Do you allow your teen ager to stay in the bathroom for a long time?

@Bebs08 (10691)
United States
February 2, 2009 10:09pm CST
why staying in the bathroom like hours? 3-4 hours or more? I am suspicious if this happened. I know of a friend whose teen ager is always staying in the bathroom. Day and night? what in the world she id doing there? Sometimes she is still there until 2-3am? that is already abnormal thing to happen. Do your teen ager do this too? if so, what did you do to stop him/her? for me? it is annoying to know somebody is staying in the bathroom for a long time? bringing books,notebooks and laptop? weird???
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@koalatbs (2233)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Yes, I think 3 or 4 hours is definitely wayyyy too long to stay in the bathroom, not only for a teenager, but for ANYONE! My son is 14 and he was spending way too much time in the shower so we ended up buying him a timer that he sets for 10 minutes. I used to have to knock on the bathroom door to get him to turn the water off! Teenagers are strange. I'm sure I used to spend quite a bit of time in the bathroom as a teenager... testing out make-up, doing my hair, re-doing my hair & then re-doing my hair again! LoL :)
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Oh!! really? maybe this is what this teen age girl is doing inside? I am not sure for she is taking her laptop inside. But that idea of keep on knocking the door is good but the problem is this girl is upset when somebody called her to get out from the bathroom.. weird..
@koalatbs (2233)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I think taking her laptop into the bathroom is not appropriate either. If I were her parents I would set down the law and tell her that each time she takes her laptop into the bathroom she will get it taken away for a certain period of time. That might be a good suggestion.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I think that is a good suggestion. Taking her laptop away... thanks for the idea.
• United States
3 Feb 09
i think it's totally normal ! when i was a teenaged i did the same thing ! i'd take marathon long baths (2 - 3 hours) just to get away from my parents and have some time to myself. i was never doing anything i shouldn't be doing. i would take a book, a candle, some bubbly bath, and a glas of ice water and read. when the water would get cold i'd start over. sometimes i even wrote in my journal or listened to music. so... definitely make sure your kid isn't drowning or anything... but this isn't abnormal.. i promise ! in fact... i still do it.. haha
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• Philippines
3 Feb 09
yeah it is normal.. hehehe i dont know why i like reading in the bathroom.. hehehe
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Oh? so.. there is nothing to worry about? Lol.. but it seems like weird spending long hours in the bathroom? hahahah.. but anyway, thanks for sharing your experience.
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
whahahaha sorry to say.. i was once like this.. like being a teenager.. i own my time right.. and its so carefree.. what i usually do that's taking me so long.. is i sit on the bowl.. then read novel.. i like it.. i don't know why.. my mom would say.. " are you done reading?!" then i laugh.. lolz and so i decide to get out the bathroom.. coz sometimes i tend to forget how long I've been there..
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• United States
3 Feb 09
i totally agree with you. i was absolutely the same way. there's nothing abnormal about this !
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Oh really? so you mean you as a teen ager is also doing this? ah well, this teen ager I know, would bring her laptop inside the bathroom and her books. She owns the bathroom. she is the only one using it.. so, she has all the time until morning hahaha.
@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
no i will not allow anything like that. NOT IN MY HOUSE. first we only have one bathroom so they can not stay there or live there, second they have their room, third that is not normal. i have four teen kids, and if one will manipulate me into doing things like that, then the three will do that to me also. can you imagine if i will not disipline this children of mine? so far they are good and they are doing their chores and following rules. yes of course sometimes something happened that leads to me shouting at them but so far so good.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Oh congratulations!! You are doing a good job with that. imagine 4? some are having a hard time dealing with 1 or 2? 4 is not that easy i know. I agree with you, staying in the bathroom for too long is not normal. I don;t know what the parents would do in order to correct this problem.
@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
it is not easy to disipline kids but i started to disipline them at a young age. i need to show them who is the boss. that is why some professionals on child caring says we need to give them tough love. i gove them what they want as long as they give them what i want. i try to be a mom, a sister, a friend too. but i always remind them that i can be there worst enemy
@jambi462 (4601)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I think that you should allow a teenager their space especially if they're in the bathroom. I think that it would be a huge violation of privacy if you were to just bust in on them while their in the bathroom. Also you might catch them doing something that you don't want really want to see. I think that the bathroom should be a privacy zone for everyone even teenagers.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
That's right!! we must respect their privacy but we must also know what is going on there inside. We want them to do right not the opposite. And if we will tolerate the things they are doing, we are not helping them to be a better person for tomorrow.
