Where have all the good manners gone????

@RobinJ (2501)
Canada
January 18, 2009 11:25am CST
I have been wondering lately where have all good manners gone. It seems to me that we have become a rude and arrogant society. To me it seems impossible to believe that a simple thank you would never be appreciated, that a door held for the person immediately behind you is going to cost you a lot of time? Are we so self centred that we can no long be civil to strangers, friends or even family? I would love to hear you thoughts and ideas. Thank you
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Ok, the worst of it is use of cell phones in the most inappropriate places. Why is it that some women can't even use a public bathroom without continuing to have a conversation while in the midst of it? God Lord. Or just thinking when you're out in a public place that it's acceptable to have just any kind of discussion, as if others can't hear you.
• United States
21 Jan 09
Hi Robin it has been a while since I have seen you around I hope you have been well. I agree it seems that the younger generation do not have any manners these days. It seems that their parents have not taught them how to say please and thank you. How to open a door someone else. Now I ground it is my children to say please and thank you, to open doors for others and just plain be polite to others. I hope I have done a good job, it appears that I have but I am not around them all the times. They are grown and out of the house.
@srijshm (1165)
• India
19 Jan 09
Good discussion, & a good time to introspect. I am surre we all can be a little nicer, a liitle more cheerful, a little more helpful, aliitle more well mannered if we choose to be. The rat race has made us all more self centered. In earlier days with the agrarian way of life people were contented with days hard work & spent all their free time enjoying with people. today we spend less time with people & more with tv, computers(as i am doing right now), cell phones, ipods etc. all this has made us less skillful with people & a lack of goodwill towards others. Robin,I hope your duscussion will make many of us realize the hars truth & make us strive to improve.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
I think that you are totally right. There are way too many people out there that have absolutely no manners. I was raised that you were always polite, held doors etc. But now a days there are so many people in a hurry and out to serve themselves that they pay no attention to anyone around them.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
I couldn't agree with you more, in fact I think it's got so bad that the words please and thank you have had to be taken out of the Oxford English dictionary as no one seems to make use of them any more, not that I want to stereotype but it seems to mean that it's the youth of today, that have too much attitude and disrespect, every sentence has GOT to have a swear word in it, so I wonder if swear words have replaced good manners? I was always taught good manners and I believe in treat others the way you want to be treated yourself. Shame to say it but it actually SURPRISES me now if someone says thank you to me! Sad but very true.
@dodo19 (27152)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Jan 09
I know what you mean. If someone holds the door for me, whether it's someone I know or not, I'll say thank you. But it has happened that I've hold the door for someone and that person just walked by, without saying anything. That is just really rude and selfish. It's not like it takes a lot time and/or energy to simply say thank you. I find that people in some societies can very selfish and such. I can't help but wonder where manners and politeness has gone.
@roc1818 (57)
• United States
18 Jan 09
It depends on the person, some people are rude and some people I know are very kind. Just take it in stride and dont think the society is going to ruins.
• United States
18 Jan 09
I think a lot of it has to do with how people are raised. Parents are not teaching their children how to behave nor how to have manners. Compared to other sociteys americans are rude and self centered. But there are a few people out there who are polite and have good mannars. But, they are so hard to come by these days it not funny.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
of course I am not that rude and self centered, I hate when it is done to me, I always help a stranger when I can, and I certainly say thank you when a stranger has been kind to me, and believe they have, also of course I am good to my friends and family and they are good to be as well.
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
Robin I missed you. Glad you're back and yes today's society is not at all what we've been used to. Unfortunately it appears to be getting worse instead of better. I guess the only answer to all this is to just do the best we can and hope what we do in a positive manner will reflect on others. Take Care my friend.