need some advice

It sounds like a bad situation and I am very sorry that you have lost your children through this. It is something else how a good lawyer can have so much lee way with things. I am not good with legalities and that nature but the only thing I can think of is trying to get yourself a lawyer of your own. Sometimes there are associations that can help people like yourself. God bless and take care.

Well, I do know that once custody has been awarded, you have to prove the custodial parent unfit to get them back. They will not change the agreement for just switching lawyers. They consider this traumatic for the kids and try to do what is best for their mental health and emotional status. You can however petition the court to have phone access to them. My stepdad got custody of his son by proving the mother unfit and the court granted her a phonecall to him everyday, BUT if she called multiple times or was bugging they slapped her with contempt charges for harrassment.

I am so sorry to hear that. I know it's very upsetting for a mom. If your ex husband treated your children well, then it's OK. Otherwise I think you have to try to fight for the right to bring up your children. And it's wrong that your ex husband does so to you. You have the rights to see your children. I think solving this problem by the legal way is the last option. Perhaps you can try to talk about it with him at first. And then you talk about it with his family and friends and perhaps they will help you. At least they will talk to him and perhaps he will change his mind. After all, you were couples in the past and for the sake of it, both of you shall be nice to each other. And it's better for children. It's already sad for them because their parents get divorced. If both of you hate each other, it will be worse. I love China

I am sorry to hear that. It must be very hard on you. I was divorced when my children were young as well. My ex tried to get them from me as well. But, I left him because he was not the father I wanted for my children. He could not even get along with money. ect. Anyway, I am great full I got my children, but it was a very hard way to go. I had to work hard everyday and in weekends, I had no time to really have fun with my children. I had to live with my parents. All 5 of us in one house. It was okay. What I am trying to say is, both sides have there good and bad. If your ex is a good father and looks after them good. Then try to enjoy the times you do see the children. I don't think his new women likes it either when you call everyday. It does not help matters. Though I understand your concern. Try to relax. My children are 23 and 21 know. I wish I would have had more time with them. I was working , working and working... That is not easy either. I hope this helps a little. Take care.

I'm sorry to hear this,I think I can feel your sorrow.And I think he is doing things illegal,so you can go to the court and make he get the punishment he should get.I hope you will win your children back.

Well you can do 1 of 2 things take him back to court and fight him for your kids again. Or the next time its your turn to visit with your children and he refuses to let you see them call the police and report him for violating a court order. Make sure you have all the most current paper work with you showing that you have visitations and that he is refusing to let you see your children. If that don't work get a lawyer and charge him with custiodal interference. I am sure that you have more options but those are the only 2 I know of personally. Good luck to you children need to have there mommy in there life as well as there daddy.

hello kerril1981, So sorry to know that you can't even see or talk to your two kids. You can get a lawyer though who is free if you can't afford to pay. Just ask, so can file a petition about it. You are the mother and you have the right to see them and be together once in a while. I know the hardship that you are suffering right now. You need to be strong and get yourself together in one piece. Whatever the reason why you lost over your husband, correct it. So can win your children back.

kerri1981, Some people just take sometime to get back to their senses. Whilst they are still visiting Oz they will never be able to do anything objectively and logical. So, I think the first and best thing to do would be to take a step back and wait for the other party to cool off. This retreat on your part will also be good for your children as there is simply no point for them to witness the unnecessary unpleasant bitterness of their parents. It will also be good to plan ahead on how to keep tabs with your children and what to say to your ex-husband when the both of you meet up. Try to come up with an amicable and acceptable term. Avoid using lawyers as they are not actually representing anyone's interest and the money can be better spent on the children. It may take some time but you should never be too impatient. Rashness here will only makes things worse. Use your time wisely. Take care and have a nice day.

Keeping a kid away from the mother and a mother away from her kids is one of the biggest sin in the world. Maybe you should go to the court, complain about this and get at least one kid at your home. Maybe he is too scared that if the kids start loving you more than him, which is very much obvious, then he will have to lose them. Regards, AJ-Rox

He is in contempt of a court order. Start documenting everything and take him to court. If they find him in comtempt he will have to pay attorney fees and if he keeps doing it they can revert custody back to you. I dealt 3 years with my ex husband.

It sounds like he is breaking the agreement that was court mandated. Legally, he cannot refuse your weekends and holidays. He is breaking the agreement and I would tell him that if he doesn't start to honor the agreement, you will obtain legal counsel. Hopefully, the threat alone will scare him. If not, contact your local government office and ask for assistance finding a lawyer. They should be able to help! I hope it works out for you.

I am not sure how things work where you live but here in Canada my husband had the same problem with one of his exe's. If you have court visitations you should be able to report to the courts and file a complaint every time he does not let you see the kids. You do not need a lawyer for this, then eventually you can appeal to the courts that he is not holding up his end of the court order. I hope this can help you.

You can petition the court to have the issue of custody and/or visitation revisited sicne he is not following the court order. You will have to provide proof. Start keeping a journal of attempts to call and how often you get return calls. Also keep track of your efforts to have visits with your children that have been denied. Also see about getting an impartial third party as a witness to some of it so that they can provide you with a signed affidavit when the matter goes back to court. Depending on where you are and on what grounds they gave your ex-husband physical custody over you there shouldn't be a problem with making the situation more fair.

I think u should try and talk to him about the situation and try to work out things between u and him.You should ask him to put your differences aside for the sake of children. The children do not have any fault in this and he should also understand that. take care. God Bless