I really did it this time!

United States
November 23, 2008 6:41am CST
I am a widow of 4 yrs. I have 2 kids who live with me and depend on me. Well three months ago I met a guy on the internet.He and I got to talking and would talk to each other for hours on end.Problem, he lived 800 miles away. A week into our relationship he asked me to marry him and I agreed. I packed up my kids and 2 weeks later moved those 800 miles to be with him. On a bus no less. Well, we are still together,barely. I think we are gonna work through our problems,and we are gonna make it. Has anyone else had sucess with an internet relationship are am I just crazy?
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@smiley83 (1535)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 08
hey, first of all, good luck with your relationship... second and i considered the most important point which is; are you totally ready for this stage? and have you questioned your mind before stepping yourself into the net? well, i'm not trying to scare you or anything, and i'm not doubting the connection between you guys... i'm just concerned over the fact as you just met him since 3 months ago.. do you think it is pretty enough to say 'I DO'! although, you guys talk with each other for hours daily, but you need to do the same thing face to face... packing yourself to be near to him is can be seen as a good idea because, it helps you guys to meet up and to understand each other more clearer than before... beside, you are not crazy as you said... you are such a wonderful lady who seeks happiness for herself and for her kids... there is nothing wrong in being a friend to an internet people at all...as long as you are careful enough in dealing with them.. as you shouldn't reveal your secrets from the first or second meeting... good luck, smiley,
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• United States
23 Nov 08
I didn't just move close to him I moved in with him. We still talk for hours But we have slowed it down and have decided to wait til next summer to get married. I have questioned my decision a couple of times, but I still feel I did ok.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
23 Nov 08
I met my first boyfriend through the net sorta. He randomly added me through msn and we talked for hours just like you said. We met up and started dating anddated for a year. Its possible to work out, but in your case the way you approached it is really really hard. You decided to get married before you even met, and we met then decided to date so I think if you want to work out you have to work REALLY REALLY hard, since you didnt know anything bout him previous to accepting his proposal (sure you knew what he told you through the net, but he would always act different in person then he is on the internet) Best of luck to you
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@Mickie30 (2633)
24 Nov 08
I don't think you are crazy, but you do have to be careful. You need to be careful who you give your trust to in this life. I hope you can work it through. I have never had success with online relationships, but other people suppoosedly have so who knows? One thing you know when you have met Mr Right and my best friend used to say you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I think that is very true.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
Wow. I don't think anyone would marry someone without even meeting them this is worse than an arranged marriage. He must have been some sweet talker. You say you are still together, barely, so you are troubled in your relationship. Have you actually married someone after talking to someone online for a week. It is not my life but I suspect you have been too impulsive.
• United States
24 Nov 08
one of my friend met her husband online - it lasted awhile , but now divorced ... she met someone agin , online there doing good so far .. and i have another friend met her mate online there doing well ... and engaged to be married so it depends on both parties is all ... you'll know uf its right or not .
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
24 Nov 08
hi i was setting here reading everyone comments i really don,t want to judge you however my daughter also chatted about 1 year on the net then she met him her husband after this year he sent her engagement ring in the mail she flew for 22 hours to met him and after 30 days she married him.she has been married now for 6 and half years and they have 1 child born to them .he is very good to her.he is my son inlaw and i have no ill feeling of every meeting him.i know you wasn,t with him a long time but it could work between you guys.i wish you all the luck in the world.happy mylotting
• United States
24 Nov 08
Wow, that sounds a bit extreme for that pace... but hey I have heard of crazier things. I hope you the best of luck, but remember that you should think decisions through prior to going all the way with them.
@gemini_rose (16194)
23 Nov 08
Wow, that is fast. I hope everything works out for you, me personally I would have taken it a little bit slower before I jumped into a committment like that especially having kids I would want to make sure I really knew what I was doing for their sake.
@Purtle (274)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Wow that is a very interesting story. I have not had any success with an internet relationship and I do not think that makes you are crazy at all. I wish you the best of luck.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Honestly for me that would have been too soon. No way would I consider that much of a change in my children and my life with so little known about the other person. Heck it would have taken me that long to do background, credit, medical and financial checks. I would not be willing to turn my life and my kids life upside down because of wonderful conversation. But thats just me. I have heard of it working for others and a lot of horror stories as well. I have friends that have tried the internet dating, and got to the other end and it completely fizzled at the face to face meet. I wish you much success with your relationship and above all I hope that you and your children are safe, in a loving environment.
@mansha (6301)
• India
23 Nov 08
Thats nice to hear, yours is the third internet love story that I have heard which has succeeded. My neighbours also met through internet and my own cousine too. And I must say both couples are really happy and I am glad things are working out for you too. I always believe its the adjustment after marriage that makes any marriage work or fail and a lot of patience too. No matter how and when and where you meet your love its how you both commit yopurselves to working on a relationship that matters. Good luck to you!!
@littleone3 (2065)
23 Nov 08
I would like to wish you good luck i hope everything works out for you and your children. I was in the same situation as you i was a widow of two years with four children when i met my partner online. We chatted for a few months and then we met face to face and ten days after meeting my partner left everything to move in with me and my children. Now three and half years down the line we have a two year old son,we are engaged and we could not be happier. Apart from my children, he was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I do not think you are crazy as you can see i have been in your postion myself.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
23 Nov 08
and i thought we moved on things too fast lol. i met my s/o online, in a yahoo chat room, over 3 years ago. problem was we lived 1600 miles apart. 3 weeks after we met online, he flew down for a weeks vacation, and yes, stayed with me. at that time he got to meet not only both of my daughters (niether lived with me), but he also got to met my parents. a month after he flew back home we were planning my move. we have been together 3 1/2 years, and hoping for many more. i'm not sure i would have done it without us spending time together and meeting in person first. good luck.