Does a person's star colour influence the way you act towards them?

I rate my friends positively too mimpi; but I also rate every person that responds to me with effort positively as well! Some of the people I most enjoy interacting with have very low star ratings and it's usually because they stand strongly behind their convictions and couldn't care less about their popularity levels because of it. You gotta admire that! I am just me really and my star is my star. Yes I seem to interact more with people that have red and blue stars than I do with the lower ratings on a day to day basis; but again I do feel that it just so happens that the people I have become close to are just being themselves also and THEIR star is their star regardless of the colour it may be. (I hope that makes sense!) There is no question though that on some levels, like attracts like; but what I do find interesting when I look at some discussions, is that you will sometimes find groups of similarly rated people interacting heavily; yet other people with higher stars barely receive an acknowledgment or even a reply. Again I think this has more to do with friendships made than for any other reason; but I do find it interesting nonetheless! The same can go in the opposite direction too with higher rated people that receive comments from lower rated ones so this is not limited to one way or the other at all! Nor is it a common theme and is just an occasional observation. Anyways, I love to interact with people too and I also enjoy the exchanges both for and against whatever I may be trying to say at any given point in time. This is what makes this site interesting! Thanks for the response mimpi.

That's so true! The bunch of people who interact on daily basis have similar taste, way of thinking, similar likings and guess what almost similar star colours! And I rate all the respondents positive. And try to boost the newbies with deserving BRs and positive ratings. Their involvement is most necessary. And when my friend here is demoted to a lower star rating from a higher one I do not rest till reaches the higher one. I know quality cannot be determined by colour but I cannot deny the feel god thing attached to it. Another thing James, recently, I have been noticing a group of newbies with excellent thoughts and writing skill and I cannot but rate them!

I have noticed many newbies with great writing skills too mimpi and I hope they continue here and not disappear like many new people sem to. If they stay then it can only get better over time for us all!

A valid point in this regard are newbies. They do not have a star till they reach 100. So one cannot form a predetermined opinion in this regard. You form an impression simply on the discussion,response and comments.

I follow the same lines of thinking alok. It is the context of a discussion that will ultimately determine my participation or not; and of course I will look out for my friends as well! MyLot is no different to any other social situation and in real life we look out for our friends and family so why would we not do the same here to some extent? Give and take forms the foundation of ANY solid relationship anyway. I agree with you in regards to your comments about some people who speak freely getting rated negatively and especially where religion is concerned! But I do admire their stand and I also will NEVER rate someone negative for having an opinion or disagreeing with me and never will. It's differences of opinion that keep things exciting and fresh! Thanks for the response.

Yes, this is a very good point alok. I have to admot that there have been a number of new people I have seen on many occasions that I immediately notice because you can see straight away that they have the potential to be interesting. Even without a star yet you can tell. It is sad though because sometimes you never see some of them again.

hi james,i like what my friends say irrespective of color.to others it may seem nonsensical.

Me too riya! Like attracts like and this is why they are my friends! I have always gained tremendous enjoyment interacting all the time with my mylot friends and I am sure they will be my friends for a long time to come. It's interesting to see how close we can all become too when you consider we have never even met each other for real!

I am glad to see that it became of no consequence in the end riya. For me it's all about the context of the discussion, what they are saying and how they are saying it that mattersmost of all. Star colour has nothing to do with it really. A first impression is definitely made the second we read a new post so I agree there is no need to negate what your Elders said too! Thanks for the response.

Oh ya like that 10 star do ya? Hmmmmmmm? I wouldn't mind an inflatable rabbits foot for luck if ya have one! And can ya mount it on a hat so I can wear it without having to hold it? You're a perfect example of how irrelevant star colour is and how it's NOT a reflection of the person owning it at all. Maybe I need to get me some more awesome too then? Ah stuff it, I'm just gonna be me and the rest can be whatever it is. Fanks for the word bits 'n all Stormy! Nice spinning heart there too by the way. It's like, ummmmmmm, romantic and motion sickness inducing all at the same time!

ya like my spinning glass heart? climb on! I'll take ya for a spin! hahaha! awwww James... you are awesome! only difference between you and my low rated friends is that someone saw your worth.. most times it's over looked... but it only makes us want to dig a little deeper looking for the awesome people (instead of taking them at face value.. or star color) It's a treasure hunt! you can find diamonds in Emerald colors sometimes..... but ya gotta look a little deeper! *hugs James!* I'm glad yer a 10 and you can show mylotters how awesome you are!

