I Hate Homework!!!!

@sassy28 (835)
United States
February 4, 2009 7:02pm CST
And it is not even mine. I have a 7 & 9 year old and we spend 2 to 3 hours each night fighting to get it done. Right now I am fighting with the 7 year old. He is almost done, he has to write sentences using 5 of his vocabulary words. Well he has pitched a fit and moaned and wined. I finally gave up and wrote the sentences for him, all he has to do is copy them in his own writing and he won't even do that. He is playing with his pencil and drawing on paper. How much do your kids get? I think there school gives them way to much. We never did homework until 7th grade. Seven year old has reading, spelling, math worksheet, vocabulary words, social studies, and social studies vocabulary words. Nine year old is reading a novel, spelling words, wordly wise words(using different words with same meanings), science vocabulaary words, science project, social studies, social studies vocabulary words and math. His book bag weighs more than he does, it really does we weighed it and it is 65lbs and he only weighs 52lbs. Feel better for venting, got tired of fussing at them.
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@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I am right there with you... I HATE MY SON'S HOMEWORK TOO!!! My son is 6 and in the first grade and he comes home with an absurd amout nightly. He has 15 spelling words, and a spelling sentence that varies from night to night on what he has to do with them... it could either be write them 2 times each, to 10 times each, to putting them in ABC, and then writing them anywhere from 2 to 10 times. On other days, he's gotta make up his own sentence using his spelling words and then will write them same as above... He's got math nightly, language paper, and to read a 25 page story, and write the answers to the questions after the story... he also has 10 reading words he has to know how to read, and write for a reading test every thrusday. And now we recived a letter last monday that they would be starting definations, and they would have to know how to spell, and correctly write out each defination to the word on the tests on Friday... Give me a freaking break, he's 6. I've talked to his teacher and it seems to go in one ear and out the other. I do have alot of background in elementary education and know that the national education association has set guildlines for teachers to go by... and it's 10 minutes per grade level. 10 for 1st, 20 for 2nd, 30 for 3rd... but they don't follow it. I makes me so mad because it's only making him dislike school. He's always loved school and now he's coming home cranky because he knows it's gonna take him 2 hours to do his homework. I have to fight him to get his done, and there's threat of no extra's, your gonna get this taken away or that if you don't do your homework. I've started setting a timer for say 20 minutes making him do everything he can in that time, giving him a break, letting him walk around, snack and drink, then making him sit back down and going threw the cycle again. It's stressful, I do understand where your coming from. I would love to shoove my son's homework up his teachers nose and say here, you do this and see how you like it after you've sit in a classroom for 8 hours doing all the other stuff you've been told to do.
@sassy28 (835)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Hope you feel better, sounds like you needed to vent too. We are done and they are in bed. Quite time. Yeah.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I rant about that all day, It just makes me so mad. My family has many teachers in it.. My sister is a 2nd grade, brother n law is 3rd... and they don't even assign that much.. both of them think it's stupid. Thanks for listening, I probably rambled way to much lol... but i could just feel your distress.
@busibee (187)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Sometimes with the amount of homework the teachers assign, it makes you think the teachers just assign a bunch of pages without even looking at what they are giving out. "Here, just do all this." Like do they get a monetary bonus for all the extra work they assign??!!
@gomae16 (29)
• United States
6 Feb 09
OMG...trust me it gets worse...wait til they need money my 11th grade year the first to months i needed about 500 dollars and if you your kids are smart and you want them to socialize they'll need to join school clubs....the books are only the half of it...and if they get lost or stolen its full price......I feel for you, wait till high school
@sassy28 (835)
• United States
6 Feb 09
They already have a more active social life than I do. Finishing basketball now, starting baseball in two weeks and of course football in the fall. Last year in 3rd grade he had his first overnight field trip. They went to Myrtle Beach and spent the night at Ripley's Aquarium. I went with him on that one. A night sleeping on the floor in a sleeping bag with sharks swimming over your head. Younger son goes next year and of course wants mom to go with him, oh joy I can't wait. The cost on that was about $250. This year they are spending a few nights at the Barrier Island. It is a special camp that teaches kids about ocean life. Not sure on the full cost of it, had to send in $100 so far. Then lets not forget about the great fundraisers. For the past 4 years one of their fund raisers is tupperware, well I have enought tupperware to open my own store. This year I am going to have to tell them my cabinets can not hold any more tupperware.
• United States
6 Feb 09
Wow lol sounds like me:softball basketball, t.s.a, drama, book club, f.f.a A lot of fun but a lot of money and you have three precious ones? Wow, Just think about them standing from that podium saying ^_^ and the most important person in my life who all this could have happend without (_Insert name here_) It'll Be worth it, but for that you gotta keep up on the *homework* LoL Nice Talking to ya ^_^
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
We did homework since prep when I went to school (in europe) and there is nothing wrong with me in fact I am all for it. Kids will practice what they learn parents will know what kids learn and how they are doing. My son has developmental delay (not a huge issue) but he needs extra help. He is only 5 years old and just started prep but he does "homework" every day since he was 2. We play and he learns. We do puzzles and read books or learn new words or draw my point is he has a habid of siting down and doing things that he has to do. Here in Australia they dont bring all their books home. The kids have lockers and live there what they dont need. My son only has his lunch box and watter bottle in the bag.
