Is Your Hairdresser Male Or Female?

@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
January 10, 2009 11:52pm CST
My hairdresser is a man and I totally prefer it that way. Actually, the place where I get my hair done is more like a barber shop, but the owner does women's hair also. I have been going there off and on for years and he is very nice. I believe that he is a lady's man and really enjoys his job. He is also very handsome, but that is not what keeps me coming back. The thing that I like the most about this shop is that there are pretty much only men in there. Yesterday, there was a mother waiting with her son to get his hair cut, but that was about it. Now back up, it is not what you are thinking. I feel very annoyed and uncomfortable when I go to the shops that are mostly female and they are talking loud and gossiping about people. It is just not my kind of scene. With the men, they talk about sports and movies and things like that. There is no cursing or vulgar talk allowed. The owner is a Christian and he will tell you when you do something that he does not approve of. Especially, when there are ladies and children present. Because I was practically raised by my ex-boyfriend, I am use to being around men and feeling perfectly comfortable. As long as they are not flirty and respect me, which I know this owner would not allow. Alright, I will admit thing I do like the feeling of his strong hands messaging my scalp when he washes it,but that's about it. When I came home yesterday, I was telling my sister about my day. She told me about her daughter's nightmare at the place where we go to get our hair braided. There are all women working that and they were loud and "Ghetto." She said they were gossiping and talked bad about each customer as they left. The lady who was doing my nieces hair kept stopping and talking on the phone and taking breaks, so the owner came over to help her braid my nieces hair. But she made the braids bigger than the ones the other lady was doing and that does not look right. So my niece asked her to do those braids over again. She said the lady was so mad that she started yanking and pulling on her hair and purposely hurting her. My niece said that she is never going there again. I told my sister that they should send an anonymous e-mail and tell them about themselves. She does not need to be rude to get her point across. This is the kind of drama that I wish to avoid when getting my hair done. It should be a nice, pleasant, and relaxing experience, wouldn't you agree? So which one does your hair a man or a woman?
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Jan 09
My mother does my hair. She is a beatican but she doesn't like gossip or others that do it. She works with women that do this and she gets upset about it. She also doesn't like it when she sees someone she works with cutting down someone that just started working there. My mother is a christian. Then there is my dad. He is a barber so like you said that is what men do talk about other things. My dad works with another barber. They both own this barber shop. They won't allow things like you said to go on in their shop either. They are both christian people. I was raised up in a christain home. It is just sad that my parents divorced over 10 years ago. My mother because a hairstylist over 20 years ago to help out my dad. She still enjoys it pretty good and my father enjoys his. I wish they could still work together but my dad's new wife wouldn't like that at all. She actully liked working awhile back for a barber but she didn't make as much money as she does now. I am really sorry your niece was tried this way. That is awful. I hate going anywhere and feel like or know that I have been talked about. To me that is so childish or something school kids would do but adults do it and I know they do. I hated to work becuse of gossip.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Jan 09
It is always hard for me to find a new hairdresser. I am very sensitive about meeting new people. There is something about going to a beautician and allowing them to work on your hair that makes me feel ill at ease. Especially, if they are loud and rude. When I was a teenager, I was so nervous, that my boyfriend had to take me there and tell them what I wanted done. If he did not go with me, I did not go. I was just that shy when I was younger. It is still difficult for me, but I do a lot better than I use to. People can be so mean and it is sometimes very hard to bear with them. Especially, when they are paid professionals.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Jan 09
I can understand that feeling. I get all nervous myself when I go to see my doctor or like this week I go to see my nerologist and I have seen her many times but I get a uneasy feeling. If I go to a different hair dresser then my mother I would be the same way. I understand it very well. It is like a uneasy feeling. I have done this same thing since childhood and I still do it as a adult but not quite as bad. I worry what they think of me and what bad things they will have to talk about me later on. I also get a parinoid feeling around crowded places.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
But you know, there are some people that make me feel totally comfortable right away. There is just something about them that makes me want to talk and laugh with them all day long. I guess this is what they call being personable.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 09
Hi Rozie, I live in a small town and rarely see man hairdresser working in any hair salon here. As what I know almost all the owners of the salons here themselves are the hairdressers of their own salon. They hire some shampoo girls to help them to do the shampooing and other minor jobs. There is only a couple of hair salons here have man hairdressers. There are professional and of course customers have to pay more for the service comparatively. All the mentioned hair salons are unisex and entertain both the man and woman customer. For the sake of money I prefer to have female hairdresser to take care of my hair. There are lots of hair stalls purposely for man to have hair cut service there and the charge of the service is reasonable and economical. We could hardly see any female customer visiting these stalls. But we do find women bringing their boys to have hair cut there. Happy posting and have a nice day!
