do what you want to me, but never touch my husband!

Philippines
December 13, 2008 2:58am CST
hello all! i just want to know if how many of you are like this. i have a friend who is very kind and generous. she is lively and vivacious and is a good friend. she loves hanging out with friends. she is very rich, too and her husband is the same. they both come from very good families. anyway, she is very forgiving, even if you gossip about her etc. but what she could not stand are women who would like to get to her husband. her husband is not really that handsome or cool, but he has a lot of money, and there are really women who would like to get to him, you know, to be a querida or something. he has nice cars and all that. that is what my friend can't stand. she says she becomes the devil incarnate when her husband is the concern. how about you? would you fight for or watch your husband like that? would you jealously guard your husband? would you give your all just to protect your marriage? take care all and God bless you! merry christmas!
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16 responses
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
I think I would fight till the end for my family, but you cannot be guarding someone 24/7; there must be enough trust in the relationship. I would like to think that my husband loves me and, although there may be temptations out there from time to time he values my daughter and I too much to put our little family in jeopardy. I really believe that and I trust him completely. I am not naive as I have been in less than trustworthy relationships in the past and I am no fool when it comes to fidelity. You do have to let go some and trust your partner, but more importantly trust yourself to be able to handle whatever he does.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
By way forgot to say Merry Christmas to you too!
• United States
16 Dec 08
Honestly, I'm more defensive about the ones I love than I am when my own reputation is at hand. I have made numerous people cower over something they've said about my boyfriend or a friend. My mother's husband is a perfect example. He's ... well ... "unstable," and I can't stand the man. He's apologized to ME more times than I can remember for something he's said or done, yet never apologizes to my mom. She's not... quite as scary as I am, though. Haha! I'm not easily angered, but when I am... you don't want to be on my bad side!!
@eshwarik (180)
• United States
16 Dec 08
It does not matter how handsome your husband is, I personally don't like if some other woman tries to get my husband. He is mine. That is how normally a woman is I guess. It does not matter whether my husband is rich or not, handsome or not, none of matter all that matter is he is my husband, If someone tries to get my husband I will not spare that woman or my husband.
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
Well,there's nothing about my partner that would make girls fall but it's the other way around.Well,he doesn't get jealous as I tell him EVERYTHING from the attempted suitors to the stalkers or whatever.I'm always honest.I never lie to him.
@violeta_va (4842)
• Australia
14 Dec 08
I would not guard him 24/7 he knows what I feel and how I feel about him and what is going to happen if he ever cheats on me he knows that he will walk out of our house with a suitcase and never come back because I would never let him. I dont think that every women is after my husbands and have no reason to think that (he is not brad pitt). I would do everything to protect my family but I dont opsess with it 24/7. I would hate it if he was doing it to me
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
14 Dec 08
Being jealous can be a very bad thing. I believe in trust and without that you have nothing. I would never fight for any man. There's absolutely nothing good that can come from that kind of insecurity. Money or no money, makes no difference to me. I don't share my husband with other women and I never need to worry about it. We know were we stand in our marriage and in our belief. Thank You my friend.
@LCHBheart (167)
• Singapore
14 Dec 08
My best way to protect the marriage is to show that I love and trust him. And that I would take a lot of his money if he cheats on me...
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I don't see myself being like that although I'm sure it is a very tough spot to be in. There just has to a great deal of trust. I have dated men who have been in bands and that is much the same sort of thing. I just have to trust that my man has enough love for me to be faithful. I try to be a good person and a good person to be with. I would not want to be with a man who could be persuaded to cheat on me.
@hotsummer (10309)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
in my case, i would react depending also on waht kind of partner i have. if i can be assured of mypartner fidelity then i would not worry. but if i know my partner is some kind of flirty person, then i would definitely guard against those peopel trying to get near my partner.
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
any wife will be very protective of her family. i too would protect my family with my life and from those that would try to ruin it. happy mylotting!!!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Hi spoiled..I'd be ok with a little flirting and I'm not the jealous type at all. I might get my feathers ruffled if there was touchy feely stuff going on or if the woman was outright ugly with me but couldn't get enough of my husband.I guess it would also depend on how my husband reacted to the attention.I wouldn't watch him without reason.I guess I might become the devil to if I felt threatened and yes,I would protect my marriage.
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
yes, if time comes and me and my boyfriend will get married, I would be like you friend also. Especially when there are lots of girls who wants to be with my husband in the future. He is my husband, because I love him. We were blessed in the chuch to be partners. To be husband and wife. We are the genuine partners. So I would not let anyone to destroy our marriage. I want to have a peaceful life, that is, to be a good wife to my husband. To be the center of his life. To be the only woman in her heart. I don't want other woman to act as his wife too. Not because I'm selfish but because I know that that is right. One is to one should be the case. I think jealousy is also a sign of love, it's because we don't want others to go in between our relationship. So, in that case, I would also guard my husband. It's because some women, though they already know that a guy is already taken, they still keep on making moves to get the guy they want. And i don't want those kind of women. Those who dont know how to respect relationship of others for their own happiness. They should find someone single for them!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Hello spoiled311! When my husband is here, many girls would want to get her too maybe because they think he is rich. I am a filipino and my husband is american and most filipinos think that american has a lot of money because of the value of peso to dollar. I admit I got jealous sometimes, but I trust my husband. I did not really guard him, he just wanted to be with me all the time. I think he guarded me..hehhe..I am a jealous wife but I am not the kind who will watch for him. Once I know that he cheated on me, one thing I will sure do, "leave him"
@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 08
Personally, I would talk to my husband about it if that was mine of course and see what he says about it. Obviously we need to talk and I want to build a higher level of trust between us that I won't have to worry about that matter. I won't guard him or be jealously watch him. In my opinion being jealous is a lack of personality. But I think that if I had married him at the first place then I should have trust him and don't doubt it. But then communication makes perfect.
@esantra (84)
• United States
13 Dec 08
How promiscuous is the girl being? I don't like jealousy. I think it is a negative emotion. I hate it. I usually leave the would-be lovers alone together while I go occupy myself making money online or something equally vane. I guess this is why I am not married. I also do not care if he leaves for days or even weeks. Do you think maybe I just haven't met the right one, yet?
• India
13 Dec 08
Where you have respect and trust, there is no need for jealousy. No I would definitely not guard my hubby like your friend. Rather I am sure he knows his limits himself and no matter how much a woman might try, he will definitely not yield...:-) When I read your topic, I had this interpretation in mind."Do what you want to me, but never touch my husband" is what I would think in case of any tragic event, I would want the maximum damage to occur to me and I will give my last breath to take care of my hubby. I want my destiny to know that whatever bad is in store let it come to me...I can face it....whatever happiness is in store let it go to my hubby.....because if he is happy I will be happy!!! Howz that??? ;-)