What is your wish for your daughter?

@rocketj1 (6960)
United States
December 1, 2008 9:21pm CST
As a mother, what would you wish for your daughter that you missed out on in your own life? What would you like for her to do or see or experience or feel that you did not have a chance to do in your life? What things that you have experienced in your own life, would you WANT her to experience TOO?
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18 responses
@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Dec 08
Hi ya rocketj1 If I had a daughter I would want her to be able to travel safely in various country as I did when I was younger but I fear that young female adults are not able to do this as safely as I did when I was younger. I'm not saying that my son's wouldn't be in as much danger but you were asking about daughters!! I fear to travel to other countries myself these days and I am quite worldly but you just never know where and when something is going to happen, looking at the recent events at the Taj Mahal Hotel in India, you would think you'd be safe there but at least 195 people lost their lives!
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I want my daughters to be their best and do what is necessary to make it to heaven! I also want them to have happy fufilled marriages and if they have children to be good mothers! I hope they they find the love in the simple things and not think that money is going to buy all happiness. I hope they will find out early in life that doing for others in need even in a small way, gives you more satisfaction that you can imagine, and that what goes around comes around!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Hi Humbug! Thanks for your response to my discussion! You will have to start a discussion about some of your travels. I would love to read about that!
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Hi busyB4! I really appreciated ALL of your wishes for your daughters. These are great ideals to live by for anyone! Thanks:)
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@Luchie50 (51)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
hi mylotters, i have 3 kids 2 girls and one boy my eldest is a girl wherein my family considered her as the black sheep . its because since she grew up till she reached college we used to receive complains about her status in school till it reached to the point that she was not able to finish in her third year level coz she went with her boyfriend. We as parents gave some solutions to the problem by settled them down till they produced 3 children. For 10 years of marriage they experienced a terrible problem till it resulted to separation. I was really dissapointed and upset about the life situations of my daughter. The family renounced her as being a member of the family which gave me so much distress. I want to give my children all the best that i can be. The mother always there to understand to whatever happens to their children. But others misconstrued my good intentions. Do you have experienced a situations like this? Please share to me. Thanks to mylotters.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Oh Luchie! I am so sorry to hear of your heartache for your daughter! Please don't give up on her! Let her know that you love her! Thank you for your response:)
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• United States
3 Dec 08
Why did they do that to her? She is your child, don't let anyone treat her like that.
• United States
2 Dec 08
I have two daughters. One is 21, married and has a daughter of her own. My other daughter just turned 11 years old. I wish both my daughters not only a life full of happiness but a life that is fulfilling and full of experiences that they choose is best for them. I want my daughters to choose their own paths based on their desires and wants and not based on what I was or wasn't able to experience. The one thing that I do hope they both find is true love. Someone who not only loves them but also cherishes them and adores them and makes their life complete. Someone who treats them as a partner, not just a spouse. Someone who respects them and does not dictate to them but rather supports their decisions and backs them up. I want them to have the kind of love that I have only dreamed about.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Those are beautiful dreams for your daughters! Thanks:)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I have two daughters, my wish for them is that enjoy life and have the opportunity to do all the things they want to do before they start their families and careers. I wish for them to travel and experience as much of this world that they can possibly can. I wish for them to be productive women, women who make a difference in someone else's life. I wish for them to be truly happy.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Thank you so much for your wonderful response!
2 Dec 08
I'm now in daughter role. My mother is the special person in my life. She usually told me a lot of things that she couldn't do through the past. Since she was born in War time. Even though she let me make my choice, she's still my expert and is the most important person who stands by my side when I need her.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
So, you wish for yourself to be just like her! Very nice! Thanks:)
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
i have a 15 year old and she has a somewhat serious relationship with a guy at the moment and i feel that she is missing out on the fun of just hanging out with a bunch of girls and dreaming about boys. i just dont want her to rush into adult hood too fast.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Oh, life goes by fast enough on it's own! I hope she can stay a girl just a little longer! Thanks:)
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 08
I would want her to know that she is loved and supported always.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 08
Oh second question (here I am focusing on the negative)... I'd like her to experience travel, art, music, literature...
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Thanks, dawn!
