Do you generally like people?

@Sheepie (3118)
United States
October 24, 2008 5:45pm CST
I find it hard to like people in general, at least 65% of the people around me have shown to be obvious jerks who have no point in life other than to be obstacles and point out everyone's flaws and insecurities. Is it just that I'm stuck in a high school or is this real life?
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@taripres (1499)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I generally like people! I do believe the average person has a hidden agenda, just a natural flaw we have to get over! They cant accomplish their task if we don't letm! Most people are good natured, the a..holes are the ones I can do without! Taripre$
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I think it can take time to look deep enough, and some people cause you to mistrust other ones!
@taripres (1499)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Yeah, I just try to keep enough space for awhile so I won't get caught unsuspecting! The predators look for openings to pounce on that advantage! Taripre$
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
25 Oct 08
While there are many people in real life that are as ou describe, I would not put the percentage at such a high number. Most people after school are just normal folks trying to make a living. Yes, there are jerks, but they are easier to ignore once you are out of school
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I was hoping so, but I would probably have to move, because this town is kind of known for being boring and everyone being against each other. I don't know why, I just feel this cloud of hate in the air when I'm walking sometimes, when people look at me from their cars. Either it's hormones or everyone is anti social here. I notice that I make friends with seniors more often, so usually I don't have anyone when they graduate, but they're just more mature and more tolerant much of the time.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I think most towns are that way. I lived in this town as a high school student and wasn't that crazy about the place. But, after school I moved away to the big city and could not wait to get back here. Maybe I just got used to the people here, I don't know. But, forty years later I am still here
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
25 Oct 08
I have a few problems liking people myself. I agree with you people can be jerks and they do like to point out other people's flaws to make them look bad. It was a lot like this for me when I went to school over 15 years ago. I see the same people now sometimes . Some of the same ones that picked on me for having a weight problem and now they have it. I think it is kind of funny myself. Of course I still have a weight problem but not as bad as I did back then.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Well, at least that's kind of good. I like to actually see the bad karma happen, it doesn't satisfy me to know that the jerks only "probably" will have it bad at some point.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
25 Oct 08
I understand how you feel. I hated to go to school belive me I hope things get better for you.
• United States
24 Oct 08
I like how you put that "Is it just that I'm stuck in high school or is this real life?" Im pretty sure its real life, though I cant be positive, I like persons, just not people so yeah... it is kinda annoying though... and you have to wonder, why does it seem like everyone is like that? I mean I know I am to someone else (I know I'm very annoying...) so what creates that brain pattern in everyone?
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I think that it depends on the area. Maybe some people are just so annoying people have been exiled and sent to live here in New Jersey!
@MinruWind (194)
• United States
24 Oct 08
Same thing for me, it's hard to like people generally. Maybe it's because I rarely talk to people I don't know, but some are really obnoxious people, sadly. There are others I know that cause trouble for the fun of it and to annoy people, and there are some that are just plain rude. :P So yeah, it's a real life situation, so I guess I'll have to get used to it.
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I think that when you don't really talk to people that much, it really is harder. Rude people make it very obvious that they're obnoxious, but you have to kind of look a little deep to find the good stuff from the good people.
• India
9 Nov 08
I don't think all the people around us are jerks.I am not a cynic at the same time I always keep a distance with my neighbours.I am of the opinion that good fence makes good neighbours.I don't ususally involve in the affairs of others so do others.But at the same time are very helpful in times of need.Even if I am acrimonious to someone if he needs my help I would do the needful.So are they too.People who finds fault with others are those who have no jobs or nothing to do anything constructively.I don't usually give ear to gossip mongers.They find enjoyment in blaming others and being pessimists.
@balasri (26549)
• India
9 Nov 08
There are only few people I like.And most of them are here in Mylot.
