Friendships

United States
January 10, 2009 9:59pm CST
Do you ever feel like friendships take more effort than they are worth? I have a few friends who seriously don't make any time for me and sometimes seem like they have no interest in my life. There were a few people over the past 6-8 months that proved to me, if I did not call them or email them, they would not contact me. Do you think you or your friends make more effort in your friendship? Do you stay friends with people who put little effort into the friendship?
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@suzzy3 (8357)
12 Jan 09
I have friends who I see at birthdays and christmas and we don't see each other maybe once in the year as well.We always ring each other to catch up as well,then I have six or so friends who keep in contact with and see each other for lunch or coffee depends on what time allows then I have my best friend we see each other whenever we can a few days goes by and one of us will ring to arrange an outing or just to see if we are alright.I like you have got fed up with chasing people around I try to contact them,if they don't respond thats it,I don't bother.I don't get hurt anymore like I used to,I just accept it now and it is up to them,if I have made arrangments with my best friend and one of these fare weather friends call I tell them I am busy,even if I have already met her the day before.Some of my freinds have been around for twenty years or more and that suits me fine.I did have a friend that used me and I could never see it until I had a spell of bad health and she did not want to know so that was that.I had helped her with her kids and everything,more fool me eh.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I know the feeling. I am forty years old and have experience with people and friends over the years. Sometimes I don't know where to put the blame. On my friends or myself. I thought that I was trying to be friends with certain people. I tried to call or to write and just like yourself I found people to not really want to respond in kind. To tell you the truth I do now find it not worth my time too much anymore. I have a family and my young son means the world to me and I mean a lot to him. That is all that matters. I would still like to correspond here at this site and make some friends but sometimes I don't understand why people give up on staying in contact. I wish you the best. It is hard not to take these things personally. Take care.
@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks for giving me a best response. I appreciate it very much that you liked my reply. Take care friend.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
11 Jan 09
First off, congrats on reaching the 500 mark! I'm working my way there, but the rate that I'm more on the Xbox these days than on the internet, I'll never make it past 300 in a LONG time. Hehehe. Anywho, to your discussion. Oh yeah, I feel like that...sometimes, it's so retarded on the amount of effort I put into making my friends feel special. What do I do? I leave them a message, comment on their page, pictures or what not. Very rarely do I get a response. This one fried of mine was a great one a few years ago. Then, I got back into contact with her. I figured we could pick up where we left off. Did we? Nnnoooooo. I've posted so many darling pictures of my children and the baby's birthday, but she doesn't comment. Infact, people don't leave me anything unless I practically jump on them and rob them for a message! Sad, isn't it? But, that's the way life is. We have to remember that even though we may have all the time in the world, what's important to us isn't important to them. A week ago, the internet was an important part of my entertainment...now it's spending time on the Xbox with my son. Don't worry, I still keep up with the news from my friends online. That's my nature. *Pleiades
• United States
11 Jan 09
Thanks. It was weird, like 100-400 went fast for me. Then, the road to 500 dragged on. :( I'm sure your friends treat you like that. I'm glad you're spending a lot of time with your son.
@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
I only have a little number of friends. Friends who care about me are precious to me. I wouldn't want them to get hurt. I always try to be polite with my friends. I treasure every moment we have. I guess we put a little effort to make our friendship flourish.