One Merry Christmas - hold the expectations
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
December 25, 2008 8:48pm CST
Keeping in line with my musings about special days and great expectations for same being a recipe for disaster, I have decided not to have any special expectations for this Christmas.
I didn't try to make everything just perfect. I didn't expect that every one would be at home at the same time having a wonderful Christmas dinner, I didn't dream about presents that would be exactly what each one wanted. I didn't even allow myself to wish for an uneventful time.
It worked :):)
Maybe it wasn't the stuff that dreams are made of, but this Christmas was actually quite joyful and relaxing.
Ok so hubby and daughter were working until 9:30. They didn't eat dinner with us. But we saved them a nice plate each and they enjoyed it once they got home.( hubby's aunt home, that is. Which is where we were last night and again today ). I made a few things to take, but not the usually slave over the oven and stuff thing. I wasn't tired :) I didn't allow auntie to make this huge meal that one loves but feels like having a train caboose and all in the stomach after. We went for light, not too elaborate instead which equals less work and stress.
We didn't stay too long either - since we had two people that had been working since quite early.- So at 1am we were back home - and sleep like angels :)
Ok so there was a hitch or two today, but since I wasn't expecting everything to be perfect, it didn't bring any negative feelings.
Hubby cooked lunch - this giving auntie a break , and also preventing her from cooking way too much food LOL, And we spent some nice time playing board games after.
Instead of staying for diner - and filling up again with way more food than what we needed - we actually came back home at about 6pm, had tea - Yes I had tea!!! LOL - and watched some videos that we had rented earlier.
If I think about it... this way basically perfect. And I didn't end up with hurt feelings or frustrated as often happens.
So from now on... I'm holding the expectations as much as I can.
How about you all?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 08
Well it has been the same as every Year quiet and relaxing no worrying of a drunken Husband coming in and causing Arguments, no Arguments before he went out, no hung over Husband
Just quiet and relaxing with the Kids
I am returning Home on the 31st as my Son is out and my Daughter is working
Love and Hugs to you and I am so glad that you had a good time this Year