is my guy still hook up with his ex?
January 19, 2009 10:30pm CST
My Guy talk to his ex andlikes to meet her for a "friendly" drink every other week alone. she was his first love and they broke up just three months ago, so that situation makes me feel awkward. I've told him I dont like it, but he insist that he was no feelings for her and just wants to have her in his life. Should i believe him?
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20 Jan 09
Three months is such a shot time to be in a new relationship and say that there is not feeling at all anymore is just not believable for me. You and him to be in this new relationship is quite vague. I think he jump in too early in the relationship you are in and i doubt that he still feels for her and doesn't want to move on with her. I hope I am wrong with this one but that is how I feel about it.
20 Jan 09
Believe him only if you are three times cuter and eight times smarter than his ex-but you'll need to keep an eye on him.. Seriously, BF's should not be allowed near exes-especially those they just broke up with. That's because every time he sees her, he's going to have of their relationship, and it makes it that much more difficult to let go of the past and go forward, says Barbara De Angelis, author of Ask Barbara. So here's what you should do: Ask him to arrange a meeting between the two of you-if he acts evasive or does not agree, its obvious things are not quiet as innocent as he'd like you to believe. This is when you should make things clear. Tell him your concerns )don't accuse him, just share your feelings). If he does not at least try to work out a solution, or worse, gets all angry and defensive on you, get up and leave.
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20 Jan 09
This should send sirens off in your head and the answer is do not believe him. Honestly it has only been three months and she was his first love. He still loves her obviously and you are just there for the ride. I would suggest getting out before you get hurt. There is no reason for him to see her and all it is doing is making him think about her and seeing her is making it even worse. I mean who would so this? I think you should cut your losses because you have only bee with him for a short time and well it is better to leave now before you get to involved and get hurt.
20 Jan 09
A drink every other week? That's pretty often to be spending time with an ex, especially when they only broke up three months ago. I have to wonder why their relationship ended if they are able to be so "friendly" and still want to get together on a regular basis. Next time he is going for a drink with her, ask if you can go along. Tell him since she means so much to him as a friend, that you would like to get to know her better too. If he says no and won't allow you to go along, then I really believe you have reason to suspect that he's not being honest about his feelings for her. I wish you luck. The situation seems difficult :(