I'm playing Favoritism here at myLot!

@salonga (28060)
Philippines
October 27, 2008 12:06am CST
I can't help it... I am playing favoritism here at myLot because I give special attention to my chosen friends. I love to respond to their posts first before I respond to others. Well, maybe I could feel they are doing the same to me. It makes me excited when I see their new discussions from my mailbox and it makes me sad when I can't contribute because their new topics fall out of my interest. Well, indeed... Favor begets favor or should I rather say love begets love! Do you also play favoritism here or you are just fair! What drives you?
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
27 Oct 08
hahahaha!!! Well, I hope I am one of your favorites my friend. For me, I am not sure if this is favoritism but I really like to respond to topics of friends who is always responding to me. There are times that their topics are not so interesting to me because it falls out of my interest but I just find ways to have something to say. With this you are exempted my friend because your topic is always with substance to me. hahahaha no kidding!!! am serious!!!Well, I on the notification for some of the select few in my friend's lists bu only I think 2 or 3 that I am considering as top priority to response, just go back to the others later.. hahahaha Some friends that I like their discussions, they are not always posting new topics... I have some in my notification list that I am not excited to respond to them because topic is not interesting to me. I wish you will be posting more everyday my friend... have a nice day.
@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Is it not obvious? Of course you are one of my favorites. And oh thanks for the complement! Ha!ha!ha! I appreciate it! And same here my dear...exactly I have the same thoughts and style as yours. We really are twins but I was born ahead of you! Ha!ha!ha!
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
27 Oct 08
i have favorites to. you are one of them i have one unfavorite but we'll not get into that .lol
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Well obviously you too are one of those favorites of mine. Ha!ha!ha! We can't help it! And we also have one most favorite of course. Cheers!
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@KrauseHome (33774)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Well, I do feel it is fair to respond back to your Friends discussions that they start here, and I do try to make sure and keep up with some of them, but my time on here can be so limited as well. I do feel that if I focused on just my friends who are actively posting here, that would limit me though, and make most of the New people not want to be here anymore. So I will post back to some of my Friends, start a New discussion or two as time permits, and then check out some of the other discussions as well. You can learn so much in here so I feel it is a shame to limit it to just one thing as well.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Thanks for your thoughts dear! But I'm not limiting to my chosen friends only. I also do go around and actively participate in other sensible discussions. It is just that my priority is to respond first to my favorites. I can't help returning the favors to supportive friends because they deserve it. I'm just very happy that those chosen friends always come up with sensible topics.
@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Oct 08
I guess it is just fair that we all play this game on mylot. You know, each one of us has our our friends, not just friends but special friends or maybe best friends. I so the same to my friends, and especially with the discussions my referrer, my BOF starts. Whenever I saw in my inbox her discussion, I started the day with giving my response to hers first, before going to my other friends discussions. By the way, I have much lesser time posting these days for I have less internet connection, so I make sure to finish reading and giving responses to my friends discussions through my inbox. I only read others' discussions and leave a response maybe, if I am already finished with my friends', and if there is still some time left with my office time.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
It is just fair to play favoritism. We have to return the favor of these friends who are not selfish. They give favors to me so I give back the favor to them. Whenever I have less time at myLot I also exclusively answer the posts of my chosen friends only. By the way, I'm not seeing more of your BOF these days. I've not seen new topics from her, maybe she's busy but whenever she's around I also like answering her topics.
@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Oct 08
Yes, she's been inactive for the past few weeks now. I think she's kinda busy with some other sites she had joined. But lately you know, her laptop went down and it is still under repair. I really feel bad for her. But we are still communicating through SMS. Have a nice day my friend.
@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Just send my regards to Dhangski! Tell her I miss her and I hope her laptop gets repaired soon. I'm happy for her if she found a good site! Have a nice day!