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Now, I was originally going to go to a new place, owned and operated by women. But when I called, they were all to eager to tell me that they charge $110 for a perm. I said, there is no way I want to pay that much. I didn't even ask my regular how much he charged when I made the appointment. I knew he he would never charge that much. When he said, $60, I was so shocked that I said, that's it? He said, I can charge more if you want me to. I laughed and gave him a nice tip.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 09
Yeah, we always feel happy to have hair perm, hair cut or hair care in salon where we are familiar with and with reasonable service charge. I like hairdresser who is good in his service and could take good care of my hair, and of course never asks for unreasonable charge, and I never bother much about the gender whether it is a male or a female.
• United States
11 Jan 09
I love my monthly hair days. It is what we call a hen fest. My beautician comes in from out of town and works two days a week here in town. She has her set customers and then if she has time she will do walk in's but she is usually booked solid. We all come in a few minutes early or stay a few minutes late to visit with other clients. We have a lot of fun visiting, laughing and teasing each other. We go in at 9:30 and are usually there for 2 hours. I have honestly tell you I have never head Ann my beautician nor the owner Malissa say anything bad about the customers. You care welcome to come and join in the fun.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
That sounds like a lot of fun indeed. I have heard of beauticians making house calls, but never in another town. I guess you go where the money is, like they say. Was she ever stationed in your time? I wish I could join you guys, but being that I do not drive, you are a world away from me.
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• United States
12 Jan 09
She use to live in our town and had such a faithful customer base she comes back one day a week. I do enjoy the ladies, in fact two of them live the street behind me and I had never met them. I am thrilled to have them so close. One of the ladies is 75 or 76 and she has been quite ill this winter I sure to miss seeing her. The other one is 67 and such a great person to tease with. She is so lonely that when I do see her she does not want you do leave. I have met some other ladies which are nice and fun to tease with. There are two older gentleman that come in and I enjoy seeing them also. One of them is retired and the other on works nights and he comes in after working all night. We tease him about falling asleep in the chair. The shop is not special but it is the people who are there.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Ummm I think my hairdresser is really a man but dresses up as a women LOL Transvestite - but she is dayum good. I've had my hair done three times there already over the past two years and have never complained about either. She's a laugh though and gossips like there's no tommorrow and it's fun just listening to her talk.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
20 Jan 09
Never a dull moment, right? I do not know if I would feel comfortable with someone like that doing my hair. Not that I have any prejudices, but I haven't been around many people like that. In the movies they just seem to have this odd mysteriousness to them. I do not know, but that certain sounds like a fun time. But I don't think you would want to expose your little one to that. It sounds kind of x-rated. But a good beautician is a good beautician, right, right?
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
My hairdresser is a man.. he's been my hair dresser for years and i've got no plans of replacing him.. he has the qualities of a professional hair dresser.. he's nice, friendly, patient and talented..
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
You describe my hairdresser to a tee. And like they say, if it ain't broke...
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I have always done my own hair. I never go anyplace to get my hair done. I even cut my own hair. I do like the way you have your hair. Your lucky that you can grow it long and it looks nice. I have long hair and it looks nice too. I trim it every couple of months. Some people have troubles growing their hair long and keeping it looking nice.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
What I am attempting to do this time is to NOT do it myself. Some people are good with hair, I am not one of those people. Like my silly brother-in-law says, I need to see a specialist when it comes to my hair.
@pulser (1)
• India
11 Jan 09
hello my hair deresser is male....
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Okay.
@Wizzywig (7859)
11 Jan 09
My hairdresser is me. I just want my hair done as quickly and cheaply as possible. I dont find it relaxing to have people faffing about in my face.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Oh okay, that sounds fair enough.
• Brazil
11 Jan 09
My brother is my hairdresser. Normally he does my hair at home and he is a great hairdresser with more than 20 years experience.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Oh, now that is so sweet. I do not have any brothers, but the male cousins that I do have, I could not imagine them being serious enough with me to do anything like that. It is good that you two have that mutual respect for each other.
@youless (90126)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Jan 09
Here most hairdressers are males. So my hairdresser is also a man. I think it's fine. In the past I also tried to have a haircut by a female hairdresser and she did it well, too. I told her if she could work like a hairdresser in a salon which they are almost all males. Then she must have a good talent in her career, so I think she would have a good haircut for me. I love China
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Yeah, I guess for her to be respected in a field that is predominantly male, she hast to be twice as good. And that is cool. We women are better than men at most things, anyway, .
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Hi Rozie dear! My hairdresser is male. He has been my hairdresser for more than twenty years now. He is a very nice person and very friendly. However, he is very sick right now because he is suffering from leukemia which he learned a few years ago. Sometimes, he still does my hair but other times his staff will do it with him just watching. I just hope and pray that he will recover from his illness. Take care and have a nice day! lovelots..faith210
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
That is very sad. People that we have known for that long, even in a professional setting are like friend's and sometimes closer than family. I hope that he fully recovers also.
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@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Hello, my hair dresser is a female. I have been going to her for years and she knows what I need to keep my hair and scalp healthy.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Jan 09
That is very good. I need to start treating myself on a more regular basis also.
