Is texting another woman considered cheating?

United States
January 16, 2009 9:12am CST
My friend told me that she caught her husband texting another woman from his cell phone. 127 texts between them in one month. They even sent pictures of themselves to each other. She confronted her husband with this and he said that it was nothing and that they only texted about six times. She confronted the woman and she said that they only texted each other once. She printed all of the records off of the computer and was shocked to see that both of them were lying about it. If it was nothing then why is everyone lying about it. Now she wonders if they actually met in person. What do you think about this. Would you consider this cheating?
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Hello hillgirl311! I am pretty sure there's something going on between them. Even the fact that my husband will text other girl is a big deal to me. He will probably explain to me. I guess she really have to confron her husband and let him explain better.
• United States
18 Jan 09
It was nothing is all he says, just hi...how are you. 127 times in a month? It's hard to believe.
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• United States
18 Jan 09
yes, you're right and to the fact that they both lied about it..so it's really something..
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• India
18 Jan 09
uh jus hi ...how r u so many times uh jus make sure it aint a bug in the im r smthnlyk dat cos here v had dis bug n wen a friend sent me a gn8 it came to me about 30 times through the nite till dawn
@phyrethyme (1268)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
They are definitely hiding something. Their actions are really something to be suspicious about.. Simply texting someone else isn't cheating but when there's some hidden agenda, then boom it's cheating. You get what I mean. What makes things heavy is that there's proof that they're lying. Most likely cheating because there's the element of lying.
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
May I correct. It isn't "most likely" it's definitely cheating. There's dishonesty, see.
• United States
18 Jan 09
The pictures I think did him in...also the lying but mostly the pictures.
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
Yeah.. I remember my dad getting caught by mom. He was exchanging pictures with someone too. His phone had this picture of a woman.. He lied about it and later we find out that they are really together. We found proof. Nostalgic. 0.o
@goldeneagle (6779)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Normally, I would say that it is not cheating. I have several friends who are women, and I text them all the time, but I am not having an affair with any of them. However, because of the fact that they can't seem to get their stories straight, and the fact that they both seem to be lying about the situation, I am lead to believe there may be something more than friendship between them.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Do you also exchange personal photo texts of each other with these other woman? I would not send a picture of me to someone that just contacted me by accident...would you?
• United States
18 Jan 09
No we don't exchange photos. We know what each other looks like...LOL
@messageme (2821)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Texting...it would make me feel uneasy if my husband did it, but I wouldn't consider it cheating.... Sending pictures of each other....that is pushing the limits, BIG TIME!! What is the need to send a picture? Plus they lied about it. I wouldn't trust him. I am curious though how did you get a print out of who he texted? I tried doing that one time and it only showed me how many texts not who the texts were to. Could you see what was said too?
• United States
18 Jan 09
She said that she went to Verizonwireless.com and signed into the account. It will show you detailed data and voice calls. To and from numbers, the times, the dates...etc. It will not show you what was actually typed or what pics were actually sent. Hopefully technology will come up with that some day in her case.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
18 Jan 09
In my opinion regardless of whether you would call it "cheating" it is inappropriate to do what he is doing and a total breach of trust. I would feel quite hurt if I discovered my husband behaving that way.
• United States
18 Jan 09
I would be too and so is my friend. I think it is wrong to do when you are married to another.
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
I guess it would depend on if the two people doing the texting where living close to eachother or not. words are harmless i guess, but actions are not.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Both in Johnstown...Huh, I wonder if it wasn't by accident that they started texting. He said that she had the wrong number at first but they kept texting each other for over a month.
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
Yes,it is cheating because her husband wont lie abouot it if there is realy nothing happening...
• United States
18 Jan 09
Unless nothing was really something. Right?
@cripfemme (7723)
• United States
17 Jan 09
127 texts would make me suspicious, I can tell you. Also the lying thing doesn't to do any thing for his case either. I wouldn't think anyone was cheating on me because they were texting someone, but the lying thing I couldn't abide.
• United States
18 Jan 09
The lying and also sending personal pictures of each other. I mean...come on. I think something is being covered up.
@tessah (6651)
• United States
17 Jan 09
the texting isnt cheating.. no. but the lying about it? that he deserves to get hit in the head with a shovel for. if hes lying.. hes hiding.. the question is, whats he hiding? i think yer friend ought wave the little printout under his nose, confront him about the lying, let the fights begin.. and when the dust settles.. maybe they can work thru it all.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Yes, what is he hiding? That is my question also. Why lie about nothing??
