Would you marry again?

@dawnald (84124)
Shingle Springs, California
January 21, 2009 1:24pm CST
If your spouse died or if your marriage broke up, would you marry again? Or would you rather be on your own? Why?
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• Canada
26 Jan 09
It would take me a while to get used to life without my Hubby but then I hate to be alone so I think if the right man came along that loved and accepted my boy I would likely re-marry! ~Heavens~
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jan 09
Me too, maybe, if it were right...
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• Canada
26 Jan 09
Being alone is definitely hard heavens, and I'm feeling especially alone today. I do hope that you and your hubby have many more years together. Take care.
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• Canada
27 Jan 09
That's my prayer also of course! I just know that I could not live alone... I would have to evaluate my life and do something and I think he would want me to also! ~Heavens~
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@femina (25)
• Estonia
22 Jan 09
If something should happen with my husband, then I probably won´t marry again. But I think that couldn´t live alone too, in that case open marriage maybe.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Or children or a roommate?
@femina (25)
• Estonia
23 Jan 09
yes. Children would be my life, if I have them in future
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
I hope that you do then!
@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Jan 09
Well I do not think that I will marry again because of the simple reason that I had everything enough for a life time.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Good answer!
@balasri (26577)
• India
24 Jan 09
Thanks for being nice.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I don't think I would marry again, dawnald. But it is not that I would rather be on my own. I would be receptive to other relationships but I am not sure that marriage would seem necessary to me again.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jan 09
I think if I were serious about somebody, marriage would be in the cards.
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@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
If I would marry again it will be with my husband.I can't imagine myself living with another man at a later age.I still have my children and grandchildren.I don't want to live on my own without them.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
If it's right, it's right...
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
22 Jan 09
When I divorced my first husband, I vowed that I would never get married again. It was about a year before I even starting dating again. I went through several relationships, but was satisfied with my status. When I met my present husband, we were so comfortable with each other. My family, was saying that I would never get married again, because I had been single for so long, and would not adjust to someone else in my space, needless to say, we were married two years after we met. We are still married, we have our little lumps and bumps but get through them. We respect each other and fight fairly, we never call each other names and eventually get through the bad times. You never should say never, I did!!!!!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
I said I'd never have children and I have three (two pregnancies, so the third child was a surprise!)...
• India
22 Jan 09
noway i dont wanna the big mistake again
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
No, that wouldn't be good. But who's to say that the next one would be a mistake?
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
21 Jan 09
If I was left on my own (for whatever reason), I would not get married again; I would rather be on my own. Why? We celebrated our 44th wedding anniversary this week (Jan 19), and after living with someone for so many years, I think I'd find it very difficult to adjust to someone else! Besides, I think I'd be too picky.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
44, wow! I'm only coming up on 26. I could go either way at this point if I were to suddenly find myself single!
@hildas (3031)
21 Jan 09
I would certainly want to be on my own. I do not think I would want to marry or even be bothered with an other man again, although sometimes we say things and do others. I really would want to be on my own though, as I think no one would replace my husband (despite his faults) and also I just would not want to go throw heartache loosing another maybe. I will be gone first. My hubby will probably replace me with someone quickly. No only joking. He says he would never marry again either. God help him on his own though.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
I think I could go either way, just depends on the guy...
@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
Yeah! I have heard a lot say they would never marry again 'but do'. I guess if the right person maybe did come along though. I think our lives are mapped out for us sometimes.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Maybe so. Can I have a new map?
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• United States
24 Jan 09
I don't know if I would want to remarry or not. It would have to be someone very special for me to consider it. My first thought was No, I wouldn't. I moved from my parents' house to my husband's. I was still in high school when I got married. I never gave myself a chance to get out there and be on my own, taking care of myself, etc. At my age that is kind of a scary thought, but I honestly believe that I would want to, if something should happen to my marriage. I have had 49 years of someone else to lean on. It would be nice to know that I can do it on my own, if I had to. On the other hand, like I said, I have had 49 years of someone else to lean on, and I think I might want someone around if I needed them. So, now that I have "talked" it out, I have to say, I don't know.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jan 09
I'm kind of in the same boat except that it's 26 years...
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• United States
24 Jan 09
I have only been married 31 of those 49 years. It's just that there has always been somebody there. I don't know if I would be lonely or not, after all that time. I love it when I have the house to myself for a couple of days, but would I feel the same if it were a permanent situation?
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jan 09
Yeah I like it when I get some extended alone time but for a very extended period, I just don't know.
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
If something happened, and i wasn't with my husband anymore, i wouldnt remarry.. at least not for a long long time. . I think i would just have a companion.. someone i could rely on in a jam, someone to watch movies with, someone to call when the moood struck me. . but no real ties or anything.. I have not had a great track record with picking men, and if i was on my own again, i wouldnt jump back into anything. I've learned my lessons.. at least on that subject. . Would you remarry ?
