Divorce- A last resort or a first option?

I'm divorced, and I'm afraid that once I'd made the decision to split I didn't make any efforts to resurrect the relationship. There were factors involved which I won't go into here, but I used to wonder what would have happened had I not been so single minded. I'm sad that my marriage ended, but it's not something that I actively regret as I would not be where I am now had it continued.

Well I think people are very quick to run to divorce there are so many people who just give up and walk away without trying. Like Kat I really don't believe in divorce either (at least not until you try to work things out- and I mean really work things out). It's too easy to get divorced these days and I blame that on individual states- they are the ones that set the rules on how a divorce happens- they need to make it harder for people to get divorced- I think! Good question- Kat!!!

I think people are too quick to divorce. It has become so easy to do anymore that people just go for it rather than fight for their marriage. I think that divorce should still be an option but no one should be allowed to just do it. I think they should make people try counseling first before letting them go through with the divorce. Unless like you said there was cheating or abuse or stuff like that. I think people shouldn't get married unless they are willing to work and fight to keep the marriage going.

I am divorced. We did not try counseling and I am very happy to be divorced. I am now remarried and very happy with my husband. I married my first husband because I was pregnant and everyone told me it was the right thing to do. Well it wasnt. He was a lousy husband. He didnt work and he neglected the kids and only wanted to party. He had no plans of growing up anytime soon. We were married for 9 years. I stuck it out because I didnt want to get divorced. Then he left me for the someone else...WOO HOO! He wanted to get counseling and I RAN not walked to get a divorce. I didnt love him and didnt want to get married to him. I stayed as long as I did for the children and because everyone said I should. Now I know the truth. People get married for different reasons, who is to say what the right one is? People grow and change and the person you married may not even be someone you like in 10 years. Marriage is hard work and I thank the Gods Divorce is an option. We as humans make mistakes and sometimes marriage is one of those. To all those who got it right the first time...well done! To everyone else...Keep learning from your mistakes!

If there are children in the marriage then that is a very good reason to try counselling to get the mariage back on track. Divorce should only be used as a last resort - if there is simply no chance for that marriage to survive. Personally, my religion does not believe in divorce. If my husband was abusive to me then I would have sought an annulment by the Church on the grounds that he had not kept to his marriage vows. It takes about 7 months for an annulment in each country. Many people think that an annulment can only be had if the marriage had not been consummated but this is not true. If a man is physically abusive to his wife then he has broken his vows before God to cherish his wife. I would have done it that way as I would never stay with a man who abused me in any way. Blessings

I feel that divorce is very muchly so a last resort. I believe marriage is for life, if your not sure whether you want to spend your life with someone, then you shoudn't get married in the first place. I think it should be very difficult to get a divorce except in cases where domestic violence or adultery are involved. But in general it there should be many options such as counceling that must be tried before divorce is even considered. I think the biggest problem with marriages anymore is that it is just way to easy to get married nowadays. My wife and I just got married recently and we were offended to find out just how easy it is to get married here in Colorado. We went to go get our marriage license and brought our IDs, birth certificates and social security cards thinking we would definately need all of that. All they wanted was our IDs, they took all of 5 minutes preparing our marriage licencse, and then told us we can self officiate the wedding if we choose to do so. So basically you could walk in with just IDs, get the license in 5 minutes, both sign it and turn it right back in and be married just like that. To me, that is wrong on every possible level. It should be hard to get married, and even harder to get divorced.