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• United States
11 Jan 09
Currently I do not have a hairdresser but in the past, I have always had women. I completely "get" what you are saying though.. I've been to those hair salons where the women just want to gossip and chit chat rather than doing their job in a speedy manner so I can go home. I really loved the last lady who did my hair. She was very personal and super nice. She did a great job on my hair as well - the problem was, she was VERY expensive and I just couldn't afford to go to her any more. Which brings me to now.. I can't afford to get my hair done so I color it myself when the gray shows too much and when it gets longer than I can handle, I will pay a few bucks for the cheap place up the street to give me a basic cut. In better days I would get my hair dyed and have low lights and high lights put in. My hair would be layered and razor cut on the ends. My hair is a dark brown (when it's dyed) and I would have her make the underside even darker so when I flipped the ends, you could see the darker shade. Now my hair is getting so long and the layers have all grown out. When I do my hair I blow dry it and brush it straight, then part it to the side a little and take a piece and tuck it behind my ear. If I'm feeling like I have extra time, I will curl the ends the best that I can. I've never had a male hairdresser but I'm sure I wouldn't have a problem if one came along and did my hair. Sounds like you found a great little place, Rozie!
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Jan 09
Oh my, you really go all out when it comes to your hair. I am not in to style and fashion like that. I am usually just happy to get a comb through mine. But I had a little extra money, so I treated myself to a perm. Then, as you can see on my new avatar, I styled it like "Cousin it," and played around with the camera last night. This was my first time going to the shop in over three years.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I always get mine done by a woman, but that is only because there are no men working at the shop that I go to.. I have had one experience with a guy fixing my hair but he was gay, does that qualify as an answer, he was the best at washing my hair but the gossip was about the same as with the women.. I really go to get my hair washed, trimmed and styled, not to gossip about everyone.. I am not that much of a talker, especially to persons that I don't know very well and I don't like to meet someone for the first time and then spend that time tearing some other person apart.. I do enjoy a good quiet experience when getting my hair done as I am usually tired and want a minutes peace and quiet.. Whether it be a man or a woman, it really feels sooo good to have someone scrub your head, I could just close my eyes and go right to sleep..
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
20 Jan 09
I am very shy, especially, around strangers. It's almost painful for me to go into places like this. But if everyone is calm and nice, I can relax and blend in. If they are loud, I feel even more on edge. I guess this is why when people find a good environment, they continue to come back year after year. This is why I am willing to go to such a frightening side of town, to get to that place of peace and tranquility. It really is worth it, once I get there.
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• United States
20 Jan 09
Rozie, you sounded as if you were describing me, when you said you were shy around strangers, I am very friendly but very quiet also, so I am not very comfortable around others in these situations, even after getting to know them.. I don't like to go to a place where everyone is laughing and hollering and talking among themselves like they have known each other for years, it makes me feel so left out, but I really don't want to join in anyway.. My mother taught me to have manners out in public and I guess it still sticks with me, even if I am getting old enough to be turning into my mother, she was a great lady.. You take care and keep enjoying your few moments of pleasure, it is worth it..
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Why do women have to be like that....OMG....There was no reason for her to treat your niece rudely.... I have had both men and women do my hair...I am very picky about how I want my hair to look so it takes me a very long time to even decide to go get it done... And it always feels good for someone else to wash and comb or brush my hair... Again, I am so sorry that your niece had a bad experience... I love your avatar pic..
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Thank you. There are quite a few shops in Los Angeles where it seems as though they feel that they are not giving you the full treatment unless they are talking loud and gossiping about everybody's business. It is really strange to me that anyone could enjoy that.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I know I wouldn't enjoy that at all...
@suzzy3 (8368)
19 Jan 09
They are all female where I go and cannot do enough for you.I have never had a problem with anybody at our hair salon it is a little village one and we all go there I do not tell them anything that I don't tell people my self it is a bit of a treat to go to the hairdresser and they know that so they make it nice for us all.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
20 Jan 09
That is the way that it should be, a very pleasant experience. You pay money to be pampered. Small talk with others is fun, but the loud talking and gossiping is just so unappealing.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
12 Jan 09
My hair cut is done by a man.I go to a place nearby to cut my hair.They speak bery politely and gently.They are some barbers who are very rude.They cut very fast and sometimes cut us during the process.It's a bit expensive at my place but i go there because he cuts my hair in a stylish way.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Oh see, my hairdresser takes his time and does it right. I totally appreciate that about him.
@aringwi (136)
• China
12 Jan 09
mine is male.every time i go to have my hair cut,i will ask him to do it for me.gradually i get known with him.he said he is a Wunzhounese.he can join in the army two years ago but he gave it up as he did not like the style of life.now he is renting a house with a partner behind the shop.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
Oh good, it can sometime be difficult to find someone that we like to do our hair.
• United States
12 Jan 09
My Hairdresser is a women and I like it that way. I have been going to her for quite some time. We get along very well and talk about all kinds of things. She is a younger women and has one little girl and loves to talk about her.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Jan 09
That is sweet, it sounds like you have a very good relationship with her.