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
I might but I'd be very, very careful to get to know the person really well first!
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
lol i think we have something in common then :P
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
seems like :-)
@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Jan 09
Hi dawny NO WAY, NOT A CHANCE, WHEN HELL FREEZES OVER!! HahahahaLOL Does that answer your question?
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Oh come on, why not come straight out and say what you think?
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Jan 09
Sorry did I not make myself clear enough? LOL
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
yust joshin ya!
@someonesmom (5768)
• Canada
26 Jan 09
I have been widowed since 1993, so speaking from this perspective, I 'guess' I could have remarried, had I actively pursued the opportunity. I chose not to, as nobody could replace my late husband, the way I looked at it. I guess this must seem foolish to some, but it's the way I felt at the time, and now it's just too late. I find myself alone and lonely much of the time now, so maybe I didn't make the right decision within five years or so of his passing. It's hard to say, and often very difficult to find the right person.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jan 09
I would say it's never too late, but basically that's your call. My condolences...
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• Canada
27 Jan 09
Thanks so much. I have had others tell me "It's never too late," as well. As far as I'm concerned, it would take a miracle for me to find somebody special again though. Take care.
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@doddee (53)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Hi Dawn, It's good to see you here. I'm just now getting in to this site after all this time...and I like it here. Ok...your question. It's a long story but I will try and make it short. I am married but not really married. It's like having a room mate that you don't see very often...So I'm sorta on my own already. We both have our own friends and we don't do very many things together. We still do some family things that we would probably do even if we weren't married and still lived in the same city. Our relationship from the start was a love hate relationship and we used to argue and fight all the time but we've learned to tolerate each other. He's not going to change...and I am who I am. The only reason we are not divorced is because neither one of us are in any hurry to marry again. I have my family and my friends, and no one has swept me off my feet...so far anyway...lol. Would I marry again? Maybe...probably...if I found the right person. I don't know...like you I am just going with the flow. I'm active with family and friends and I'm happy so I don't think about that.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
If it works for you, great. With us it's either work it out or end it. And if we did end it, I'd take it very, very slowly and carefully before I'd let it get to marriage. I think being on my own for a while first would be good for me!
@doddee (53)
• United States
23 Jan 09
It's working for me...right now. My son and daughter-in-law and their two little ones live with us, I have a son 20 and daughter 13 still at home, and my oldest daughter and her 4 kids live right down the street within walking distance. My son and his family plan on moving out within the year, and my 20 year old son is moving up in his job etc and is working on his plans and what he wants to do. I'm really just waiting on them. Then I'll do my thing. I've been thinking about what I want to do. I've always been independent and I can take care of myself so like you I would never rush into anything. Any relationships I have now have to start with friendship. I'm not thinking past that at the moment.
@rocketj1 (6957)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Who would have me? hehehe Actually, I would probably remarry if I was not elderly. I love being a wife and I really need the companionship. Living alone would be really sad to me. If I were elderly, I'm not sure I would mind it so much.
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@rocketj1 (6957)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Then again........ who knows unless it actually happens. My husband is my very best friend and while no one could replace him, I really am not sure.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Oh I'm sure somebody would have you!
@neildc (16935)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I broke up with my first marriage, five years after. Within a year of living alone with our son, I met another woman and we live together for eight years. We now have three kids. We are now married for six years already and still going strong. I can say that there is really what they call second coming, hehehe...
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jan 09
lol May you have many long, happy years together!
@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
28 Jan 09
Yes I think so I would. If my first marriage comes to an end yes i would have another try if I meee the right person. It has to be a special person that manages to make my head turn around otherwise I d prefer to stay on my own.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jan 09
Yep it would have to be special.
• United States
23 Jan 09
Very good question,, I really don't think that I would ever marry again. I have been married twice. If I would ever get married again,, I would have to know them for quit a long time..
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
Yep I'm with you there! I'd want to really make sure...
• United States
22 Jan 09
i would rather be on my own if i had it to do over again. i was married for fifteen years. got a divorce , stayed single for 12 years. remarried the same woman over again. we had two children which are now grown also have three grandchildren ages 19, 16 and 2 . the problem is, i have to relive the same problems i had in the first marriage plus what i did for 12 years with out her. i should have stayed single. i had no one to answer to the only problems were my own no one elses. than again i may be wrong. who knows.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
20 20 hindsight, but at least you have the children and grandchildren to show for it...
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
22 Jan 09
Well it is a hard decision to make, depends on my children at what age and depends also if I find another person as special as my husband.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
True, depends on the circumstances.