(I know it's long but plz bare w/ me)

@camomom (7537)
United States
November 29, 2008 3:30pm CST
I just found out that my cousin got accepted into the UFC. I love my cousin and I know that it's his lifelong dream, but he has a wife and kids. Here's some back round about him. He's 34 years old and is the highest possible belts in all martial arts. He's been a fire fighter. He went through the police academy. He is a body builder. He has done martial arts for as far back as I can remember. I'm the same age as him. He works out daily for hours. I know he's always been into sports of all kinds. He's most girls dream guy. He's the sweetest guy ever and his wife is just as sweet and pretty as he is cute. I'm happy that he gets to live out his dream but it scares the cr*p out of me. He almost killed a guy in tryouts. Broke the guys jaw and a few other bones, busted his face all up, and I don't know what else. The guy was in serious condition in the hospital last I heard. He leaves soon to go to California for training and 2-3 more fights then he goes to Las Vegas for a few, then somewhere else. He'll get to travel the world but what about his wife and kids? She is supporting him like the perfect wife that she is. She told my mom (who recently lived out her lifelong dream of visiting Alaska)"You fulfilled your lifelong dream, Why can't he. I don't want him to go but I can't deprive him of his dream." I don't see their marriage lasting until he comes back. I haven't ever watched UFC because of the violence. I don't even like to see the previews. I really don't want to turn the channel one day and see him getting the cr*p beaten out of him. I don't want him to die fulfilling this idiotic dream of his. I don't want his pretty face destroyed for the rest of his life either. What can you tell me about this "sport"? Do you think it's safe? Do you think I'm over reacting with how I feel about it? do you think his wife really thinks it's ok? All opinions are welcome. How "no holds barred" is the sport?
7 responses
• United States
2 Dec 08
My husband watches this stuff, and honestly I do not know how it is legal. It is awful to watch, and I do not see the pleasure in beating the sh** out of someone. If his wife is being supportive, and their relationship is already built on trust, then they should be fine. I do fully understand your concerns about his safety though. I dont know if I could be supportive, dream or no dream.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I don't know how anyone can watch this stuff, nevermind want to do it. Like I said to someone else, I don't know how strong their marriage is. I just don't want him to lose her and his kids because of this. I don't think I'd let my man do it.
• United States
2 Dec 08
I know I would not let my man do it. However, some men do not like to be told no, and he obviously is aggressive. So he would probably do it anyway. Sometimes we just have to let people do what they will, whether we like it or not.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
3 Dec 08
That's true. I'd have to give the ultimatum though.
@caskins (689)
• United States
30 Nov 08
hello my fellow myLotter, i think you are over reacting a little bit. i am a female and a big fan of the UFC. i watch it faithfully. it is not that brutal. the referee will interfere with the match if something goes wrong or someone is not defending himself. it's not like boxing. just be supportive of your cousin. what is his name so i can look out for him to root him on. tell him he already has a fan! take care.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Thank you. I don't know if he'll be using his real name or not but when I find out I'll let you know, Add me as a friend and I'll tell you in a Private Message. I'm glad to know that it's not as bad as I thought.
@caskins (689)
• United States
2 Dec 08
you are quite welcome, tell your cousin good luck for me. take care.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I will. Thanks again.
• United States
30 Dec 08
It will be hard for his wife for him to be away like that but I think you should support him. If it is his dream than you should support him. MMA has come a long way since it was originally started. It is just about as safe as any other sport know. There are regulations and rules that must be followed now. There is probably a better chance of him getting injured if he was a professional football player. Shawn UFCGoods.com
@camomom (7537)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Thanks for the info. I plan on supporting him, It just scares me that he might get hurt or his marriage may suffer.
@piniongrl (142)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Sorry I missed this one before. I know what I want and need in my relationship and I don't have the strength or personality to let my husband to do something like this. Some people though can handle these tough situations though and if they can more power to them I guess. I don't quite get it though were I'm coming from.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I don't get it either. But as everyone else keeps telling me, we can't stop him so I guess I just have to sit back and hope for the best. I'm not a big one for prayer (as you know) but I will be praying for him.
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
2 Dec 08
My brother did something similiar years back. He won a couple of fights and then got his nose broken. He never went back and did it again after that. Perhaps your cousin will not want to do it after he does it a couple of times. I'm not going to lie the potential to get hurt is great, but there are referees that keep it from getting too bad. They won't let a fight continue if someone seems like they are out of it, but with fighting comes danger. Unfortunately your cousin has a shot at something he has always wanted, and there is little anyone can do to stop him. For his own self he needs to see this thru, and take his shot, or else he will wonder "What if" for the rest of his life. At age 34 though he is getting in to it kind of late, and will not likely do it for very long. His wife probably knows there is no stopping him on this, and feels that if she tries to stop him and if he does stop because of her he will always resent her. She is probably terrified but does not want to deny him his dream. I don't think you are over reacting, if someone I loved wanted to do this I would be very worried as well. I am afraid he is going to do it no matter what anyone else wants or feels. I know it is hard, but all you canr realy do is prey for his saftey.
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Well it's his life, not much anyone can say or do to stop him. If he wants to go and his wife is supporting it, then he's going to go. I wouldn't want my husband to go, not because of how unsafe it us, but just because I don't like him not being with us. But it's a personal decision for him and his family.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
29 Nov 08
You have a point. I know I can't stop him and neither can anyone else. He's super stubborn. I just worry about him. He's my absolute favorite family member. I just don't want him to get hurt or worse.
• United States
29 Nov 08
If I was the wife of a man who was into such a violent sport like that, I would want to support him and stand behind him, because that's my nature, but I really don't think that my heart will let me do that because I would be worried and scared like you are, and not knowing what could happen to him and being gone so long away from his family would be straight up torture. I don't think you're over reacting. You just love your cousin and just want the best for him, and you want his marriage to last.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Thank you so much.