If you were cheated on...

United States
January 16, 2009 7:38am CST
If you were cheated on, would you stay with the person you're with now? Does it matter whether you're married to them?
7 responses
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
16 Jan 09
Hi smartie. No I don't. It is something I never forgive. All kind of treason is the worst thing for me. Be cheated by friends, co-worker, husband, wife is something that I can't understand. If something is wrong why not talk about it with the person? Why keep quiet and do things from behind? I hate this kind of attitude and action. Have a nice day.
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@Geisha69 (13)
• United States
26 Jan 09
been cheating on once is a horrible experiencecheaters are cheaters to me and i dont think that i would trust that person and continue a life time relationship with.I prefer someone who is loyal I think is ok to have fantasies BUT acting on them is a whole other beast
• United States
24 Jan 09
I can be very loyal and faithful and somehow I expect people to be that way too. If I find out the love of my love cheated on me, I can still stay but surely there will be a strain.There will be less trust and respect. If it happens the second time, I will be gone. Cheating is a sign that the other person has no respect for the other so why stay.
• India
18 Jan 09
damn difficult ques especially the second part of it well i wudnt say nythin n w8 if it was just for a breathing space n if she continues it doesnt make sense stayin on ryt! so id just say "good bye" yup n nothin els n da second half man is dat a horrible situation !!! cant imagine dat
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
I see no reason to forgive or forget someone who cheated. It means that the other person failed to communicate or wish to no longer be in the relationship. If the cheater thought to violate such as intimate trust, they clearly don't want to be in the relationship....otherwise, they would not do something so hurtful to their partner. In any relationship, the main focus should be to make the other person happy, and yourself. If you are not happy, then communicate why and how to resolve it. I believe there no valid reasons to "justify" or "explain" why someone cheated. If you can't be honest about something like that, I can't be with you. I have no leniency for cheaters. I don't cheat, because I don't like to be cheated.
@suzzy3 (8362)
16 Jan 09
No I don't think you could stay with someone who cheated on you as all the trust would be gone.If it was after say twenty years you would have to think twice before you split up and it was just the one mistake.But then you would have to think is this the first time they have been caught.
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
16 Jan 09
this is a tough one, it depend on lots of things. i've been through this before and the reason was understandable. but i did stay it took along time to rebuild the trust back up and forgive the person and move on with forgetting about it. but if it wasn't because of the kids i might have gone