Do you understand people that hate their parents?

AnakSuNamun, Yes, I understand completely why some people hate their' parents. You were obviously one of the lucky ones but some of us were not so fortunate. Some of us were born into homes where children were not really wanted and were horribly abused. Some people should not be allowed to have children. It has taken me my entire life to learn to forgive my parents. I don't hate them anymore but I don't associate with then much either. I live as far away as possible from them. They live in one country and I live in another and that is close enough for me. I don't allow my children to be around them because I won't allow them to treat my children badly. A person has to choose to be a good parent. Some of us drew the short stick and got parents who chose to be cruel.

Yes, actually, I do. People in my family are very abusive, both verbally and physically. My father left my mother and me. I was raised by my grandmother mostly. My mother worked a lot and her boyfriend is the biggest @$$hole I have ever known. If my mother's boyfriend wants to ruin peoples lives, he will do so, he is that big of a jerk. I completely understand why people hate their parents, just look at what their parents do. My cousin's mother used to slap her over the head all of the time and call her a brat. At first, I thought that that was just what some parents do, but as I got older, I knew otherwise. She called social services on her mother and father when she got to high school, and she hates her mom, but at the same time, it seems like she is still controlled by her parents because of what they can give her, which is money. Money, sadly, is the life-blood of my family. It corrupts them, and the people of my family become slaves to it. Honestly, I think that the world would be better without it, but money, technology, religion, and politics are what control our society. You want to know why children hate their parents, you have your answer.

My parents always gave me the impressio Iwas in the way. By the time I started kindergarten, my brother and sister were away at college, so I really didn't fit in with the family, and they never let me forget it. I ran away at age 15, and never went back. I tried to be in touch a few times over the years, but it was really a disaster. I haven't seen or spoken with any blood relative in more than 20 years, and that's definitely a huge contributor to my happiness. Nobody should hang around where they're not wanted, or where they receive even menta and verbal abuse.

My mom was always angry at me, and it did not matter how much I helped around and keep my mouth shut. I guess it was because she had me at a very young age and felt I'm responsible for taking away her freedom. I had lots of moments when I would rather be homeless than going back to har. My father was a nice man, but never at home.Work was more important.And when I was with him, never, ever came to my head to complain abouth mom. As you say, I was brought up in a culture that sis you have to honour and respect your parents not matter what. So, I guess, I just took my time to grow and leave the house. Once out, I barely kept in touch.But I'm all the time polite and respectful.Parents are parents.

Just generation gap.There is a generation gap between you and your old folks.When you are older,you will be understand.

I think hate is such a strong strong word! I love my mom to the moon and back but my dad hasnt ever hardly been there but when it was at his own convience i dont hate my dad but its really hard to love someone that has just forgotten you exist. no i dont hate him but i dont think i love him either! but lots of people have different reasons like negelance and abuse and things like that. and some people its because they would not except the person they loved or things like that every one has different reasons for everything but i dont think that anyone should hate!

Yes I do coz am I one such person who, lets say, does not agree with most of what my parents did and how they brought me up. Hate is a very strong word and its kind of final so I do not like using that word. However, I have a huge huge issue over the way my mom brought me up. At 36 and being a mom myself, I can understand some of her issues, even then I feel she could have done better in trying to understand her only child and not imposing herself on me everytime for every thing. I also have a huge issue against dad for not taking any interest in my upbringing, his idea being that my mom was there for me so he was free to concentrate on his business. I am their only child. Yes, they are the only folks I have and I cant sever my ties with them and cant hate them either, but as I said, I hold lot of grudges against them. Yes, you are correct when you say that we take after them but just because I remember my own sufferings, I take extra care with my son.

[i]Hi Anak, I am very blessed to have a very wonderful parents and I am thankful for that... I will not judge for some people who hate their parents, I know they have their reasons and whatever are those reason, it is something very heavy... My good friend hates her Mom...Her Mom works far when she was growing up and they didn't spend a lot of time together and when she finished COllege, her Mom decided to just quit her job away and live with the family and she never showed to her Mom that she cares![/i]

They are mentally sick and remember that one day they also have to be old, to be a parent what will be their feelings when their child say "we hate you". Parents are soo precious its our moral and religious duty to take good care of them.

I don't know how they can hate their parents. But one thing is sure, there must be some reasons for the same, either it is a real problem or it is a misunderstanding. There must be some disagreements in between them and I think 'hate their parents', is a rare case. We should respect and take care of our parents.

yes i do. because all people are different. Maybe that person only hates his/her parents because both parties can't handle their differences.

yes parents do bring you into this world, but any nut job can get pregnant. just because you bring a kid into the world, doesn't mean your a fit parent or even make the right choices for your kids.

I agree with your views and i too feel bad to see older people being ill treated and traumatised by their own children and family.I too have arguments with my mother and older aunts but that is part of life and one forgets these little things and moves on.it never come in the way of my love or feelings for my parents.I have the greatest regard, respect and love for my parents and grand parents and feel such agony each time they fall sick .the fear of loosing them makes me feel even closer to them :)

when I was in my country i once hated my father, why? coz he always drunk and if we talked to him and give advice he shout at us. When his not drunk we told him what he did when the time his drunk and he don't believe us and said that if ever he did that it will not happend anymore and then he go out and buy another drink. He was always fell down and bang his head in the flour at midnight and we all woke up from sleep and so disturbing coz we have work the following day. Now that i am here in the USA my sister email me and said my father is still always drink so much and I am thankful that i don't problem that anymore and now that i am here i already missed him so much and sometimes i called him and talk to him give advice and my hatred is gone already and of course i love him so much still.

Parents are indeed a blessing to many but sometimes a curse for others, you have to look at from both the perspectives. Parents are human being just like us and can do right and wrong, they are after all humans. Everyone goes to a phase of life that either strengthens the bond between parents and children or weakens them. Although many people do not understand how can someone hate their parents but the problem is that they aren't in the shoes of other people. Now if you read the news these days you see that there are a number of incidents where the child is physically and even sexually abused, not only that you have parent's getting convicted for attempt to murder or in case murder of their child. You are very lucky to have loving parents but not all the people are lucky, i love my parents too but let's just say my circle of friend's is quite vast and as they say you learn things from different perspectives. Hope this clears up your confusion :)

I love my parents and they mean the world to me but there are times too that they just frustrates me and angers me. Nobody is perfect and there is also the thing called 'generation gap'. There are parents also who are just so bad with their children and there are children too who are just as determined to do what they want even if its not good for them. Differences. In order not to hate each other and to clear the air, one must find a common ground and talk it out but some just choose to let the animosity grow until they come to hate each other.

well,children weren't asked to be born so parents can't expect a child to like them all the time.

in my case i don't hate my parents and never will i ever be. maybe in some people there's a reason for them to hate their parents, one of these reasons maybe because they abandon them when they were still a baby. or maybe their parents were not able to send them to school instead they let their children work for them. a lot of possible reasons that would result with this issue, but whatever it is your parents will still be your parents and no one will be able to replace them.

As parents are the one who look after us,who take care about us,who guides our future,and lots of things they do for us...We shoukd think that they are every thing for us...But,when they get older some type of emotions will create with in them,,,if they control such emotions then every thing will be fine..We should take care of them when they get older..and we must not loose them at any cost because they gave born to us...

hmmm ...a new life on this earth is the best gift given by parents to us...and i think none of the gifts given by anyone can be as special as this life on earth...but hating parents can be for the time being..may be we may ignore our parents for some time but we cant hate them...and in the case of people who hate them may be they mst be going thru some phase or hardships with them..it varies from person to person and i totally agree with them...they hv their own feelings and we need to respect them