spanking the kids?????

@jyaegel (161)
United States
November 10, 2008 8:36pm CST
Just trying to get everyone perspective on whether its ok to whip a child. I feel according to the bible that it is ok but I can't remember the verses that talk about scolding the child. Also I see the other side where you shouldn't with all of the people that that whipping the child to far. So what are you oppinions on whipping and what offenses should the child be whipped for. Also at that age do you start spanking the child and what age do you stop.
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@mienkoos (95)
• Netherlands
11 Nov 08
In the Netherlands spanking is illegal. You can get in really big troubles if people know you do it. But I know a lot of people still do it, simply because they've got no other way to react to the things they're child is doing. Though I'm opposed against spanking, I do understand people doing it. I think it's important to really think about why you're doing it, and if there's no other way to make the child do what you want, or don't do what you don't want. Spanking fysically hurts the child and the child won't learn anything about the reason why the behavior is not accepted by you. It could be that the child sees it as a way to control other people and will spank children at school or childcare. But although I don't have kids of my own, I work with kids and have worked with parents and know that it's hard, especcially these days, to raise them without spanking.
• United States
11 Nov 08
I find the reasons you gave full of malarchy. I was spanked as a child. My brothers were both spanked as children. My brothers spank all of their children and when my DD is old enough, she will be spanked. I knew full well what I did wrong when I was spanked. My parents didn't just walk into the room and beat me. I knew if I screwed up and I knew why I was getting spanked. It didn't teach me to hit other kids to get my way. It taught me to respect my elders and to mind and obey and be good. Those things are severely lacking in today's children. They are the most rude and selfish beings on this planet.
• United States
11 Nov 08
I think the real issue is how the Parent goes about it. The CARDINAL RULE in disciplining your children is SELF CONTROL. If you spank your children while YOU are angry, that's probably a "beating" not a spanking. In fact, you can beat a child with WORDS !! Words can hurt even deeper than blows, leaving scars upon the heart. The same God who wrote all those Scriptures about "not sparing the rod and spoiling the child" also said "The wrath of man does not work the righteousness of God" (James 1:20) and "Be ye angry, and sin not" (Ephesians 4:26) The Good Book also says the Fruit of the Spirit is "Love, joy, peace, longsuffering, patience, meekness, gentleness.....against such there is no law." However you choose to correct your child, please don't do it in Anger.
• Netherlands
12 Nov 08
I wrote I don't judge people who spank their child. It's just illegal here and I personally would avoid spanking, but I also said I understand people who spank their child. In my work I officially have to report abuse if I notice spanking, but I don't. A lot of parents eventually see that I don't judge them and want to talk to me themselves about how to avoid spanking, sometimes because they don't like the people around them judging them and sometimes because they don't like to do the spanking because they don't want to hurt their child, but simply don't have any other possibility. Together with them I try to find another way to cope with situations where they usually spank their child. I don't agree with Mystictomatoes that all children are "the most rude and selfish beings on this planet". Not spanking is not the only reason causing children to become rude and selfisch, and moreover: you don't know how many children that are rude and selfish are spanked!. I think things are to complicated to just say that spanking makes you a better person because you and your siblings do well. Other persons than you have different ways to interpret things or to cope with things like spanking and could have a problem with it. Your child could be a person that can't cope with it and could get problems, or maybe not.
• Canada
12 Nov 08
Hi, So a few years back in my civics class my teacher told us that there was a law set out regarding spanking. I don't remember it word for word but it was something along these lines: - You could only spank the child if they were between the ages of 3 and 12 - You could only hit them on fleshy areas of the body (ex. butt cheeks) - You could only hit them 3 times and in concession of each other. You had to do one hit right after the other, you weren't allowed to let it sit, you had to get it over with right away. There was a couple of other rules to go along with it but I don't quite remember. Personally I believe that spanking is okay. If your recall the Spartans from Ancient Greece would lay their children across and Altar and beat/whip them until they bled out. The children's mothers would cry out to them to encourage them to be strong. Many of the children would be killed during this time of ritual but it was a time to test a child's true strength. Now obvious this example is quite extreme but it sure goes to show how soft we are on our kids today. Today during the remembrance ceremony I witnessed some teenagers laughing and texting on their phones. I was absolutely disgusted at how arrogant the up and coming generation has grown up to be. I see it everywhere now too, so maybe if those kids did recieve more discipline when they were young this world would be a better place.
