One Merry Christmas - hold the expectations

@arkaf61 (10882)
Canada
December 25, 2008 8:48pm CST
Keeping in line with my musings about special days and great expectations for same being a recipe for disaster, I have decided not to have any special expectations for this Christmas. I didn't try to make everything just perfect. I didn't expect that every one would be at home at the same time having a wonderful Christmas dinner, I didn't dream about presents that would be exactly what each one wanted. I didn't even allow myself to wish for an uneventful time. It worked :):) Maybe it wasn't the stuff that dreams are made of, but this Christmas was actually quite joyful and relaxing. Ok so hubby and daughter were working until 9:30. They didn't eat dinner with us. But we saved them a nice plate each and they enjoyed it once they got home.( hubby's aunt home, that is. Which is where we were last night and again today ). I made a few things to take, but not the usually slave over the oven and stuff thing. I wasn't tired :) I didn't allow auntie to make this huge meal that one loves but feels like having a train caboose and all in the stomach after. We went for light, not too elaborate instead which equals less work and stress. We didn't stay too long either - since we had two people that had been working since quite early.- So at 1am we were back home - and sleep like angels :) Ok so there was a hitch or two today, but since I wasn't expecting everything to be perfect, it didn't bring any negative feelings. Hubby cooked lunch - this giving auntie a break , and also preventing her from cooking way too much food LOL, And we spent some nice time playing board games after. Instead of staying for diner - and filling up again with way more food than what we needed - we actually came back home at about 6pm, had tea - Yes I had tea!!! LOL - and watched some videos that we had rented earlier. If I think about it... this way basically perfect. And I didn't end up with hurt feelings or frustrated as often happens. So from now on... I'm holding the expectations as much as I can. How about you all?
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 08
Well it has been the same as every Year quiet and relaxing no worrying of a drunken Husband coming in and causing Arguments, no Arguments before he went out, no hung over Husband Just quiet and relaxing with the Kids I am returning Home on the 31st as my Son is out and my Daughter is working Love and Hugs to you and I am so glad that you had a good time this Year
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
Glad you're enjoying your time as well. I used to get so worried about everything being fine and expecting so much.... I guess we really learn as we age LOL
@drannhh (15229)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Sounds perfect to me. We are having a lovely quiet day at home and didn't put on the dog too much, although I will say that dinner was GOOD ! Glad you had a nice time and hope your New Year goes as well.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
It is great isn't it? Calm, relaxing and enjoying each minute :)