What Should I Do Guys??Your Advice.........

December 5, 2008 8:02pm CST
My partner used to go home late. I mean, she works almost 15 hours instead of 8 hours. She always told me that she has a lot of things to do in the office. But it happens most of the time. I trust her, but i felt something fishy. I also came to a point that I had an overtime, but its only very seldom. Whenever I do that, she's mad at me. What do you think should I do with this kind of situation? Should I retain my trust on her? We have been 6 years in a realtionship.
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@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
10 Dec 08
It's hard to say if we don't know anything else about the relationship. Is your relationship good otherwise? Has she ever given you any reason not to trust her? I have to admit it does sound a little weird that she gets mad at you for working overtime when she does so much of it herself. I'd want to know what was going on with that.
@Thumper11 (662)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I think you and your partner should sit down and talk about it. Put it all out in the open. Let her know that you have some concerns and voice them. Give her the chance to do the same with you. Explain to her that she works more over time than you and you don't get near as upset when she works overtime, but you are beginning to wonder if you should. Also... in my experience..... usually the one doing the accusing is the one doing the cheating. This is not always the case, but just be cautious. After you all talk about it, maybe you will feel differently about things, or at least you will know wht direction to go from there.
@legend4u (1019)
• India
6 Dec 08
don't loss the trust that quickly. it may not be right choice. try to talk to her , understand what her stand is and be patient. there will be some logical explanation for everything. 6 years is a good time, don't ruin it by some senseless thoughts. talk to her about what you thing in a calm and pleasant and funny way perhaps. try to understand why she works overtime this much you must share the burden equally. there is no need for her to work this hard. may be the overtime is making her more stiff.
@nadec23 (63)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
You've got to do something about it. Try to confirm from her the reason why she's always late and do overwork. It's never a mistake in the first place to ask questions to things your not clear about. And try to tell her, that your doing this because you trust her and that you're just worried about her recent late works.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
If your partner's job requires her to work 15 hours, then nothing has to be worried about. However, 15 hours in the office is too much overtime. Better talk to your partner about it or perhaps volunteer yourself to fetch her sometimes. There's no wrong if you worries about her because you are just concerned and cared for her. Though, there are times that our instincts are right. Follow it, but do not overact.
@Kumaresan (450)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
hello there... well, if you don't want to lose the trust on her,you better should tell and ask her why she's working so hard... asking is the simple way for you to get the answer... it doesn't mean that you're losing the trust... go ahead and ask before you feel sorry for that...
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Not knowing what her job is there is really no telling what the average situation is in regards to overtime. If you are really curious you could drive by her work and see if her car is still there or something like that. Unless you have any proof I really wouldn't bring up any suspicions. Just tell her for now that you are sorry for her that she has to work so hard;)