Do you work for free?

@dfollin (12780)
United States
January 7, 2009 7:11pm CST
I need to make money,like everyone does.My son has a daughter and he is no longer with her mother.I agreed to babysit while they work.They both either work hours or days that day care centers and most babysitters will not work.I do not charge the the outrageous prices and late fees that day cares charge. There are some people that feel that I am wrong to charge them.Now the mother will not let my son have his daughter as much,so I only watch her when she works.They are split up and she is living with someone else and having another baby.So,I only watch her when she works. Am,I wrong?
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@celticeagle (121017)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jan 09
I think you are right to charge. I would probably give them a break as to what I charged at first. And I would make that plane to them. When I feel they have had time to get on their feet then I would up the price. I think it is only right that you be conpensated and that they be respectful enough to see the right in it.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Yes,I always have charged them a lot less then normal day care would.Plus I will watch her on days and hours that day care and other sitters won't.
@celticeagle (121017)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jan 09
My mom watched my daughter for years and charged me $20 a month. (This was in the 70's.)
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Good deal
• China
8 Jan 09
I thing it's difficult to deal with ...
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
8 Jan 09
well since the mother of this child has been sapping the life out of her son for child support? I would charge her for that very reason...
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Good one! I agree
@triwahyu (26)
8 Jan 09
Mother's worK? Now, in era modern. a lot of kind job for mother witout leave her obligatiot to take care her child. so, if there work in home, why not? Like business online?
@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Both the mother of the child and my son work.She says that she does not like staying at home.
9 Jan 09
The important think is how the mother can handle the duty as mom. It doesn'n matter what the motehr work's. The problem appear when the mother leave her duty for educate her son/daughter. The duty principel mother is as a mom for her child. a lot of broken home because father or mother can't serve her child.
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• United States
8 Jan 09
nope,you're not. i used to help people out with things for free and got taken advantage of. next thing you know you wouldn't have any free time.
@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
This is true.I still get taken advantage of because there were times I was told by the mother that she was working and she wasn't.Or just last weekend I told her that I had plans and she dropped the child here and would not come back till the next day to get her.So much for my plans.She did that other times before and messed up my plans.
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• United States
8 Jan 09
uff.. that's not cool
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
Nope, you're not wrong! Well, you were doing the right thing.. Everyone needs money so it doesn't matter whether you charge a fee to them and besides you were doing your job.. I know that others might think it wrong since you were asking payment from your own son but since you don't other work/job (correct me if I'm wrong) and you need money for daily expenses so I think you have the right to asked for some payment.. There's nothing wrong asking for fee especially if you work for it.. Just don't mind others on the way they think of you.. What is more important is you know that you were not doing bad things or nobody is being hurt in it.. Well, as for me I always do somethings for free.. I don't asked for any payment whether they were my family or friends.. But of course if they were asking me some favor that need to pay something that's the time I'll ask some money from them since I don't have enough money to buy the materials that they need.. But for the labor and other things I won't ask for fee, all I'm asking is just only the expenses need for the particular favor.. I think asking for fee is really depend to the need of a person..
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I have to pay for food and a lot of times I don't have any extra food,Especially that she likes.
@CRIVAS (1819)
• Canada
8 Jan 09
You are not doing anything wrong. I think it is only fair that they help you out if you are helping them. I am watching a child of a friend because I am already a stay at home mom, some people think that I shouldn't be charging her because I am already at home. My response to those people was this: "I might already be home but if I wasn't watching her child as well, I wouldn't have to pay extra for food and snacks." If you are giving them a break on the price, as far as I am concerned that is more than enough. My mother has offered to watch my children when I go back to work in September. She wasn't going to charge me anything because she knows that I don't have a lot of money, but I am still going to be paying her. I think that your son understands and if not, then you shouldn't worry about it too much, I'm sure that when the situations happen to him, he'll learn. I hope that you can take heart from all the positive responses that you have gotten from here.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
My mom did not charge me either when my boys were young because I could not afford it because I did have expenses and was getting no child support.