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
I guess there is nothing wrong with LOVING your friends MORE than other people... It doesn't mean you don't love them, it's just that you are wishing the BEST for the fortunate few (who happens to be your friend) more than the others... and by giving YOUR FAVOR to them...(can I include myself?) you are actually strengthening the friendship bond you've created. And honestly, I am seeing that in all of my postings here... YOU are always supporting it. I dunno how to repay your goodness but only through my heartfelt gratitude and sincere THANKS for all of your sweet actions. May God bless you always. I hope I can do what you are doing to show how I LOVE MY FRIENDS HERE and even their POSTINGS!
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Yes, Jhordie, no need to ask me to include you because I really consider you as one. And I believe there is nothing wrong with that. I am just returning the favor for these chosen friends have also been responsive and those who have given support in their own way. I'm really sad when their posts sometimes fall out of my interest and I don't know how to respond. Now to my other friends... who have not been that responsive I know and I understand that their interests maybe do not really match with mine but because they are included in my list I also try to support them however most of the time their posts really fall beyond my interest so I can't respond.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
I am really happy... OVERJOYED! Giving a reason for me to smile once again as wide as my mouth could possibly widen... LOL If there is a greater word than THANKS... I would have used it. But I guess that is the only BEST word for the moment to show how much I do appreciate YOU MAKING MY RESPONSE THE BEST HERE! so THANK YOU SO MUCH! and may God bless you and your whole family too. :)
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
I hope I am one of your favorites. Anyway I do not have favorite mylotter, but I have a favorite topic to discuss to. I also read the poster's discussion before I respond it does not depend on whether you are my friend or not.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Well to me that is what is a friend for here at myLot. I believe we gain friends here to support each other so if I noticed a friend is really supportive I also give the same support and that always starts a good friendship between us. Yes there are times I could not be really active here but for as long as I have the time and find discussions coming from good friends, I'd always find time to participate unless of course the topic is completely out of my interest and I really had nothing to share about.
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
sometimes i do that. but now i kinda bored for replying to some of my friends discussions that i decided to travel back and check older discussions of my friends.i have some favorites there before. but with sudden event, it changed.
@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Sometimes we also need good topics so even if they are our friend, if the topic is really boring it is hard to participate. Nevertheless, when a friend is really supportive to me, I always find ways and means to participate in his/her discussions no matter what. Sorry for my very late reply, but it better late than never. Thanks for participating in this discussion.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Hi friend. I can't really say that I do favoritism here. But whenever I log in my email, I always look first if my BOF (best online friend) and my close friends' discussions. But I do respond to my other friends' discussions. Specially If I find their discussions interesting or if I can contribute well on their topics. Keep myLotting. HUGZ!!!!
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Hi friend! Nice to hear from you! Oh yes, same your BOF who also gives first priority to you discussions. Of course that is but natural. I am also always giving first priority to my good friends discussion but I also response to interesting discussions of others.I think I'll be the one losing if I will not do that because that is also a way of gaining new friends here. Thanks for sharing dear!
@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
30 Oct 08
I do answer my friends topics first. But only those that attract my interest. Like you i feel sorry when I can't contribute towards posts that I am not knowledgeable about or that do not fall into my interest. I do answer other mylotter's threads who are not on my friends list. © ronaldinu 2008
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Yes, it is disappointing to see that the topic falls out of your interest. Of course you lose your chance to post and you lose as well your chance to support good friends. Thanks for sharing! Have a wonderful weekend!
@pryce_mbg (716)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
i dont play favoritism here in mylot. i hope youc don't.. hahahah..
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Ha!ha!ha! I wish too but can't help it my dear. There really are chosen friends who are response to my every discussions. Of course I also have to do the same on their discussions. It's returning the favor. Besides, their topics are always interesting. Thanks for your input. Have a nice day!
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
I turn the notification on for those mylot friends who were constantly responding my started discussions. Those constant responders are what I call my favorites, so that when I open my mailbox, I could see their new discussions and respond to them. I just hope they understand when I can't respond immediately because there are times that I'm really busy as a bee at work. Good day maam!
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
I also did that way dear. I think is is but fair. Why flood our e-mail box with notifications of non-supportive friends? I'm happy I have supportive friends like you Djoyce! Cheers!
