where do you prefer your parents stay when they grow older?

I prefer to let my folks make the decision to stay with me or one of my siblings if that is what they want to do. My parents are very independent. They may very well decide to stay on their own as long as they can. There will come a time, however, that they will require more advanced medical attention than I'm capable of handling by myself. I hope that I will be able to afford to have a nurse come by each day, or a couple times a day, to provide their medical needs. I observed the life, or what was left of it, of my grandmother in her final year. She wasn't able to leave her bed at the nursing home and had tubes stuck in her arm and nose. Rarely was she lucid enough to communicate with us. When she did, she usually was in a time in her past. We, her grandchildren, no longer existed because she was reliving a time before we were born. I hope she was comfortable and never aware of what had happened to her. It may sound awful to some but I hope my parents die before they reach that state of deterioration. I, myself, would rather die quickly of a massive hear attack than to wither away in a bed. Took a real downer of a topic turn didn't I? That is something to consider as well as all of the many more good aspects of having your folks live with you. On the spot babysitters for the grandkids, pet sitters too. Extra hands to help out around and outside of the house. Mentors and teachers for the grandkids, as well as us adults.;)

In china,most children would like their parents to live with them when they grow older and it does so. Honoring and Supporting parents when they grow old is the obiligation for us and regarded as the most important virtue of one's personality in chinese cultrue. For me ,I would persuade my parents to live with me so that I can take good care of them and kown it for instant if they didn't feel well.

at my home. i like to look after them. I know when we are young, parents never left us at mercy of others, why should we? when w egrow up and parents grow oild, w eforget these.

my house of course...i see no other place for them to stay..they have been very good to me and my children so i think it is just proper and the only way i know ..they will stay with me and my family as long as they like so that i can take care of them...and so that they can be with my kids longer.

I would rather my parents stay with me. This is for the simple fact that they have told me they do not wish to finish their final years hear on earth in a nursing home. They would prefer to have the closeness of family and friends surrounding them. I agree one hundred percent. You should enjoy your family while you have them.

In the US it's really also the parents' choice. Many older people want to be independent. My parents would be welcome in my home but I know they took out an insurance policy that would cover care in some kind of an elder facility because they didn't want to be a burden. I would offer, but I would let them make the choice.

I would love to care for my father and mother in law when they grow old but would at the same time see that they dont interfere in my life. Both have a tendency to put in there suggestions and ideas even when not asked to. They have a tendency to keep irritating people for no reason. This i think is the reason why no home helper stays for more than a month at our home. If they keep calm then surely there would be no problem with them staying with us otherwise i would prefer to stay away from them.

i grew up in hawaii where there were different cultures, so the traditional asian culture where they live with their parents. my family personally, my grandparents and my parents both live on their own. when i was little both my grandmothers had their own place and thats how it was. my grandmothers house was bigger then mine since i lived in an apartment. but most of my friends had a house with their grandparents living with them, and thats how they were. i think if i had the means and my mother needed to live with someone then i wouldn't mind. right now my mom and sister and living together since my sister hasn't found a place to stay on her own and it is cheaper to stay with my mom. i know in some traditional japanese families that when you get married you move into the grooms house. some people are just like that.

As much as I like my mom to stay with me but I live a nomadic life. Again my mom does not like to stay in any one of her 10 children for long as she prefers to live in her own house where we can all come and visit her anytime we want. She is happy staying the place she has fond memory of. Now she is 74 years old she is still strong and going and does not see any problem with her health except for her palpitation. She is self dependent with a live in assistant to care for her. Ofcourse that does not mean we are not responsible but thats what she wants, a quiet life in her own house.

hi, I thought about this in the past and here in my country and culture we do not really let our parents stay in a home for the aged. Our culture is so into about that close family ties that even when the children have their own families, they would still care about their parents, well I think we are from the same country because of what you said. (Which now that I think of it as I write, we are) Now what I would do is that when they grow old I would take care of them in my own house with my own family, I just can't think of just letting my parents be fed and be taken care of by people that I don't not know. I would personally have that burden to take care for them when they grow old because that's what they did. And because I love them that's why I will not want them to just grow old in some place. Happy mylotting!

A traditional filipino parents do live when they got old on their"BUNSOI"(youngest child).My parents are now living with my younger brother now.I'm hoping that my parents would stay with me here in Manila but they are not comfortable with the life and climate here.They are still looking for an environment that they are used.I can't force my parent to stay with me.

when my parents are old?? I wouldnt prefer they stayin anywhere? like a retirment house or home for the aged or anything like that. Dude, i would keep my parents with me in my own house. Wher ei can take care of them when they are old and all. I wouldnt ever let them get any trouble to them. Common ya. They took care of me when i was a small kid. They gave me every necessity in my life. They solved my probs. Why would i trouble them by keeping them somwhere else? If my parents stay with me, i know i will be honoured alot. well i know i would be. Well anyways thanks for a nice discussion and happy mylotting to you :)

i build a big home with many servants to care my mother. this doesnt means that i dont allow my mom to stay with me. but due to my Aims in future, i keep on roaming city to city, state to state & country to country. SO WHEN MY MOM IS OLDER, I WILL MAKE HER TO STAY IN A home with all accomodations!

Hi fellow lotter, i would definiely prefer my parents to stay with me in my house when they grow older as i can take care of them. Its part of filial piety, they raise us up and i think i should be taking care of them when they grows old. Although nowadays many people dont live with their parents, i consider myself as quite a traditional person and i will take care and live with them when they are old.

Hi friend,I want my parents to stay with me but here in our place its a custom that parents should stay with only sons as daughters are married and sent to her husbands home.My father is no more ,as he passed away just 5 months back.I want my mother to stay with me but she stays with my brother.But I bring her once in a month or twice and make her stay with me.I want my mother not to feel lonely after my father.We can never think of old aged homes for our parents.Here the bondong between the membersin a family is so close that we cant even imagine our parents staying out.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.

I let them stay at our house. Here in our country philippines, we let our parents stay as they grow older and on their retirement age. And when they wanted to stay at their own house, they may and over the weekends perhaps we can visit regularly so that they wont get bored of the same thing their doing everyday. It doesn't happened yet but its already understood that their children will take care of them.

If I had to choose between the two, I would have my parents stay with me. The ideal thing would be for them to remain in their own home where they would be the most comfortable. I believe that my parents spend their lives helping take care of me and my brothers, when they are in need of help, it is our job to care for them. We are all adults now, but they are still there whenever we need them and no distance is too great to travel if we really need them by our sides.

Hi my opinion is my parents would stay along with me.If i go to the abroad i will call to us.I would stay along with my parents whether in india or any country. After i get married i want stay with me forever and ever.So be happy.

If it is decide to me,I hope they would live with me,at least in the same city and not far from my house,so that when something happen,I can look after them more convinent.

I ll rather stayed them in the house i dont want them to be left in stay intack as possible because i know what they do to help me build my characters and stand in my own living.