@Nimbus91 (576)
• United States
8 Jan 09
lol who would work for free when you need money to survive... expenses etc etc... that's why we are here to earn a little money when we have free time hehe
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
There are some people on here that think I am being selfish by charging to care for my grand child.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
8 Jan 09
I don't think you're wrong to charge money. It's difficult when people get divorced. Things that ordinarily would be able to be discussed become issues and everyone is more sensitive.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
They never got married.Almost,but she called it off.They go back and forth.They are nice to each other then a couple of weeks later their not.And Iam caught in the middle because Iam trying to protect my grand daughter from emotional harm.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
8 Jan 09
NO way are you wrong.....As I remember your Sons ex is charging him big time for child support,so I would sure charge her for your baby sitting,she can pay for it since she is sucking your son dry with that high child support...
@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Thanks! And now that it is court ordered that she has to pay me by money order I am going to have to declare it on my taxes and pay income taxes on it.So,I may have to ask for more.If I do not charge her money then I won't have food to feed her when she is here either.
• China
8 Jan 09
hey...it's not the grandparents' duty to babysitter the grandchild. i remember i have read and article that says one country(sorry,i have forgot the name)the goverment pays to those grandparents if they care their grandchildren at home while the parents go out to hold work. so...don't feel any sorry to charge them...
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Good for that place.
• Australia
8 Jan 09
No you're not wrong to charge a fee otherwise you'll be wishing you're getting money for all the time put in. Seeing as she's not really part of the family now, or you don't consider her to be, you should get what you give in return.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
The baby is my grandaughter,but the mother is not part of the family,really.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jan 09
If you need the income then there is nothing wrong with charging them. My son has a set up with his ex in-laws. They babysit while he is working and they charge him for it. But, the money goes into a bank account set up for the children's college education. So even though they pay for baby sitting they are at least getting money saved up for their education. But, being disabled (I am as well) I can certainly understand your need for additional income.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Thats a great idea.I wish that I could afford to do that.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
8 Jan 09
When I was 18, I paid my mom to watch my daughter and I lived with them. She only charged me $1.50 an hour and that was 20 years ago. She only charged me for the hours that I brought home on my check, not the travel time. I don't think you are wrong. I do babysit my daughters boy 1 day a week so that she doesn't need a babysitter. She has it set up that a different person watches him every day she works. I don't mind that, as I don't get to see him too often.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
That was nice of your mom.That is nice of you also to watch your grandson 1 day a week.Doesn't that get confusing having a different person everyday?How many days does she work?
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I pay my mom to babysit for me. Sometimes she just wants the children to come over and stay and I don't pay her for that but, I do go and do some running around I may have while they are there. I've never had a free babysitter.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Good for you.I too want her to just come over for the day or overnight and I certainly don't charge for that.That's grandma time.Not job time.
@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I don't think your wrong at all. You should lcharge for your services. Escpecially in this economy. You deserve to make money to. I always pay my mother for babysitting for me. She doesn't work and the only income she has is her social security. So I don't mind paying her for helping me out.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I am partialy handicapped and a widow with a daughter that is almost 12.My only other income is social security also.It helps,but still not enough.
@Barbietre (1440)
• United States
8 Jan 09
My husband watches our grandchildren two days a week, He does not charge, but it does hurt our income potential. We can not wait for the youngest to start school! I do not blame you one bit.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
It's not like when I was young,my mom watched my boys for free.She was not rich,but better off then I was.I was single and getting no child support.I hope things work out for you all.
• Canada
8 Jan 09
No you are not wrong. You are doing the right thing. Listen to your heart & do your best.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Thanks.I am trying to do my best.I love my grandaughter.If I could afford it and if I was watching her while my son is working,I would do it for less,a lot less.But,I am watching her while her mother is working and doing other things.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
10 Jan 09
No, you are not wrong. I would never ask someone to watch my children without paying them. Maybe if they watched them for an hour or two but not for an entire work shift. I think it would be rude of them to expect you to babysit for free.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I used to babysit children also. I had a very hard time getting paid. The schedule was already set but the parents did not stick to it. I never knew how much I would make or if they were ever going to pay me or not. I will never do it again. I put more out for the food to feed them also.
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