will you tell the police?

@xtian04 (282)
Philippines
January 2, 2009 10:42am CST
Your bestfriend was involved in a serious crime. He was hiding from the police authority & asking for your help. What would you do? Will you help your friend or will you tell the police about him?
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21 responses
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
2 Jan 09
Very hard decision to make (especially what he did), if this person is very close to you like a family member then most people will not turn him in. I would try to convince him to turn himself in.
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
I won't forget my online friend from Singapore, who left me a line for friendship like this...Anyone can stand by you when you're right but a true friend will stand by you even if you're wrong. I will advise him to surrender to the police and face the charges and then the help of friends will just come in.
• United States
3 Jan 09
Bravo!!!!!! I agree Sarafina50
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
Thanks Sarafina, nice to read such a line like this...Happy New Year...
• Norway
2 Jan 09
I dont know what is the right thing to do. I dont want to be blamed by him if his life would be miserable behind bars and after that. I also dont want to be guilty of not turning him over to the police after he have done something really serious. If i were on your part, i would wish that he havent told me about it, so i wont be in that kind of situation. But I hope your friend, didnt raped or murdered someone because that would really be a big issue to decide.
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@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
this isn't a true story. :p tahnks for you response though. :P
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@di1159 (1580)
• United States
2 Jan 09
If it were serious, i.e. murder, rape, etc. I would have to turn him in. I don't think I could live with myself if I were to assist someone guilty of such a thing. I can't see myself being friends with anyone who would commit a serious crime.
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@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
what if you know the person so well, he has been a good person all his life and what happened was a just a mistake? will you be one of the people to turn him down?
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• India
3 Jan 09
well i wouldnt help him or i wold help him one time n then tell him to not come back n i would distance myselft from him/her n i would certainly not tell the police happy lotting and have a blessed new year
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• Canada
3 Jan 09
I don't really know that's a hard decision if my friend called me because he stole something valuable or something he really wanted then I would just tell him to return it if nobody knew who it was that stole it. Then I would tell him to leave a note apologizing and say why he stole it. But if it was something really bad, and my friend told me to get onto the case and help him out I would probably most likely tell the police on him.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
3 Jan 09
Here in the US, one is considered innocent until proven guilty. No one should fear the police. If I were aware of a serious crime, I could not remain quiet. Harboring a fugitive is a crime. Hiding him would make me as guilty as he. I don't know what I'd do if I were in another country where circumstances are different and officials frequently corrupt.
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• Canada
3 Jan 09
I think it would really depend on what the crime was. If i thought he didnt deserve to got to jail i would help him out.
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• United States
3 Jan 09
You gave two premises, one if he committed a serious crime and the other if he just made a mistake, but the answers remain the same. If he hurt someone by beating or killing, stealing or raping or in any other way, he has to face the consequences. If you don't want your name involved, make an anonymous call to the police. Take into account that eventually you may be involved anyway. You do your friend no favor by allowing him/her to escape unpunished. When that happens, quite often another crime is committed. Knowing and not telling is a crime in itself as it is considered aiding and abetting a criminal. This could result in jail time for you. Is it worth it? If your friend committed the crime and then told you about it, knowing if you keep a secret you face jail time for doing so, is he/she truly a friend?
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• United States
3 Jan 09
That is a very hard question to answer. But the thing is are you willing to go down with your best friend when he or she gets caught? Because you can get in trouble as well for hiding the person. I would have to ask my own best friend to turn him or her self in. Its not going to be an easy thing for you or him.
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@frygirl (382)
• United States
3 Jan 09
first off if i had any friends i guess it would matter on what the crime was that the friend committed but until iam in that situation i dont really know how th respond to that question.
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@clampz (21)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
i will ask him to turn himself in but if he doesnt want to, i will not force him.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Well to be honest I would tell him to go to the police, if he did not I would call them only because it would be safer for him in the long run. I had several children not all of them were perfectly wonderful and yes they got into trouble, anyway when one of them was 9 this one stole from the store while with a relative, I was told about it and took my child and the product back to the store and sent them back to see the manager, hoping something good would come out of it, needless to say the child was arrested once more and we found out that only time and several sessions would help this child overcome. Now this child is very upstanding, and well behaved, but in the long run the time with the police did a world of good. Sarafina50
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I would tell him to turn himself in with a lawyer by his side. And if not he would have to leave as I would have to as you could get charged with the same thing as him. Or if they are nice just aiding and a betting if I'm right on that. I don't go to jail for no one as I have a son. He is now 18 but that has alway's been my rule. And I tell all my friends that. If you like jail then yes help him. Have a good day
• United States
2 Jan 09
For me i would have to try to convince him to turn himself in that it would look better than not and that if he didn't i would inform him i would have to turn him in and that i don't appreciate being involved in a situation that could lead myself to being in jail
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@mkmoney (468)
2 Jan 09
i think this depends on if he has done something very very bad and he deserves to go then i you should tell or if his done something minor and doesnt deserve to go then you shoudnt tell!
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@rmehta (32)
• India
2 Jan 09
it is an serious matter.If he involved in really serious matter i will surely for the name of the justice.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
i would first calm down and then would make her understand that it is better if she surrenders herself.then i would talk to lawyer first and then after consulting would do as my lawyers says happy new year.take care[",]
• United States
5 Jan 09
I think I would encourage him to turn himself in. If he refused, I don't know that I'd turn him in (although I should); but if I'm questioned by the police, I won't lie for my friend.
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
of course