realize that it's for their own good. I always do it and I will continue doing it. Regards. [/i]
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
21 Oct 08
if i feel that my friend is not doing the right thing, i will bring it to their attention. it's good to remind each other to do the right thing amongst friends. i don't really tell them they are wrong. i'll just let them know what i might do in the same situation. no one is perfect, much less me. so i don't think my way is definitely the right way. cheers
• Malaysia
21 Oct 08
I think correcting our friends mistake will help them and help ourselves also. Of course we don't want our friends to repeat the same mistake again. By telling, them we are helping them to improve and be a better person. I don't mind my friends correct me, as long as they tell me properly. I will correct my friends mistake when there a no so many people around. I don't want my friends to get embraced.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Oct 08
we correct each other's mistakes.that what good friends do.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Do you mean small mistakes like incorrect spelling or words? Or do you mean big ones that can get your friend in trouble. I would certianly do the correction then. But for small mistakes i usually just enjoy the things that make my friend different. Most people don't like to have their small errors pointed out to them.