• United States
17 Jan 09
it depends on what the conversations were about. since they sent pics to one another, then the "friendship" was getting ready to go to the next step. especially they were already lying about how many times they talked to each other. i have multiple friends that i text too, but each one deals with different parts of my life, but it's my husband that gets the whole package. if he's not giving her the whole package, he's cheating.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Exactly, the pictures did it!
@Thoroughrob (11772)
• United States
17 Jan 09
The way they lied about it sounds like there is something more than texting going on. If there wasn't they would not have lied.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Why lie if it was just friendly? His wife will text him & he won't answer but he will talk to this woman 127 times in a month...I don't get it.
@CRIVAS (1823)
• Canada
16 Jan 09
Well I would definately consider this to be cheating. First of all I doubt that they have been just texting eachother. Secondly, her husband lied to her about it, like you said if there was nothing going on why is he hiding things? Why hasn't he intorduced his texing gir to his wife? I can't stand unfaithful people. If you are thinking about cheating, you should end the relationship because you obviously don't love or respect your partner the way you should. All I have to say to this guy is SHAME ON YOU!
• United States
18 Jan 09
He may have been thinking about cheating...this is why he didn't introduce them. Why lie about it if it was nothing. Love and respect are obviously lacking if that's what he feels he has to do.
• United States
16 Jan 09
Texting another woman is or isn't a problem depending on the circumstances. In this case, I would definitely suspect that something is going on between the two of them. The wife needs to confront the him since she has already caught him lying about the amount they have texted.
• United States
18 Jan 09
He says that it was just nothing...hi, and how are you. What do you think?
• United States
16 Jan 09
even if they werent actually intimate...I would say it was some form of cheating... that many texts and pics too in one month...that would send up a red flag as far as I am concerned.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Thanks for your reply and I agree 100%.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Hi, I guess it depends on what was exchanged in those text's. If it is innocent he should let his wife read the text's between him and this other woman. Well, it is not good that he lied about the number of times they wrote. Being suspecious I wouldn't trust him especially since she knows about the lies.She shouldn't do anything unless she is prepared to hear what he has to say, especially if it is not good but she needs to be prepared for the worst before confronting him with accusations.
• United States
18 Jan 09
When she looked in his phone, all texts and photo's were gone, so this would mean that he was hiding it. He says that it was nothing. Just hi, how are you...c-mon now. 127 texts in a month, just saying hi, how are you...sounds like something is wrong.
@jesbellaine (4158)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Hello There Hillgirl311! I will based my answer to your story about your friend asking her husband about the woman he is texting. For me, it is clearly Flirting and cheating already!!! It definitely progress by texting to one another then having an intimate chat or whatsoever. I don't understand the reason or need for him to talk and exchange pictures and messages with her always when he have me?!?! Right? It is good thing that your friend has the courage to confront the woman and her husband about it. And if you ask me if I will do the same thing, yes, I would definitely do the same thing. I will haunt to know the truth about their relationship with one another... because with all the text messages and exchanging pictures, I am sure that there is something going on already. However, I do hope that they will be able to fix things. Thank you for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and Have a great day! Cheers!
• United States
18 Jan 09
I agree with you 100%. Flirting and cheating...if he wasn't already psychically cheating...he was thinking about it, right? That is an alarm bell.
• United States
16 Jan 09
If the wife did not know anything about her husband's affairs even if you say it is only thru cellphone then it is cheating. It's sad to hear that. The more he says nothing the more it means he is hiding something. No woman deserves to be treated this way. If we turn it the other way around for sure the husband will not be pleased too. When a man and a woman get married they promised to be true to each other and he is breaking his vows.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Exactly, Thanks for your comment.
@sunshine4 (8712)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I think if they haven't met, they will. It seems that they are lying to protect each other. This friend has to get her husband to fess up and both of them should go to marriage counceling so their marriage can survive this.
• United States
18 Jan 09
I believe that it was gonna end in meeting too. If they haven't already.
@rymebristol (1711)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
no i think it's not cheating.even if you are meeting someone else as long as there's no string attach to the other woman there's nothing wrong with it just make sure that you are being honest,truthful and loyal to the woman of your life. happy posting!CHEERS!
• United States
18 Jan 09
He wasn't honest & truthful when he lied about texting her 127 times in a month and trying to call her twice. Now what do you think?
• India
16 Jan 09
yes i would think texting is cheating. not so much for the texting more so for, i dont believe if the texts get more and more personal eventually there would come a time when you would want to meet. and then what? the texting could lead to much more and eventually it would be cheating.
• United States
18 Jan 09
Not only the texting, what about the pictures that they were exchanging. Why would I send a picture of myself to a total stranger? Would you?