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@Humbug25 (12540)
February 4, 2009 1:28pm CST
I have got a secret but I don't want to tell anyone about it. I don't want to tell anyone because I fear I will be judged as I have made some mistakes about this sort of thing in the past! This time it is different though and when the time is right I will discuss it with certain people but that time may never even come so that is another reason why I don't want to tell anybody anything yet. Usually when I have a secret I am ready to pop and can't help but talk to someone about it. When I was pregnant with all three of my kids I found it hard to not tell anyone until the 12 weeks were up but it helped that my husband knew too!! LOL . I desperately wanted to tell my mum as I tell her most things because I trust her with my life. If someone else told me a secret then I wouldn't tell a sole because then that person would know exactly who blabbed! Are you good at keeping secrets? Do you have someone you trust not to tell anyone else your secrets?
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Hello hunbug25! I hope you would tell me about your secret..I'm kidding! Anyway, I am a good secret keeper. My friends told me about their secrets and until now, I haven't told anyone about it. That's why maybe my friends would want to confess to me because they know that if it's a secret, it would be a secret. Honestly, I don't easily tell my secret to anybody even to my family. God knows my secret and I am happy for it.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya aisaellis22 I might tell you when the time is right. I might tell everyone I know when the time is right . If you did tell your friends secrets to others then would find out for sure and they would never trust you again, they might not even want to be your friend anymore and that is a risk not worth taking if they are good friends! Thanks aisaellis
• United States
6 Feb 09
I agree with you humbug25! That's why I am really trying hard to gain a trust from my friends.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
4 Feb 09
i'm very good at keeping secrets. just tell me not to tell anyone & i want. i do have some people i can trust to keep anything i want them to. don't have many secrets anymore, darn it.means i'm living a dull life. lol
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Feb 09
u r very welcome. have a good friday.
@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi Ya ANTIQUELADY Well this is the only secret I have right now and I am basically an open book for all to read!! Maybe when the kids have grown up and left home and I can get upto what I want to I might think about getting some more hahhaha Thanks ANTIQUE
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I have a best friend that I could tell anything too and no one would ever know what we talked about without me telling her to tell. I am so thankful and I do admire her for that along with so many other qualities about her. I am glad that you can share with your mum. I could also tell my daughter and she would not say a word. I have raised her to be trustworthy and honest.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
16 Feb 09
Hi ya carolscash Yeah I am glad to have my mum she is great and we are very close!! I am not sure I would confide in my sons when they are older not because I haven't brought them up to be trustworthy and honest I just think they would be interested in my secrets!! Thanks for your response
@messageme (2821)
• United States
13 Feb 09
You sound like you just want to burst it out of you!! Are you pregnant?! If someone tells me a secret of course I would never tell anyone I am loyal when it comes to secret telling. Even if I think it is something that should be told, I put that responsbility on the person that told me the secret. I will encourage them to tell someone if it needs to be told. Otherwise I just keep it all to myself. I have told secrets to my friends before only for them to go and tell lots of people. I had a friend that I would spend all my time with we did everything together and told each other everything. Well things went bad and we are no longer friends. After we were friends ( I think it was like a year later) she went and told everyone a sectet that I had told her!! It was a secret that should have NEVER been told! I was in such disbelief! I of course denied the whole secret and said she was only saying it because we weren't friends anymore. You just can't trust anyone!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
16 Feb 09
Hi messageme No I am definately not pregnant, you need a partner to do that don't you? LOL . Yes it is something I want to share with people but it's just not a good idea right now!!! I am sorry to hear about your ex friend that really is sad but then she couldn't have been that much of a friend in the first place and you are probably better off without her anyway!! Thanks messageme
@May2k8 (18089)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 09
I don't have a secret and could tell my secrets to anyone if i have a secret. First, i will tell my secrets to my mom.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
4 Feb 09
Hi ya May2k8 So is there anything you'd like to share with the rest of us? LOL Thanks for your response
@May2k8 (18089)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 09
I eating ice cream today, do you want eating ice cream Humbug? Thanks for your comments.
