Child Support

@CatEyes (2448)
United States
October 21, 2008 8:23pm CST
Ok, my ex (very very abusive) just cut my phone off due to me not "servicing him?? and now I still have not received my child support. I was supposed to get it on the 15th and I can only think that he told he accounting people to hold it and then send it in to the county clerks office. Every month I have been receiving the check on the 15th via the debit card they give you, with only one glitch, which he caused on purpose! How can I reoport him when he it telling his accounting people to do this, tells me but it is not a month late, just several weeks. Aggggg. It's not like I am a horrible person..I realy need the money for our son; he has to go to the dentist ASAP and he is 6 with pain. I keep putting oragel on it to help, but he needs to go to a dentist. My ex just does not care!
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Oct 08
You need to get tough on this guy and the the people at child support as well. Visit your welfare office and see if maybe you might qualify for free dental & health care for your son. There are many programs to help single parents like yourself. I know how very hard it is. I raised 4 on my own. My ex was also very abusive. The key is to work your way to a position of not relying on him for a dam thing. my ex also withheld child support so much. I somehow learned to survive without it. I still have my youngest at home and I don't get a dime in child support.....I went to court and signed papers dropping his child support obligation. My daughter is a teen and I work 2nd shift on the weekends. In exchange for dropping the support, he was supposed to keep track of her whereabouts and give her rides if needed....etc, etc. Of course that lasted only until the ink was dry on the paperwork. Weeks pass and she does see nor hear from him.
@CatEyes (2448)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I feel for you. I am sorry for the situation you are too. I wish mine would just leave me alone and forget everything. He uses our son to hurt me a lot.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
You can threaten him with legal action if he doesnt pay you child support. Im sure he's gonna pay up after that. After he pays you, why dont you get a job if you dont have one, even a part time job. This will surely help you financially. So that apart from the money your ex gives you, you will have money left for yourself and for your son.
@CatEyes (2448)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Well, to put a long story short..I am disabled. I worked for 10 years and now recv disabilaty. I realy would rather work if I were capable, but between 3 doctors and parents and several friends who would kill me if my ilness did not if I went back to work. It would solve most of my problems, yes, but it is not an option for me.:(
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Child support is such a hot topic these days. I know that there are a lot of deadbeat parents out there who don't pay. Be thankful that he does pay you. I would contact the clerks' office and see what is going on. My husband is on the other side of this. He pays his child support faithfully and hasn't seen his son in almost 2 years. He has taken his ex to court and tried to push visitation but because the child is a teen, they don't do much about it. I think that it is unfair that a parent has to pay if the child is not around unless it is just due to a large amount of distance between them. However, his son lives an hour away. It is sad!!
@tess1960 (2385)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Try to find a way to document what he is doing and then turn him in to the judge or SRS or whoever handles that in your area. I feel for you, it is hard when you depend on something that does not come.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Oct 08
CatEyes hi get some legal help and take the bas*ard to court, sue him for everything he is behind on. He will soon start sending it to you on time.He helped make your child, and he is responsible to care for him financially. he must do so or pay the consequences,that istheway the law reads. tell him to get on the ball or you will sue him for it.
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