@gauthami (137)
• New Zealand
11 Nov 08
In our country spanking is common..we have to do that so that child will know what they are doing is right or wrong.if they did any mistake when they are 3 yrs old if we say not to do that he quits for sometime and later he will do it again...so if we spank him he will know that mom will spank me if i do it again...he will get some fear...thats y people spank the child we cant stop spanking child when he goes wrong...we cant say the age when we stop it lol
@laglen (19782)
• United States
11 Nov 08
I believe in spanking under the right circumstances. I spanked my daughter, always on the butt and never when I was angry. I was very consistent with her and haven't had to spank her since she was about 5 years old. She is now 14. I also would smack her mouth when she got lippy. Haven't had to do that for about the same amount of time. Now I can just give her a look and she knows I mean business! I don't believe in "hurting" kids, just getting their attention.
@neozero (171)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 08
I dunno anything about what religion says about whipping your kids but i think as a parent you should dicipline them by spanking/whipping at the righting scenarios to help them develop into a better person. To much of spanking and to little of them will spoil a kid
• United States
11 Nov 08
It's not a bad thing to do unless you beat the child to the point that they can't breath. The best age to start is probably 4 or 5 and once they get older you should only do it once in a while just to remind them that you're still the boss.
@android (895)
11 Nov 08
First of all, if you read the bible carefully you will notice that there is a lot of information in there that supports war, murder and mass massacres which I certainly don't think is right. Personally, I was physically punished while I was growing up and this doesn't just cause physical pain as a form of punishment, it also causes deep routed psychological problems, which I have suffered with as a result. Inflicting physical pain upon children will not cause them become disciplined, I believe it is wrong and I totally diagree with it. Here in the UK they have now introduced laws against it. In fact, it seems quite ironic that the law here relies upon Christianity, yet the laws they set are totally against a lot of things that the bible supports. A lot of people who physically punish their children, then get the same treatment from their children when they grow and they get hit back!
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
i dont see anything wrong in a little spanking specially if it's done to discipline a child...spanking lightly enough to get the child's attention and to make him understand that you mean business....not hitting hard---i dont believe any person has the right to do that to anyone, specially to children---yous or not---a light spanking on the butt or hand is alright, but as soon as the child is old enough to understand you well...
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
i dont see anything wrong in a little spanking specially if it's done to discipline a child...spanking lightly enough to get the child's attention and to make him understand that you mean business....not hitting hard---i dont believe any person has the right to do that to anyone, specially to children---yous or not---a light spanking on the butt or hand is alright, but as soon as the child is old enough to understand you well...
@psalmist (109)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
if the child commit a mistake it should be dealt accordingly, it should pass through due process , every offense should have a proper action. It is okey lift a hand to our children ,it is biblical, just make sure the child understands how, and why he is spanked... as long as the child stops making mistake then its the time to stop spanking....
• Canada
11 Nov 08
I only can share how my parents have discipline me. My Dad is more of disciplining me than my mom. I have tried to many whip and being scold by my Dad. When I was a kid I always makes mistake and by that I get what I deserve that what Dad always say. Sometimes Dad uses belt on me but after he talks to me. I also have tried to be tied up outside our house for the very mistake I did. I have also kneeled down with salt and worst I have a night that I can't go into the house but as it was so late Ma took me in when Dad was asleep. I also have many caring moments from my Dad, he loved me I know that but he always say not to take advantage for that as we know how he gets mad. I grow up to be respectful to my Dad and he let me saw and understand what life is and our life. I never answered him back whenever he scolded me as I know what I will get. I became of coming to church and attend activities. When I grow up as a teenager I didn't get any of that anymore but I always get scolded. That's the time I started to feel against on it because my Dad always think I do bad outside and will be like other girl at my place get pregnant so early without someone to take the responsibility or become so liberated and that I am flirting but maybe by him doing that it made me feel challenge and make him see I won't end up like that. I will marry and will give my virginity to my husband and that really happened. I never become hateful to my Dad of all the things he did instead for me it help a lot for me to grow as a mature woman at my age, to understand some of the things about life, and to be more of being strong in all the challenges and trials. But if I have my own kids. I will diffinitely not be doing the same. People are different in ways. We have our own ways to do discipline that we think is best for our kids and for me I have my own but I won't be coming too much for that as I won't know if my Kids were like I used to be. So first we should know how are kids are with that we will know what to do in disciplining them.