How would you feel if all your childhood pictures were burned?

@sharra1 (6340)
Australia
December 4, 2008 8:12am CST
I went looking for my childhood pictures one day and my mother told me she had burned all of them, not just mine but every picture of the family. Now there is no record at all. The only pictures I have are the ones I took as an adult. I am so sad that every record of our childhood is gone. How would you feel if you lost all your family photos?
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
hi sharra! well, in the first place, i would already feel bad if i found out that my old pictures were burned. because these are memories of the past. even my husband went looking for his old pictures, especially his graduation pictures, when his mom only gave me his baby pictures. anyway, i would feel even worse if i would learn that it was my own mother who burned them and that of the rest of the family's. but why would she do that? i really wonder. what made her do it? you didn't tell us, but she must have had a pretty heavy reason to do that. i hope it is not because she is not just sentimental. take care and God bless you!
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
7 Dec 08
My mother was very odd in her later years and we have no real idea why she did it. I know she said that she saw bugs eggs in all the albums but I think that was just an excuse. She had not been happy for years.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 08
I'm sorry to hear about your pictures. I cherish the pictures taken when I was a baby all the way until I was around 10 or eleven. After that, hmmm... different story. Anyway, should I find out that all my baby pictures got burned, I'll be really bummed. I probably would not be able to sleep in days thinking of the memories that I need to save in my head so that I won't forget them forever. If you have cousins or playmates you're still in touch with, borrow their pictures which include you in the shot and have them scanned. Good luck.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
7 Dec 08
Yes I was very upset but there is nothing I can do about it now. I have lost contact with my father's family and I have no idea if they have any pictures of us when we were young. Maybe but I doubt it as we never mixed with our cousins much. At least I do not remember doing so. I don't think mum like them much.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
5 Dec 08
Actually I have few childhood picture. But I am not very much attached to them. as they are lying in an envelope just like that. But it will be very sad if they are burned.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
18 Dec 08
frizzy_flirt you are right that the past is gone and the future has not yet happened. We need to live in the present not the past or the future but it is good to have a past as that gives you roots to feel strong and secure. Maybe you do not want roots but I know nothing about my past and I have very dim memories of my own childhood so I have no ties any where. I have two brothers that I do not have a strong connection to and I have a partner I have a very strong connection to but that is all I have in terms of life ties. Some people have long family histories and I wonder sometimes what it must be like to belong to a family with lots of history and lots of roots.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Dec 08
I felt much the same most of my life. They are just childhood pictures and we do not take much notice of them. I never thought about them until one day I went looking for a picture I remembered and when I asked my mother where it was she told me she had burned them all. I was stunned. They are not things you look at very often but they are memories. I could not believe her attitude as though it was not important. She never even asked any of us if we wanted them just burned them.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 08
hmmmmmm that 1 is 1 of my hobbies.. burned all my ex boyfrends picture haha! hmmmm same here i dont have childhood picture or when i was young picture thats why i envy my friends everytime they show theyre old picture with family , frends etc.. but its okay cause THE PAST IS ALREADY PAST SO ITS ALL GONE..^^ BUT THE FUTURE IS STILL THERE AND ITS COMING ^^ BRINGING SOME BAD MEMORIES AND GOOD.^^
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I'm so sorry, I bet you are really sad. I don't know if it would really bother me too much. I didn't really have a great childhood and so there's not much that I would want to remember.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Dec 08
Oh I can't remember much of my childhood any more which I think is sad but there were a couple of pictures I remember that I would have like to have. I think it was seeing mykl's pictures that made me think of it. I remember one in particular taken at kindergarten which was really nice and I think it would be nice to have but then I have no children and there is no one to pass anything on to any more so maybe it does not matter.
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
ohhh... that would be so frustrating and sad... i just hope there would be other pictures that were misplaced and were not burned...
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
Unfortunately there were none. I have looked everywhere. My father had slides of our childhood but his second wife got rid of these so there is nothing left. It is sad but there is nothing I can do and it would be the same as a fire burning our house.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
5 Dec 08
That is really shocking!All burnt by your own mother!Why did she did it?Oh!It is very bad,you had a collection and all lost!I know,it is mind blowing.Please don't get upset.Because we can't undone what is done.Hope you start collecting more photos in the upcoming days and produce an album to show to your kids.That way,seeing your kids rejoicing,you can live your memories.Cheers!
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
I have no idea why she did it. She says that she did not know that anyone wanted them but she never asked either. I think she got a little strange in her old age. Still there is nothing that can be done they are lost and gone.
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
Actually I would really get mad if my childhood picture will be burned. Actually it happen also to me when my son get my album and he get my pictures when I was a child. My son is only two years old but I got angry because he throws them. My pictures are special because I can recall how do I look when I was just young.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
Yes it is sad when pictures are lost as we can never get them back again. I never realised how important mine were to me because I knew they would always be there and then one day I went looking for them and they were gone.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
15 Dec 08
That's awful! I'd feel absolutely devastated! My mom has all of the family photos from when I was a baby, up until I graduated high school. I don't even have one picture of the family or myself during (or even before) this time frame. I've actually been meaning to ask her to send some to me so I can scan them and save them in my online albums. But I'm kind of worried to ask, in fear that she had them destroyed. The only way to find out though is to ask. I just have to get the courage to do so.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
Well you should ask and get some so you can save them. I wish I had done that years ago before it was too late. You just never know. Even if its just to protect them from the risk of fires. Once they are gone its too late.
