"My Friend"

United States
January 17, 2009 12:07pm CST
I see discussions on here all the time where people are asking for advice to help out their "friend." I have often wondered how many of them are asking for advice for themselves, but saying they are trying to help a "friend" so that people will not know what is going on in their lives. Do you ever get this feeling as well? Have you posted a discussion on here asking for advice for a "friend", when in reality you were actually looking for advice for your OWN situation? I have never done this personally, but I have to wonder how many people here have done it. What do you think?
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9 responses
@camomom (7536)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I haven't done it myself but I wonder if others are doing it also. I'm not ashamed to ask for help on anything but if I were I wouldn't post it online. Or maybe I would since none of you know me. But I would NOT lie and say it was for a friend.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Jan 09
I have wondered about that too but I usually respond to them if I have any advice because that is the only way some persons feel comfortable and responding may really provide help from something that is really problematic for them. I dont remember posting any discussion under such situations but I have written discussions in which the situation happened to me but to avoid a blacklash for my actions (such as reduced ratings),I may report it in third person
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
18 Jan 09
When I ask for advice or help for a friend that is who it is for. When I need help or anything I say it is for me.
• United States
18 Jan 09
haha i have wondered that too.. i know i wonder if people think im talking about myself when i use it but i am actually always talking about a friend lol.. but i think the odds are usually high that the people are talking about themselves
@messageme (2821)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I have wondered that many times myself. There was one person I knew she was talking about her own life, but she stated it as her friend. That is their own choice, but I don't really see the point in it. I mean why not be who you are and be open if you have a problem then say it is you, it's not like we are going to judge you because of an issue you have. Me, personally, if I have a problem I will admit it is me wanting the advice. I can be very open on the net.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I've done it once, a few months ago. I did end up telling someone who responded to it that it was actually about me. It was mostly because I thought I'd get a lot of back lash if I said it was me. But for the most part I'm not shy about sharing my problems, so if I want advice on something, I won't lie and say it's for a friend.
@3cardmonte (5098)
17 Jan 09
I think youre right, some people just dont want to admit,which is fair enough. I dont do this online, but sometimes i will do it face to face, i dont think anyone buys it though.
17 Jan 09
I have never done it but if I had an embarrasing problem I guess I might be tempted to. But then I can't see me asking anything I was ashamed about! I agree that there are probably alot of people who say "my friend" when they really mean themselves. It's a classic thing to do in all scenarios. But each to their own, it doesn't hurt no-one!
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
17 Jan 09
i don't have a lot of actual friends, we live in the country and there's not many farms round here. thou if i'm asking about anything i just say it, my work mate wouldn't be to impressed if he seen what i've put in here about him. nothing but nice stuff. thou i don't like my partner knowing what i type cause he can be a real pain in the butt.