Healthy arguments
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
January 27, 2009 8:53am CST
Do you believe that arguing in a relationship could be a healthy thing? I think that two people can't always agree therefore there is going to be some dissension every once in a while.
2 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Ok, so in Tracie's case it's a good thing! 
I agree that she needs the outlet. In my relationship arguing is not a healthy thing because my husband has PTSD and gets extremely upset when he does get upset. That doesn't mean that we agree on everything all the time or that I'm a meek little mouse (far from it) but I am considerate of his medical condition so I tend to direct disagreements away from the emotional and more towards the logical. Sometimes that's pretty hard but we both try to do what's best for our relationship and, if keeping my cool helps to keep a problem from exploding out of control, then that's what I do.
I agree that she needs the outlet. In my relationship arguing is not a healthy thing because my husband has PTSD and gets extremely upset when he does get upset. That doesn't mean that we agree on everything all the time or that I'm a meek little mouse (far from it) but I am considerate of his medical condition so I tend to direct disagreements away from the emotional and more towards the logical. Sometimes that's pretty hard but we both try to do what's best for our relationship and, if keeping my cool helps to keep a problem from exploding out of control, then that's what I do.
@tracie1758 (507)
• United States
27 Jan 09
I think in my case it's extremely healthy. I tend to bottle things in until I just explode. The argument that follows is my chance to vent about everything that my boyfriend has been doing to drive me crazy and up until that point he had no clue that he was doing anything wrong at all. If we didn't argue we would never talk sometimes I think lol.