• India
7 Dec 08
We are in the same boat. I don't have a single childhood pic of mine. But my Mom did not burn them. They got lost when we shifted house. :) Sad, but I guess there is nothing much we can do about it. Cheers and happy mylotting
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
Oh that is so sad. Sometimes you do not really miss something until you no longer have it. I have lost things moving house and I am quite upset but have no idea how I lost them. I got over what mum did but I will remain puzzled about it for a long time to come I think.
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@dio123 (1788)
• India
24 Dec 08
horrible, I really could not think what I feel if all my photos are burnt
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
25 Dec 08
I must admit that it never occurred to me that they could be lost so easily. I thought they would always be there. I never realised how important mine were to me and then one day I went looking for them and they were gone. I wish I had made copies of them so that I had something from my past.
@dodo19 (47090)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
4 Dec 08
I'm really sorry to hear that. That's something that my grandmother did to my dad. She burned all of his pictures. With maybe one or two exceptions. I'd feel really sad, if my parents burned my childhood pictures.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
12 Dec 08
Oh that is really sad. Parents can be so cruel sometimes and with something like that it is permanent as you cannot replace what is lost.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
18 Dec 08
Yes and they can also get dementia and not even realise that they are doing things that upset their family. I wish I had taken copies of the pictures when I was younger so that there was not just one source. I understand that it is really easy to copy photographs now and give people copies.
@dodo19 (47090)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Dec 08
It is sad. I do agree with you, parents can be cruel at times.
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• India
6 Dec 08
What a pity!! How coudl she burn all the pictures? It is not fair at all. you never burn pictures uneless the house cought fire accidentally and they got burnt by mistake. how can anyone burn all photographs specially family photorgrphs and that too of your own children? I hold all photographs too close to my heart. Each photograph has memories attached to it. Those days can't returnbut atleast yo can re-live the memories through the photographs. What a shame all your memories are all gone! I can understand how you feel. Nothign in the world can bring them back.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
6 Dec 08
I do not know. I was very sad when I found out and the only other family pictures were with my father and his second wife. I have no idea what happened to those. He had all the slides of our holidays etc.
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@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
im sorry to hear that...pictures are so precious to me i love to keep them and scanned it sometimes im glad to see them...
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
Yes they are precious to me too but sometimes we lose the things we love and there is nothing we can do about it to change it or get them back.
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@murderistic (2278)
• United States
20 Dec 08
That is so sad... I can't imagine not being able to see pictures of me as a child. To be honest with you when I was 5 we had a fire in our house, and most of our pictures were burned, but we managed to save a few. After that my parents taped everything we did. Thankfully in this day and age we can save all our pictures online and not have to worry about them getting destroyed.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
21 Dec 08
Yes that is one of the beauties of modern cameras as they are so easy to copy and save. I have looked very carefully but there was nothing left as she managed to destroy all the photo albums. I try and look at it as if a fire had claimed them. Still I have no children to pass them on to anyway.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
5 Dec 08
Well; I would feel quite anguished to see my childhood pictures burned . It wonders why this step was taken .Still;there must be some strong reason for your mother to do so .
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
21 Dec 08
I do not think she had a strong reason, she just never asked anyone if we wanted them. She said they were infected with insects and burning them was the only way of getting rid of the problem. She was a bit strange at the time.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
My goodness, I don't understand why your mother did that? Those childhood photos should have been treasured and kept neatly in a photo album which you can scan over and over again as you wish to remind you of the good old days! How could your mother missed the importance of keeping memories through photos? I'm saddened to hear that! I've been keeping my childhood photos which are actually in black and white in an album. Some of them are really faded but just the same I'm keeping them and am so happy everytime I look over them. I'm did the same for my only son. All his childhood photos were neatly placed in albums and we do always laugh every time we gather together and scan those old photos over again.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Dec 08
I do not understand either. She destroyed whole albums and told no one that she had done it. I only found out when I went looking for a photo I remembered. I decided I would like to frame it. It was a cute picture of me at kindergarten. I remember that picture but there were so many that I cannot remember and all the albums are gone.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Dec 08
That is so unfortunate, sharra. I can only assume why your mother burned the family pictures. I still have a few family and childhood pictures. Although I've had albums gone worthless and useless as our house was flooded once. I do hope you find out later that you still have some of them. Take care, sharra.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Dec 08
My brother said she went through an odd period where she thought spiders were laying eggs in everything and the only way to get rid of them was to burn them. I do not know what he was thinking of. I left him home looking after her while I took some time off from the caring role and it happened while I was away.
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5 Dec 08
I know how it feels. My family has lots of photos taken together when we were kids but then it was all gone even our legal records like birth certificates and other things when our house was flooded, we lost everything and we have to start over again. And that's why I don't have a photos when I was a kid that were saved. Now, I only have photos taken when I am an adult. Did you ask your mom why did she burn of those photos?
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
6 Dec 08
Yes I did. She said that she did not think that any one wanted then, but she did not ask any one if they did, and she believed that everything was pull of insect eggs and that she had to burn them to destroy the eggs. She was always a bit odd but became worse as she got older. My brother was in the house with her at the time and he did not bother to stop her or tell me about it. I only found out when I went looking for an old photo and she told me she had burned all the albums.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Why would your mother do something like that? I know we should remove clutter in the house but the need to burn your family pictures especially of your kids growing up just escapes me. I underand that you must feel sad to not see those precious pictures of your childhood. I would feel awful if my mom did the same thing.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Dec 08
I have no idea. She said she thought no one wanted them but she never asked any one if they wanted them. My mother was always a bit strange and she got stranger as she got older. Even so I was very upset but it was too late as she had burned everything and she did not care. She was surprised I was upset about it.
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@myskina (182)
• China
5 Dec 08
oh lord so worry about you how to be there and your mobile device havn`t , too !?
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
I have no idea what you are talking about. What has a mobile device to do with this topic?