*gets out calculator* YER RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! it's 15!!!!!!! who knew?! *gets lighter* now hand me the sparklers!!!!!!

In the general scheme of things, me neither Nhey. It's all about whether the topic is of interest to me or not more than anything else. Thanks for the response.

lol. Can you see your face in my boots then passingfancy? In reference to the comment below as well, my typing is bad at times too and my grammar is not always perfect either! If a blue star is important to you then I see no reason why you will not achieve one as well. The misconception of many is that people with 10 stars are shepp; or always "nice" and congenial. This is just not true at all! Some may be, sure, but most are not this way at all! Thanks for the response and I shall watch with interest to see what star you start with when you reach 100 posts!

Is that why I have a blue star?? because my grammar sucks. OH wait sorry My grammar is fine its my typing that sucks

You have given me a good laugh mssnow! (Although I feel COMPELLED to comment on your punctuation! Hahahahhaha! But nah, I don't want a blue star James... I want a pink one to match my avatar.

I think others should have that attitude also, We just shouldn't shun people or their discussions just because their star is a different color. I know I would hate to be shunned just because my star wasn't the same as someone else's I would want a fair chance and that is what I give everyone.

The sad thing is that it happens everywhere, not just with stars here on mylot! Bias is all around us. I know I've gone to the extreme here by bringing up bias or even racism in comparison, but I do find it an interesting reflection nonetheless.

Great attitude! This is how I tend to be myself and it all comes down to my level of interest in the discussion topic and if I actually have anything worthwhile to add or not. Star colour has nothing whatoever to do with any of it. Hats off to being colour blind I reckon! Thanks for the comments Becca.

Hi maximax. It is definitely the people that tend to be more outspoken and controversial that end up with the lower rankings, especially the ones that go hard in the religion discussions! I agree that travel is certainly one of the "safer" ones too but you are doing exactly what others are doing and that is honing in on what interests you the most. This is surely a far more important factor than star colour! I get involved in the more controversial discussions from time to time too, but it is not a common practice for me to be honest. Sometimes I really do wish to put my two cents in with some of these discussions but when I see how other responses are heading, I end up deciding not to. I sort of liken it to a fight at a party, sometimes it's better to sit back and watch the melee rather than jump on in! lol. As always though, it all comes down to my mood and particular interest at any point in time. Thanks for the response and happy travels!

I think that the context of what people say in their posts is a far more accurate sign of their personality than a star could ever be! Sure, there are some people that have a low star because they are rude or arrogant, or don't make any effort; but many people have them because they dare to speak out as well. It certainly keeps things interesting on here and that's what is most important to me otherwise I would end up bored pretty quickly I think. Thanks for the response cream97.

Just for the record guybrush, it's not an overly common uccurence, but more of an occasional obeservation is all. I always read about trolls and have seen their handiwork on many occasions. It's quite disappointing really to think that people are prepared to go to such lengths and usually over such trivial things too! AT least you were able to identify the offe4nder and have them removed. It's great to see that you value your friendships and the humour over all else as well. I am sure that in time your star will creep back up as a result of this attitude! Thanks for the response.

There is no question that people make the effort to respond to their friends discussions; but this is a natural aspect of friendship and not star colour based at all. The driving force for most of us would surely be our level of interest in a topic too. Thanks for the response marquita.

lol. You will get your star once you reach 100 posts matersfish. From that point forward, it will go up and down depending on how other people rate your posts. 10 is the highest and 1 (or no star at all) is as low as it gets. Some people like to maintain a high ranking, some prefer a lower one..... Some people wish stars didn't even exist! But they are here so it's up to you what you wish to aim for. Thanks for the response, welcome to mylot; and good luck with your future battles!

It just takes a little time is all. When I first joined a couple of years back, I posted many discussions and would sometimes get no responses at all! But eventually you start to add friends, get to know people, interact with several regularly..... And it all builds up from there. Good luck getting to 100! Next stop is then 200 and you can start using smilies. Cut and paste ability then comes at 500 and you can also add pics to your responses at 500 too.

Yeah, I think I'll need a star to be taken seriously maybe. I have 4 open discussions and a total of 5 responses. Not that it matters; I'm fine commenting on everyone else's posts, but it does seem - at least on the surface for a beginner - that those with higher ratings have their discussions take precedence. One step closer to 100.

