Going out with a Girl alone for the first time.

@sdas86 (6076)
Malaysia
December 13, 2008 12:04am CST
Hi, Few days ago, I contacted a friend of mine whom I have not met long time ago in Facebook. We chatted and share a lot of experience. She has changed a lot. Today, I am going to ask her out to hang out at coffee shop. I think that it is quite weird going out with a girl, just two of us. Do you think it is weird? Should I ask my other friends to go as well? I don't want to feel awkward and I am scared that I can't find a topic to talk about.
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15 responses
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
Ooh!! So how did it go??^_^ Im thinking it went well. Did you guys hang out again after that? How was it? Would love to hear from you. But if you prefer not to thats okay. Glad that you asked a friend out.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
23 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks. Actually, she is quite busy so we still haven't have time to meet up.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
24 Dec 08
Oh! okay.. Well, why not try again sometime between after Christmas and before the New Years. Sort of like a celebration with friends before the year 2008 waves goodbye..? or just you two could work as well GoodLuck!^_^
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Good for you! I wouldn't ask my friends to go unles you ask her "do you want to hang out with me and my friends at the coffee shop." In that case it would be ok. Don't worry about not having anything to say..most girls are pretty talkative and will start the conversations.If not just talk about some of the things you talked about while chatting.If you know what she's in to then you can bring that up and let her talk. You can do it!
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks. She is asking me to join her with some of her friends. So, I think that I will feel very shy and awkward.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Call in the troops then..lol..you'll have your friends for comfort and she'll have hers.You can just make it a group thing.Sounds like she might be a little nervous too.Don't worry you'll charm them all.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
15 Dec 08
here you go... hahahah at last you will be able to have a date. If you did ask her to have a date, did you tell her that you plan to invite a friend? maybe she doesn't want you to have other companion? maybe she wants only the two of you? Well, there.s no problem if you tell her about it. But for me, If I am that lady I would be interested to know if this meeting is exclusive for the two of you or there are other people to be with you? It doesn't matter as long as she will not be turned off to know are person who is scared to meet a lady alone. Be courageous, Just relax..if the lady observed a man who is nervous? she is turned off.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
She asks me to join her and her friends to meet up. Anyway, if she asks me to meet up with her and some of her friends, I think it is better for me to bring my friends too. If not, I think I cannot join their topics because her friends are all girls.
• India
14 Dec 08
hi you just go ahead,never become nervous to people whom u like more and u should go alone because she can share all things she will be so nice to talk with you.so what nervous will be there first time you are seeing so and be in confidence because same feeling she also felt.And u said you have shared a lot of experience then why you feel shy and nervous and no problem all the best dude.....
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
I hope to go alone but she asks me to join her group of friends to meet up.
@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
owhhhhh you're nervous, don't be! :) take it easy. I always go out alone with a girl or guy like a date. Just be yourself and relax it is okay to have a pause in between the conversation just stay confident silent is good sometimes. Nothing weirf aboit it just don;t feak out :p Good Luck to you.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Thanks for the advice. I will try to relax myself.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
14 Dec 08
Hi there, Congrats on your first date! I have been there too, and the whole thing can scare the "crapola" right out of you. Although, my first date was a while ago, the truth be told, I still get nervous the first time I meet anyone new. I think it is natural because we want people to like us. First of all, take the time to have a shower and brush your teeth. I'm not trying to be a smart a$$, but honestly, a man who smells good, goes way up to the top of the list in my opinion. Then, try to relax and just be yourself. If you find, you're getting all nervous and can't think of anything to say try asking her a question. If you get the other person talking about themselves than it should be easier to keep the conversation going. Besides, you said you've already chatted frequently so you know that you share similar interests. If you've run of things to say, fallback on one of those topics. Remember, just try and have fun and relax! I'm sure you'll do fine, and that both of you will have a good time. Good luck to you, and be sure to come back after your first date and let us know how it went. Have fun!
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks. I think I will be nervous too but I will try to control it.
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
Maybe u should take the time to know more about her. just be yourself, don't hesitate, have a nice talk about the times you've missed. and If you both like each, probably you really have to deal with it. Goodluck. you can make bro.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks.
@LCHBheart (167)
• Singapore
13 Dec 08
I think that it is ok to hang out alone. Some ladies actually prefer hanging out with only 1 or 2 friends instead of a whole group. A great way to start a conversation is something that starts with 'have you heard?'. But whatever you do, don't make your friend feel that she is talking to herself or that you are ignoring her.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
She asks me to hang out with her gang of friends. I do not really know her friends, so I think it will be a bit awkward.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Just be yourself, Since you are old friends, you will find things to talk about in no time. Always start with a statement like, I'm so glad to meet you after all this time. Look straight in her eyes and she will know you are telling the truth, then just let nature take over, she's as nervous as you are inside.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
You are right. Maybe she is as nervous as me. So, I just have to be normal.
13 Dec 08
It's not unusual to be nervous on a first date. Don't worry about thinking up things to talk about, she'll probably do most of the talking anyway and girls like a good listener. Just go with the flow of the conversation, get a feeling for what your common interests are and don't forget to compliment her on her appearance. You'll be fine, just relax and enjoy yourself.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Hi, Yeah, maybe I just let her talk. I will listen.
@goodtogo (150)
• Pakistan
13 Dec 08
Going out with a girl for the first time was a very good experience for me.i invited her in KFC.we got burgers sat together for a long time.and it was not weird at all.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks. Maybe I can invite her to go to KFC or McDonald.
• India
13 Dec 08
hey are many to talk start by talking about her dress or about her hair going out with a girl is perfectly common and there is no wrong in it and you need not feel that is most unusual or start about a general topic such has about personal life and about her intrest
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks for the tips.
• India
13 Dec 08
So this is ur 1st dateee congratzzzz make ur date kool n happy......... As im a girllll i may give u a tips which may be more helpfullll... So, as u saying she is ur childhood matee this meet wont be that strange yet a bit intresting!!!!!!!So,, be kool n well dressed hey 1 imp thing u must make 1st impresion is the best impression keep this in mind!!! So, mind that any thng u do ther will counts to her..so wat u does is that,u take her to gud hang out plzce which inturn resembles ur taste.....ANd 1 thng that must b apubic placee...next sk her taste wat she would like to have n order tht giv importance to her tste...nd talk to her ur pst things memorble momentss 1 thing neeverbore her .........tke some thing new never repeat the things.....Hey 1 more thing u can reapet the dilogss which would praise her ...but tht paising must beee genuinee then u r sucess with ur date mann!!!!and u never say we shall leave ...let u giv chance to her and wen she sayyu never sayy okk then bbye we shall not at all u say plzzz we shall stay for a while....never discuss abt nxt meet i mean never ask her her again wen ur meeting anii....u just say hope we shall meet againnn u knww these small thngss u need to concernn n ther ur successful 1st dateee!!!hopee this helpss u!!!
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Great tips. Thanks a lot. I am very new to this dating stuff. Your tips will be very helpful o me. Thanks.
• India
13 Dec 08
Dude!! Congrats on your first date. Dont be nervous. Ive been through this phase. It does get some kinda awkward, but just keep on talking and conversation will make its way automatically. Don't be concious like "Oh god m running outta topics", just let her do the talking. Girls love to talk and that's the way to their heart. Lol. Best of luck bro. Have fun, and yeah!! You pay the bill, not her. Let us know what happens.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks for the response. She ask me to join her with her friends around 3 or 4 friends. I think that I will become an alien in their gang. It is quite scary.
• United States
13 Dec 08
Find out what she likes, be yourself, and listen to what she has to say. Be there for her.
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 08
Hi, Thanks for your response.