@Hatley (161796)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 08
hi salonga I am also playing favorites here as I respond to all my friends, some four hundred, discussions first then go to hot, and todays top, then my interests , then back to my friends and back and forth. I have a lot of fun here and share and care with all the others, and enjoy mylot friends so much.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Oh you seem to be really enjoying myLot a lot as I do! Yes we have the same style and I think this style is working so well on both of us! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
I am also playing favoritism here in myLot. I think it's normal for all of us. But as muuch as possible, I prioritize the discussions from my friends. There are few times that I cannot reply to them because I do not know how to respond to their topics. Aside from that, I visit myLot sometimes only because I do not have a computer at home. Good day!
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Maybe we really cannot help it Don! I think we owe it to our supportive friends to prioritize replying to them as long as we are log in. Of course we can't be always be around here at myLot but what is important is we do respond to friends when we are around and in return they also return the favor. That is one reason why friendship is build up here.
@monimo (83)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
hhehee, it's normal right? Although I understand where you're coming from I could never do that. I literally open up mylot, and look at today's discussions, and comment ONLY on those to which I think I can either shed more light on, or that are of personal interest to me directly. I simply can not comment on all my friend's discussions, bc most of them seem either redundant or are related to things I don't have any insight on. Cheers!
@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Yeah it's normal! Oh of course there are discussions of friends who are really redundant and sometimes lacking in sense. I can't help having such kinds of friends as well but I put off my notification to such kind of friends! I hate seeing senseless topics flooding my mailbox. But my chosen friends happen to be really sensible ones. Their interests match mine and they have been consistently talking with sense so I really love them and will really keep them as my favorites. But I also do respond to others discussion because there are also so many sensible topics started by others.
@walijo2008 (4649)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I don't like to play favoritism here, but I do give special attention to my friends here, and I'll usually answer their posts first, if its something I can contribute to, but I try to be fair.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Oh how nice of you to be playing so fair to all your friends. I wish I could be like you. But I can't help it though. I can't avoid marking those friends who have always been supportive so they become my favorites and I always look forward to their discussion and I always participate in my own little way.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I think we all play favoritism at least a little bit when it comes to myLot. It is just like like life, we are drawn to people we like and who make us feel happy. I try to also check in on new users and discussions without responsed now and then just to level things out a bit.
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Well it's common to most users here although to newbies maybe this sounds strange to them but certainly as they develop good friends around they will understand what I mean. I also do check on others discussion though...that is one way of developing new friends.
@andak2007 (3230)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
yes i do love to respond to my close friends discussions...it is my way of giving back the favor,i especially like to follow around one particular friend because she is very loyal and active in my discussions and somehow we can co-relate with each other simply because we came from the same country...playing favoritism here in mylot maybe does not hurt anybody..it is even beneficial right?
@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Yes, it does not hurt anybody. Anyway, it's just giving priorities to those who also give you priorities. It's a give and take relationship! It does not mean though that you don't respond to others you only give priorities to supportive friends because they deserve such treatment. It's giving the favor where the favor is due.
@gemini_rose (16194)
27 Oct 08
I always go through whatever discussions have been set by friends and answer those that I can, but then also I try to go around and answer other peoples that I do not know and that way I spread myself around!
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Oh yes, of course we really have to go around so we can meet other people. I am doing that as well after I've replied to my chosen friends. That way... my list of chosen friends are increasing!
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
hi salonga! maybe thats why they are your friends... you are interested in them and to their discussions. i dont exactly play favorite here. i try my best to answer my friend's discussion but I think I am still missing some. have fun always
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Well sooner or later my dear as you develop close friendship around you will also play favorite! Ha!ha!ha! But I'm glad you doing your best to answer as much discussions as you could. Good for you and I wish you all the best! Thanks for sharing!
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
27 Oct 08
i didn't play favourism here... i didn't give special attention to special people here and just respond according to the post that i like and which i think i can make a contribution of... i am playing fair here... take care and have a nice day...
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@salonga (28060)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Well nice to hear from you. I am just glad that I find you most of the time in my discussions. I'm flattered coz this mean you like most of my post. Thank you lingli. Have a nice day!