• India
1 Nov 08
Hahaha, Well ur not stuck in highschool. all the other people are. Lol. Becasue the same is there with me. I also have a ton of people behind me who are big time jerks. Well what can i do about it also? You cant. Well i dont seem to like people in the first go be it anything or anywhere. Well i dont get along people also very fast. Becasue if you do get to know them soo fast, you tend to loose alot in life too. Well anywyas happy mylotting :P
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Well generally yes I do like people, unless the person shows me that there unkind or rude and untrustworthy, but I usually try to give people the benefit of the doubt before I dismiss them, and I consider myself a pretty good judge of character, and I normally pick up peoples energy pretty quick and if they give me any hint of negative behavior or vibes I just dont hang with them anymore but, generally I like people, in fact I love people, I just dont like some peoples behavior.
@cripfemme (7714)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but a lot of people discriminate against me as I'm in wheelchair. High school is not the best place to judge humanity by the way. I can assure you life gets better after this period of life.
• United States
25 Oct 08
as long as i don't have to deal with them in a business enviroment,yea for the most part.but in a worker---customer setting,no i don't. waiting on people sucks cause people seem to use that as an excuse to pick on somebody that can't fight back if they need their job.
• Nigeria
25 Oct 08
I find it easily to like people because they are created by God and they have potentials. For every word they speak, at least they aspeak sense sometimes, so i would want you to like people whoever they are.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
25 Oct 08
I try to be positive so I see something positive even in people whom I don't like but I do try to avoid those who are complete jerks. © ronaldinu 2008
• Australia
25 Oct 08
I don't like to be around people in general. They're hard to understand and it simply feels uncomfortable. Especially when you're not much of a talker and people expect a certain behaviour, like showing friendliness and getting appropriate responses. Too tiring to try to match whatever norm is expected with certain groups of people.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
25 Oct 08
Uh, yeah that's real life. It's good that you're realizing this now instead of being deluded and finding out the hard way. I really don't generally like people. Recently, a pretty good friend of me and my husband's totally flaked out and went psycho on us, stabbing my husband in the back in the process. I was like, "This is why I don't have a lot of friends." People always say...oh, you need friends...you need family. Whatever. Friends and family give me nothing but problems. This is why I only have a very small group of close friends who I know I can trust and ironically most of those friends live all over the country and not close to here. That doesn't really bother me. I've never been much of a people person because most of my experience with people involve them crapping on me and me having to take it.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
25 Oct 08
Real life often feels like one gigantic highschool. Personally I am not a huge fan of people. I work in a place that really has that highschool fish bowl feel to it and it drives me crazy. It's way too social and everyone knows everyone's business and gossip. I hate it; love my job, but hate the place of. You get to know your co workers far too well this way and that isn't healthy. I'm by no means a genius but I seem to come across more stupid people than not and it drives me crazy. They're everywhere! I also meet a lot of self centered people who are only there for themselves, I work with lots of those as well. And liars. I'm not a fan of liars. All in all I have a few good friends and of course my family and fiance, but I tend to be pretty withdrawn and a little anti social.
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I don't want to say I don't really like people because that is not true. But I am extremely cautious when it comes to meeting new people.It is true that i'd say about 75% of the people in this world at jerks.I have been hurt time and time again by people that I cared about and thought to be friends. So I definitely keep my guard up.
25 Oct 08
Hi Sheepie, Many young people are like that, but as you get older people change, I have many groups of people around me and they are never nasty to each other, always kind to one other, but for now just move on to people who better person than those around you. Tamara
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
25 Oct 08
I think a high school is a microcosm of real life, Sheepie. You'll always find the same sort of people, whether it's in the workplace or at school. There's always a jerk (or a few of them), a poser, the 'cool' group, the loser ... they all have a place, I suppose. I don't like people in general, either. They usually end up doing something which I can't accept, including being cruel to animals, littering, gossiping about stupid celebrities - I'm happy to be a bit of a loner.
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
25 Oct 08
My partner has the same problem. She tries to be nice but it doesn't seem to work. She generally dislikes everyone because everyone our age is just so immature anymore and everyone below us is too. Of course we're in a college setting so it sorta makes sense. I on the other hand try to be nice to everyone and in the end hate the stupid people just as much as she does. Sometimes it gets better but other times the stupid just gets worse. You'll make it though. Ignore them as well as you can and it'll all work out.