Do u lie to your self?

@riyasam (16578)
India
December 25, 2008 9:11am CST
i mean like there is something you know isn't true but you lie to your self for your satisfaction!! just wondering.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 09
I tell myself I'm 27 every day. But the person in the mirror is constantly disagreeing with me!
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
he he,i play snow white with my daughter .in that i am the most beautiful women.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 09
I'm sure it's true! especially to your daughter!
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
now,according to my daughter.i am very pretty.GOKwhen that perspective will change.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
5 Jan 09
sometimes i just lied to myself.like my husband asking me if i still have money even i dont have enough but i still say yes because we have so many bills to pay.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
hats off to you.i am also careful,when dealing with my hubbys feelings.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
6 Jan 09
agree, because as a wife i always concern the bills.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
7 Jan 09
the bills part is in my hubbys department,but i take care not to put him down(a trait which i have learnt from my mother)
@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Dec 08
Yes.I always lie to myself that it is alright to go for another drink.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
i lie to myself that that having one more choclate wont affect my health.(i have problem of piles and choclates are to be avoided in that.)
@balasri (26554)
• India
16 Jan 09
Isn't it strange that we always crave for the things that are to be avoided.The more to be avoided the more craving.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
17 Jan 09
yup,forbidden stuff is always sweet.my kids have been forbidden to go to the balcony,i have fear,they will jump out of balcony
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
29 Dec 08
Ha! Ha! A good question. Telling something to myself which is not true cannot be termed as a 'lie'. Sometimes, we keep on doing wishful thinking, knowing fully well, that it is not true, but just to please and make ourselves happy, we start living in an unreal world and start believing in those things, which may not be true in real life.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
you are right,deepak.i also day dream a lot.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 09
We are alike!!
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• India
27 Dec 08
Never lie for oneself. One must have a self image as realistic as possible else he might suffer from underachieving syndrome. Although he is not be capable of doing a job but because of his self image he will try and fail again and again. This will make him very depressed.
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• India
27 Dec 08
and I don't lie for myself
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
i do agree to your thoughts.i do not agree to the big lies.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
25 Dec 08
i am very true to myself.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
even when i say white lies,i am always true to myself.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
5 Jan 09
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
Lying to oneself is crazy, so I think it would be hard deceiving yourself. BUT there are instances when I tried to deny that a particular thing happened and try to erase the memory of it -- but our minds can not lie to us, so it tears me apart still.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
28 Jan 09
reconciling to the fact that it has happenedand that GOD is in control may help.
• United States
20 Jan 09
Of course, life would be pretty bad if I didn't :-P
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
20 Jan 09
thanks for the response
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 09
I feel guilty if I lie so I try to be an upright person. Can never be a good actress trying to act a different person which is only lying to oneself.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
20 Jan 09
even i am so uncomfortable,when i even think of being in others shoes.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
6 Jan 09
i practice telling the truth in my house
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
that is the right way.sometimes i do have wishful perception.
@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
at times in life we come to a situation where we just cant face it and we try to act as if everything is normal and then we lie to ourselves.i had also come to such situation but i overcame it soon.one should be strong to overcome such situation......[",]
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
life does teach one to be strong and courageous.
@zureyna (87)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 09
I wont lie to myself. lying wont bring any benefits. I choose to be more realistic about everything. Accept the truth and find the solution to overcome the problem is the best way. We just wasting our time if we are lying to our self since in the end we will realize the fact and start to find the solution. Yes i know, hard to accept the truth but try again and again ok.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
yup,it is better to accept the reality ,once and for all.
• United States
30 Dec 08
I think we all lie to our selves at one time or another. I may be lie to my self when I say my grand baby may not be mentally retarded because he has a cyst in his brain while in the womb.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
cyst in the brain will not always lead to mental retardation.the prognosis is quite good.please think positively.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
I do it for motivation. like financially I tell myself that things will be better tomorrow but I actually never believe it until it happens hahahah also when I am hurt I tell myself it's ok I will get over it but the fact is I don't get over it until I have my revenge so yeah hahaha I have to find a way to be true to myself because it isn't helping
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
i think this type of thinking helps me to worry less.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
27 Dec 08
No Riya I can never do that. No one can do that, that's how I feel. How can you make yourself believe when you know the truth! Many times people are in DENIAL. They would not take the truth, the reality. That way they think they are happier but I feel, it's just our endeavor in vain. You cannot cheat our soul, can we?
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
yes mimpi,you are right.when i suddenly became ill ,i sort of went into self-denial,that everything was allright with me.now that i have accepted the truth,i am relieved.
• United States
27 Dec 08
i dont see much point in it since youll know its a lie anyways
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
you have got a point there.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
25 Dec 08
I'm pretty sure i've done that before. I'm not sure what it was about but I've done it.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Jan 09
thats a good sign-acceptance.to err is human,naa
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
25 Dec 08
I don't lie to myself because it is myself so I know a lie, lol, I like to see reality as best I can it is very important to me.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
i just twist the truth,so that i will feel good.
• India
25 Dec 08
i dont think i lie but i justify to myself if i did something wrong to make myself better...
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
i do agree with you.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
25 Dec 08
We all do it most unknowingly but many just to survive. Often the truth is how you perceive things. Something viewed from one side looks entirely different when viewed from someplace else. The lie comes in when you know there is more then one view but can't accept it.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
5 Jan 09
yup,there is something called as self denial,not able to accept reality.the healing process starts ,as soon as one accepts the reality.