Are women really better listeners or better talkers ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 15, 2008 4:54pm CST
So often I have heard it ,it has become cliche ,"women are better listeners" ,"men dont listen "," men dont like to talk " and often from the lips of women who beleive that they there is a communication problem with their men.Why is this so ,is it that men are too busy to talk ? or do they see talking with their women as a waste of time ?.Could the communication channels be more opened if the women spoke about thing that interested the man such as sports ?.Should women have the responsibility to find out about sports and more male-centered interest so she can improve her relationship with her man ?.What about the reciprocal of that ?- should men do likewise ? .Is it possible too that in getting a man talking about sports he will be more willing to open up and talk about his feelings ,which is what women are always complaining about ?.Do you think most men see talking about their feelings as a feminine activity ?
With all of the talk about talking and listening ,and even more important question needs to be answered and that is who makes changes when the other person suggests it.Since it is a widely held view that most men dont listen ,then it follows that there are unlikely to hear about the change in the first place and wont know to make them.However ,could it also be that women just like to talk and listen but slow to make changes .What if a man asked his woman to watch football with him ,she would hear but would she act accordinly ?.Similarly if the woman asked her man to watch Lifetime with her would he do it ? but how can he when he is not a good listener - maybe he just didnt hear lol.So who is to blame for the cliche ?
What is your experience in this hotly debated issue ?.
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15 responses
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
16 Nov 08
OH NO i do not agree. i think women are great talkers and very rarely listen when they are amongst themselves. They keep bragging and do not give the other women a chance to talk. Yers when a man is workignand busy they will keep talking and expect him to listen. How can he lsiten when he is busy. Men don't listen specially whenthey know that the woman is going to nag.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
16 Nov 08
For every circumstance and for every person there are different actions and reactions.
Women can be good listeners at times at other times endless talkers..but equally the same I have known some men that never shut up..They talk endlessly too..
While women tend to talk about others and things..men tend to talk about themselves and their likes and egos.
Men can be good listeners but tend to love to listen more when it's something about them or their work ..
Women tend to listen when it's about others
THis is my opinion.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I spend a lot of time with men and I am married. I do find that most of them do like to talk. They like to talk about what they like to talk about, but often don't listen sometimes when others want to talk. I have also noticed that men tend forget things that they are told. It is not known weather or not they just were not listening when they were told things, or if they actually forgot. I do know that the portion of the brain where memory is located is smaller in men than in women. That is not an insult but is actually scientific fact. That is why men may have forgotten an argument, or saying something mean to their spouse or significant other, but the woman will never forget it. So becareful what you say to us guys. If you hurt our feelings we will remember that for a very long time.
@23uday (2997)
• India
16 Nov 08
Hi frnds,
are women really better listener or better talkers?
Yes,the womens were maximum better talkers.some times they will be a better
listeners they better listeners and better talkers in the world of women.
The womens always a good talker and gives a responsilibity.
the womens were responsibility womens.
@laineyjavier (74)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
i also thought of this before. it's just a matter of understanding each other. we have lots and lots of differences. a real man is more on actions and a woman :) is more on talking. it is true, that's why some men don't listen because they're already fed up with that. words from their mom, sisters, etc.... it's stressful for them. they see women as their moms, picture this scenario: a guy asking for his mother's help about his relationship with his girlfriend. do u think they would do that? cry in their mom's arms? haha. some may be like this but what do we think of them? "mama's boy" right? they're really not that emotional so they don't listen that much to keep and make themselves strong. that's a man's ego.
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@monudjn (17)
• India
16 Nov 08
Wow! one more topic on Men Vs Women. How does it matter who is speaking or who is listening. As long as we are a good speaker there is alwasy a good listener.
Coming back to Men vs Women question God (or whoever) has created two different categories which is Not replaceble.....There are many things which women only can do NOT men. Also there are equally many things only men can do..so no offence please. If we cannot share our shoes we can atleast console ourselves about the size of the shoes.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
16 Nov 08
Some women are good at listening and some talk far too much. Everyone is an individual. Very few men listen to women but they listen to other men. Men and women often have different interests but not always. Some women like sports and some do not. I have tried to develop an interest in sports since I met my partner and I now watch AFL, rugby union, rugby league and cricket.
Women are considered good listeners because they are more likely to listen to people's problems and that is what makes them good counsellors. Mothers listen to their children and help them through the bad times. This is where the phrase comes from.
Some men talk about their feelings, some think it is a sign of weakness to even admit they have any. We are all different and this is definitely not something you can generalise about.
Relationships require good communication from both partners. Both men and women need to be able to talk to each other about their problems, their desires and their fears. In patriarchal societies you will find some men who will not even want to talk to a woman unless it is to get her into bed.
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
16 Nov 08
it's hard to tell.i can only tell you that as a female,i am better at listening than talking.and i consider myself a good listener rather than a good speaker.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
16 Nov 08
If it comes for their family well being ,then they are good listeners.And if it is loose talk,then they cant be outbeaten as a good/great talkers.Where they get that stamina,I really wonder!
@suzzy3 (8342)
•
16 Nov 08
Hi I think it boils down to the fact that we are different men and woman i mean.My husband and father talk to me about everything and everything and are interested to know if I am happy and if I am worried about anything. Now my husband is very friendly with a chap at work and they spend hours talking over problem they might both have and I am lucky in the fact I have female friends I discuss my worries with and they discuss things that worry them and we all try to help each other out, I have male friends I discuss problems with and they with me.I think the thing is men don't see things as problems the same as his girlfriend does and gets over things quicker it is how they are programmed,I have still been very upset about things and my husband just cannot understand ,if its over its over he says forget it.The female of the race is more sensitive as a rule and most men just want a quite life .I think it goes no deeper than that.xxx
@sunshine4ever (11)
• India
16 Nov 08
According to me Women are better Talkers. When will they listen to others? I am confident that Women are More, more, more of Talkers, even anyone is not interested in listening. Women is born to talk and we are born to listen! At least we(Men) will listen to some, but women will never. No prejudiced statement from me. Everything is my hard experience!
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 08
I do not think this to be strictly true. Maybe it also depends on culture, religion, and upbringing.
Women are better listeners? Hmm...my spouse rarely listen to what I have to say and this occurs once in a few years. When I tried to say something she would cut me off. She rarely waited for me to finish off what I had to say before speaking. When I explained about something she would not listen, asking me about the same thing a few minutes or hours later. She wanted everything to be done according to her wishes. After meeting someone else she went into phases of giving monosyllabic answers and the above behaviour.
So now I tend to keep quiet.