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
No, I will not allow my teen ager to stay a long time in the bathroom. It will scare me he would do something to hurt himself or whatever. I don't like to think about that but it is not good to stay inside the bathroom for a long time. I might keep on banging the door until he will open it.
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
that's right!! I don't want either. I will not be at peace thinking that my teen ager is inside while everybody in the house is sound asleep. why is that? I would be worried too.
@mayhem23 (185)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
I don't have any kids as I am a university student and young still. However, when I was a teenager, my mom used to occasionally call out my name if I was in the bathroom for a long time. I never spent too long in the bathroom for non-bathroom activities other than talking on the phone to girls! Yes, those conversations sometimes were hours long but my mom knew what I was doing!
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Oh yea, maybe this teen is talking to her friends online.. and they have something very serious to talk about that needs to be in private. Why taking the laptop inside? there must be something going on online? I am not sure... just a guess.
@ulalume (714)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I opened this discussion because this is truly abnormal behavior. This isn't just going to the bathroom and showering. This individual is, more than likely, doing something he/she is not supposed to be doing. Either that, or it is depression to a new extent. The first thing that really needs to be done is his/her parent needs to talk to them about it. Though, do not be quick to judge, either. It may just be a place he/she enjoys being in. I am still in my teens and I know that even I enjoy just being alone in the bathroom (where no one bothers me) and writing in my journal/notebook among other things. The concerning issue here is the time period. Three to four hours is way too long to be doing that. I spend, usually at most, an hour in there with showering.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Well, that is good if only an hour but she can stay there for like 4 hours.. or more. Maybe she is also doing like you do. Writing or reading inside. I don't know what it feels like inside why she likes to be there for long.
@sunsham68 (1381)
• India
3 Feb 09
this maybe just me, but when i was a teen, i had conversations with imaginary people, different people at different times and moods, and sometimes i lost track of time enjoying the "conversations". maybe not hours, but more than a normal bathroom visit for sure. it could probably be sometime harmless like this, so apart from being cautious, I am hoping you don't obsess..
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Well, the parents of this girl just do nothing about this problem. they just ask once or twice why she is always there? and then no follow up? so then, the addiction of staying in the bathroom is always there. Everyday and night. Mostly night and afternoon when here is no class.
@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
3 Feb 09
[i]Hi Bebs, Wow...hehehe! We really can't tell what is the mind of our youth this time! LOL! I have no kids but I have a friend also who always ask her daughter to just open her door. She is 8 yrs old and she loves to lock herself in her room all the time!My friend is not comfortable about it and her kid tell her that she is mean! LOL! If I have a kid like this, I will try my best for them to be open to me! You know,,,,maybe they have some questions about anything. They tend to explore stuff! [/i]
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Hi Che, you are absolutely right. If Parents are too strict, the tendency is.. their kids will find a way to get off elsewhere to go away from their parent's big mouth hahahah.. that's what one teen ager here had said. She just want to get out from her parents.. that's why she spent a lot to time in the bathroom because she wants to be alone. Well, if parents are understanding and kind, they make friends with their kids, they will not tend to hide anything from them.
@salonga (23676)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
That is really not normal. What would that teenager do at the bathroom that it would take her that long and at the time? Something must really be wrong? If I were the parent,I will investigate. She must be sleeping soundly by that time and not staying inside the bathroom. Well, I'm glad I have no problem with my son.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Well, very good my friend.. you are lucky!! but there are some parents who are having a hard time dealing with their teen agers specially if when they reprimand them they will talk back which is very irritating to hear. I don't like it.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Hey Bebs! I think that if a child is spending that much time in the bathroom that a parent definitely should find out what they are doing in there! Especially if they are in there for half the night! They do have to sleep sometime and get up to go to school! Parents should monitor a childs suspicious behavior! I know mine should have! lol
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
That's right!!! I agree with you. That is not normal. Imagine? until morning the teen ager is still there in the bathroom? what is she doing, sleeping inside? hahaha
• United States
3 Feb 09
my daughter tries to do that i have no idea what in the world she is doing in there after 15-20 minutes i am beating on the door ordering her out of there I give her a little longer for showers but I dont let her spend more than an hour in there I hope this isnt a normal thing because I still have 4 more kids to go through the teenage years and only one bathroom
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
To me, this is weird. Well, 30 -40 minutes is suspicious!! how much more if they stay longer than that? If I am the parent of this teen ager, I will not allow her to be there even an hour.