• United States
13 Feb 09
I do have someone I can tell anything to. I guess I am one of the lucky ones. When somebody tells me a secret I do not share this with anyone because I want to respect others. I believe if I want someone to keep my secret, I need to keep them myself. I do not like secrets, however.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
16 Feb 09
Hi Mystic_Dragon I think you are right, that it is not good to have secrets as they do eventually hurt someone, usually!! This is not really a secret it is just something I am choosing not to tell people at the moment because there is really not much to tell people!! Thanks for your response Mystic_Dragon
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Feb 09
I have a close friend whom I do trust since we were teenagers. I do share most of my personal experiences. Although we don't meet a lot as we used to in the past. I would not trust someone who is renowned that will blabb. If you fear that you will be judged I do share your views that it is better to remain with your mouth shut
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@Humbug25 (12540)
7 Feb 09
Hi ya ronaldinu The oldest friends are usually the best and most trustworthy! Thanks ronaldinu
@aprilten (1966)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I'm very good in keeping secrets, especially those secrets are are not mine. If a friend tell me a secret she can be sure that it will stay a secret as far as I am concerned. I also have a few secrets myself and my confidant has always been my younger sister. I tell her everything.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya aprilten I think that most people have got at least one person they can share all their secrets with safely. I hope your sister shares her secrets with you too! LOL Thanks for your response
@amanda333 (739)
• France
5 Feb 09
I am good at keeping secrets, if your friends trust you, you should be true to them
@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya amanda333 It's not that I don't trust them so much as I don't want to hear what they have to say about this particular secret I have right now so I have chosen not to discuss it with them, but they will know in time, when the time is right. Thanks for your response
@gemini_rose (16264)
5 Feb 09
Yes I am good at keeping secrets and have kept many over the years even from those closest too me. If a friend comes to me in confidence then that is how it should be, if I feel it is something I may need to talk about then I would ask if I could tell my hubby but if they said no then I would not tell a soul. I have no one that I can trust to tell anything too, I have confided in people in the past only to have them open their traps as soon as they left my side so I have no one to tell things too now, best that way!!!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya gemini_rose That is a real shame that you have all these people ready to share their secrets with you and you have no one you trust enough to tell yours to. If you are happy with things that way then that is good for you and have no fear of your secrets getting out eh? Thanks for your response
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I do apologize for responding to this topic late, but, I do hope it's a good secret :) You have my curiosity up now! If I have a secret I generally don't tell anyone. I can't trust that people won't blab. You know how people like to talk. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@Humbug25 (12540)
16 Feb 09
Hi kellyjeane Well I will no doubt reveal all to all when the time is right but not just yet!! Yeah probably not a good idea to tell anyone anything if you don't want anyone to know anything!! Cheers kelly
@glords (2614)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Lol, I think I tell my husband just about everything. In a way I expect that a person knows if they are telling me a secret they are telling my husband too. Or at least that is how I justify it. However if I feel embarrassed or ashamed for the person I do not tell the secret. I only tell if its not something bad like I'd tell if i knew you were pregnant.... unless it was someone elses (not hubby's) baby... then I would not tell. I'd keep your secret safe!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi there glords I guess it is ok to share a secret with someone else if you know they are not going to share it with someone else!! Thanks for responding
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
6 Feb 09
I am not much with secrets and no one usually tells me secrets because i dont have many friends and if someone does tell me a secret i m ok with it because i forget it soon and when he again talks about it and i have forgotten he gets disappointed so this way i m good at keeping a secret as i forget about it.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hello agrim94 Yeah I am the same too, secrets are safe with me cos I forget shortly after I have been told them!! Thanks for your response
@jasmin69k (103)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
i have a bestfriend that has a secret in life that nobody knows..only me!!!it's been 10 years that i keep that secret and i never tell that to anyone..i think i am a good keeper..
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi there jasmin69k What a great friend you are, I would have forgotten all about it by now if it was me so I would be able to keep a secret that long too!! Thanks for your response
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I'm pretty good with secrets ...my own as well as others. I'm a pretty private person. im probably more open on here than anywhere just because of the anonymity.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya sid556 Yes I think myLot can be just as good as a therapy session, not that I have ever been in therapy!! LOL Thanks for your response
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I think I'm pretty good at keeping a secret because I'm a very private person so its become fairly easy for me not to talk about certain things, but I must admit I sometimes if I have to keep a secret from someone really close to me I have trouble doing that, thats why most of the people thats close to me know pretty much everything about me.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya apples99 Well I think as you get older you don't seem to have so many secrets so things do get easier in that vein of things!! Thanks for your response apples
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I can't keep all my secrets.. if i have not serious secret then i'll share it with my hubby and some close friends.. i haven't shared any secret with my family because i know they will never understand.. i really wanted to come out from the closet but i don't think i can..
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya gracie04 Sometimes it helps to talk to strangers because they wouldn't know the people that you know and therefore your friends and family wouldn't find out but you have got your secrets off your chest. You can't go on for too long keeping certain secrets to yourself it's not healthy! When you say you want to come out of the closet you mean you want to discuss your secrets right? Here in the UK the term of coming out of the closet would mean that you are going to tell people that you are gay! Look if there is anything you wanna get off your chest and talk about then please don't hesitate to PM me. Thanks for your response
@miccant (154)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I am very good at keeping secrets. For some reason two of my sisters tell me everything. The best part of this is when one tells about the other and then the other tells about that one. As for my secrets go I only tell my husband. He keeps them really good because he forgets them in just a few days.haha. I think that if a person tells you a secret you need to keep it it is only their place to tell others when the time is right.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya miccant I had the sort of situation only the other week with two of my friends because all our sons used to play together but their sons started to fall out and they were both telling me that the other friends son was the one starting it all and of course my other friend was saying the same. It got sorted and they didn't fall out with each other over and left it to the school to sort out because it was happening at school!! Thanks for your response
• South Korea
5 Feb 09
Il keep secrets,secrets that no body knows except God.Il keep them because for my on good.BUt i dont know when gonna be reveal and whom am i trsut even if i tell about it.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi there backloader Thanks for your response
• South Africa
5 Feb 09
I had someone i would have trusted with the world... that was until they betrayed me.. aaghh the pain!!!!
@Humbug25 (12540)
6 Feb 09
Hi ya OomKosie and welcome to myLot I am sorry to hear that. That can be one of the biggest kind of hurts ever when you think someone is your good friend and then they let you down badly. It has happened to me too! Thanks for your response