This is an amazing coincidence luoke because I was looking at a picture online this morning that is the one you are using for your avatar! lol. Star colour has no bearing on how I comment or respond either. It all comes down to the context of what they have to say that matters to me. Thanks for the response.

I always reply to every single response I get, yes. People took the time to make the effort, so I will always do so in return! Well, for as long as I am able to anyways!

Yea,it's a rare coincidence...I can see you are doing a great job here,do you actually reply everyone that respond to your discussion?

Hi *big hugs* I have so much to reply to on myLot tonight. I think I am out of my depth

Cheers for the vote of confidence

*Group Hugs* Good to see you guys tonight.

Hi Linda. I agree. It happens in real life so why wouldn't it happen here too? It all comes down to relevance and interest and if we see something that grabs our attention then we go for it! There are definitely people that are very attached to their stars, yes. To be honest I like having a 10 star and it means a lot to me to have it because I have worked very hard to get it! Would I leave mylot if it fell though? No I would not. I would work hard to get it back up again. I agree there is no point sweating over something like this, but I give everything I do in life all I've got so this is no different I guess! lol. Thanks for the response.

Yes, this is basically my point! Most of us just want to respond to interesting discussions, especially if we feel that we have something of substance and value to add to them. I don't take the star rating business very seriously anymore, now that I know what it's all about. I will still complain if my legitimate posts get deleted for no reason, but I no longer complain about star rating. There is so much more to worry about. :)

I know how you feel Dawn. Those tails can be quite unsettling at times. I tend to get uneasy about names as discussion tags myself, but that too is another story..... Thanks for dropping by and if you need the number of a good hypnotist to help overcome that tail phobia, let me know! lol.

Hello James, I'm sorry but I had to cut into this discussion. You happened to mention a good hypnotist. Do you think you could pass the name on to me. I got a few issues in life that I need to overcome. Thanks in advance for your response.

For me it is the wording inside their posts that will influence my decision on whether to interact with them! I agree with your point that it needs to be a two-way street. I tend to interact the most with people that make the effort to interact with me in return. If it so happens that many of us share the same rankings then so be it! Thanks for the response Margarit.

I agree Margarit. It is just a shame that there will always be people that abuse a democratic process like this and use the rating system for negative reasons.

Yes wording matters too, we should give fair and just ratings so everybody will do their part.

I have noticed your star ratings drop SaintAnne and yes, it did happen fast! I am not aware of what discussions you have posted that are supposedly "controversial" though? Hmmm. Maybe I missed a couple? Yes, I have a 10 star and I am proud of that fact too; but I AM just being myself and if I ended up being driven downwards then what can I do really? Yes it would bother me because I would be wondering why and who etc but I am not going to become Mr Congeniality in every instance just for the sake of keeping it! Like many others, I have worked very hard to be detailed, precise and engaging throughout my entire time on mylot and I try to give 100% effort to everything I do in life! My forends receive my constant attention of course; but topic relevance and interest to me are a major fqactor and not star colour at all. Thanks for the response.

And how I enjoy reading the responses of people that I usually interact with and can't wait to read what they have to say as well.

WHich type of stars are we talking about here gbemoo? mylot stars (You will get one when you reach 100 posts) are controlled by all of us byt the way we rate each other. If you are talking about the stars in the sky then I agree. Thanks for the response.

Could be fjaril...... Could be! lol. I have looked up into the sky to select a star for myself last night, but thanks to the Cairo haze I wasn't able to find one!

I have explained what it all means in a reply up above murderistic. Having a low star by the way is not necessarily a bad thing at all! It all comes down to WHY it is this way. If a person has a low star because they are set in their ways and have strong beliefs etc that they will strive to put across no matter what; then good for them! If they have a low star because people rate them badly for a lack of effort or for being offensive or rude or something, then this is obviously not such a good thing at all. As long as people make an effort it doesn't really matter. Thanks for the response.

It's the kind of name that has me constantly looking over my shoulder while I type actually!

Thank you for your response, I now understand that the color correlates with the number. At first I thought that they were separate. I think that unfortunately, I joined myLot at a difficult time of post-election depression for some people, hence my low number. And don't worry about my name, it's just a slang word that means something along the lines of awesome or really cool... :)