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
There are a lot of things that I missed out in my life and that includes having a mother who does not know how to handles things at home. Including our tuition fees and the things we need for school. So I'll make sure I give everything she needs and I won't put other people's need in front of hers. She'll be my top priority. I want her to experience me going to the parents day or anything that she does in school. I'll make sure that I can support her. I'll be sure to ask her what her ambitions in life her and give her advices as to what's best for her. I have many more things I want to say about this, but I don't think the space here will be enough. Actually this is just what I think of right now. Nice discussion!
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
A child needs to know that they are an important priority! I believe you are headed in the right direction! Thanks:)
@hildas (3031)
3 Dec 08
I have four daughters and I want is for them all to be very happy and to do what they want to do with their lives. I had my eldest daughter at 17 years old and I really do not want that to happen to any of my daughters. I tell them this but they do seem very sensible and listen to what advice I give them. I had a very hard time and would not want this is my daughters. I would want them to experience all what is good in this life, to be happy, no suffering to them and just to live.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Excellent wishes! Thanks:)
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I would hope that my daughter gets the opportunity to travel and see the world. When I was young, due to my Latin heritage, it was not proper for a single young woman to travel overseas or alone. I had a chance to study for the summer in France, through a school program but my parents did not let me go. I've always felt sad about it, so my wish is for her to get out and experience other cultures and learn about other heritages.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
When I went to Mexico as a young woman with some friends, our male tour guide asked us if we were frightened to travel alone. That was when we first learned of the impropriety of women travelling alone in the Latin culture. I had not known about that before then. Thanks:)
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I am hoping that she will wait to get married and have children untill she has a chance to expand her career because she is still in college. She a boyfriend in the Uk who she is very serious about and he comes to see her. She is also planning on visiting there. I just want her to get her career lined out and have time, not rushing to enjoy the freedom and take her time making any desions.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Yes! I want my daughter to take her time too! I quit college myself for a guy (the wrong one - didn't marry him - praise the Lord!) and never went back! I agree with you on this! Thanks:)
@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I'd like her to have a better sense of self. I never started to understand myself until after I was already married, and even now I don't know myself too well. I'd like my daughter to know herself very well before she gets into any relationships. I'd also want her to have better self esteem and self worth, and not make the choices I made when I was in my late teens.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I can relate to your response! Thanks:)
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
I would like my daughter to be happy with whatever she wants to do, I will support her as long as those things would not be harmful to her. If she wants to be in sports or music or anything she wants to join, I will be there to guide her... When I was a kid, I haven't experienced joining clubs 'cause I would always think that my parents would not permit to join. I have also told my daughter that she could talk to me as her friend, and that she should not be afraid of telling me things.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
That's great! Thanks:)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 08
i want her to be better than me..i wish i can continue my study but i know that impossible..so i wish my daughter will continue my wish and if her want to get married early, i will not prevent it..but she must continue my wish first..
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I stopped my college education too and I regret it also. I wish that my daughter will be sure to finish her schooling too! Thanks:)
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I will have to pass on this one as I don't have a daughter, just one fantastic son.. I have a daughter-in-law and would love to be closer to her but she is making it impossible.. I hope to have a granddaughter and a grandson one day and then I also hope they will listen when and if I do get to teach them anything.. I would however, teach a granddaughter to value herseslf highly and not to be haughty, but to know her true worth as a person and a contributor to the future of the world..
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I have a SIL who has made things impossible for my mom too! I pray that all will work out for you! Thanks:)
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@vikeyshuy (284)
• China
14 Jan 09
i wish my daughter lived happier than me,do what she wants to do without considering what the other think of her.wish her never worried about the boring things and healthy and found a man love her forever.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
11 Dec 08
The wish I have for my daughter, as well as my sons is very simple. I only wish for them to be happy and pursue their dreams. Yes, I feel like there are many things I miised out on when I was younger, but I wouldn't change anything. I am who I am because of my experiances, as well as lack thereof. To me, as a mother, I only want my children to be happy.
@KimJoRoll (127)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Wow, what do I want for my daughter? A lot of things! I want her to fall in love with someone that will love her the way she deserves to be loved. Someone that will respect her and take care of her. She is technically my "step" daughter but I want her to outgrow being like her mother. Her mother has some mental issues and I want nothing as bad for my daughter not to become that way. If she has some problems - we will deal with them. I love her and would never desert her! I also want her to be able to travel and have fun. She needs to explore the world and find out about herself first. I just want so much for her because she is such a great child...