@sassy28 (835)
• United States
6 Feb 09
He does have a locker, but needs all the books for homework.(And for weight lifting)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Poor thing well at least you can say he is healthy and in great shape if he can carry all that
@Pistas (95)
• Portugal
5 Feb 09
i'm still in university so i don't have kids, but i can tell that when i was a kid i didn't want to do my homework, i think no one does really.I mean why should we spend our time studying and stuff when we could be out there doing other things we like?But some years after you may flunk(not be aproved...don't know how to write properly) and then you see, especially at maths(that require everyday work) that you should have done your homework because in the end it helps in the study and therefore in marks.I think you should always tell your kids encouraging words for their effort by doing their homework.Altough it's work,at least you get to stay with the kids, and besides i think every parent helps their kids by doing their homework, they are kids, so who cares?the teachers don't (at least didn't really care). PS:they really should make kids take less books for school...too much weight ruins their back!
@sassy28 (835)
• United States
5 Feb 09
His bookbag does have wheels on it, but I have to lift it in the car and carry it in the house.
• Brazil
5 Feb 09
I agree with you Pistas. I have back problems till today and one of the things that helped was to take heavy books everyday to school.
• India
5 Feb 09
Am not offering any advises coz I am in the same boat with you, a little better with only one 9yr old to deal with. You are correct though, their bags weigh as if they are training to become porters later in life! Seven to ten in the evening, every day after office (which gets over at six), I enter the ring for another round of fighting. Most evenings its so frustrating I feel like banging my head on the wall. And then my son is really a child at heart…I mean he has no maturity expected of a child of his age. Today was his maths exam, knowing this (to avoid) he came home late from the playground yesterday evening…then he started doing a geography chart which he said was compulsory (I doubt it) and then around 9pm he sat with his maths papers (by that time I had lost the battle on anger-management and was screaming like hell), fuddled it up completely, arranged his bag haphazardly resulting in taking the old maths classwork copy which had only one page left (he was supposed to take a new copy)…he says that he stapled some loose sheets in the class today (dunno whether the teacher will accept that or cancel his papers)…I mean right now I was feeling like jumping off a building and ending it all…luckily you came along with similar problems and made me smile
@sassy28 (835)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Glad to know I could help. I felt much better after venting. Just one more night of fighting this week. I now exactly how you feel about beating your head against the wall. I know it is worth it in the long run, but getter there is uphill all the way.
@hanah87 (1846)
• Malaysia
27 May 09
I hate homework too.When i was kid,i need to make 6 different homework.If i dont do it i will get punish from my fierce teacher.My friend also bully me.She know i afraid to teacher and blackmail me to do her homework.My teacher will punish her student if she know that we cheat her or not doing homework.I not doing my homework for one day and my friend blackmail me forever when i still kid.
@agreen (39)
• United States
11 May 09
I hate homework as well, but it has to be done. My kids know that each and every day right after school they have to get their homework done. They can have a snack while doing their homework, but it has to be completed before they can play, watch TV or anything else.
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
17 Feb 09
I'm glad to say that the amount of homework is very small here wher I live - they have 3 each week and it will not take more than maximum 1,5 hour to complete them I have a 11 year old and a 9 year old and they are responsible of doing their homework. I'll ask them if they have any and they say yes, and I say - well do it now so you'll have it done. Some days they do it the day they get it, next time they'll wait until the day before. It's their choice and if they don't do their homework, they will fail and it's up to them. I do help them if they ask me to, but they are bright students and knows the importanse of making their homework, so it's not a problem. I would never do my childrens homework - I consider that cheating!
@mrgeebee (133)
• United States
7 Feb 09
well the kid won...lol... he yelled and hollared and you gave in...better to bribe him with something like ice cream than do his work for him .trust me bribery works great .school has changed , education is pushed earlier for the ever changing world . if you give in , hes going to find your weakness if he already hasnt and he has by sound of it . your not doing him any good , the teachers are going to know who wrote that by the phrasing not just by him re writing it . ive been there done that and it was no fun . i did many a homework for a kid just to not hear him . so yes im guilty too . put him in a quiet room , offer a reward for good work and leave him to whine , scream and cry . when you dont respond as he hopes you will , he will do it on his own .... good luck
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
It is really hard to teach kids about their homework. I experienced the same with my daughter. But once they learned it and how to do it, it is a fulfilling one. My daughter now do her homework on her own.
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Oh great, something for to look forward to. My youngest is in the 1st grade and she goes into a complete melt down just to learn 11 words, so she can take a spelling test on Friday. I have tried everything to teach her to learn them. I'm at my wits end with her, I'm amazed I don't have more gray hairs popping up on my head. Her other homework is to read a book so she can take a 5 question test to see if she knows the book. Well, in my opinion, shouldn't the child learn the basics of reading first before being thrown into reading a book. I don't know how to teach her to read except sounding out the word. In her back pack is just 3 folders, thank goodness. I can't imagine her trying to carry 65lbs of stuff with her 38lb frame. My oldest used to be the same way, so I know it will get better. At least I hope it does.
• Brazil
5 Feb 09
I remember when I was a child and had homework to do. When my sister was home she used to help me. But I was always a good student. Always homework came first then playing. Then when she left to live in another city I started to have other people paid by my mother to help me. it´s not easy I know. sometimes too much for a kid. But remember what your kids are learning now they will take for life :-)
• India
5 Feb 09
i too hate doing homeworks but i love my studies i love it much as i get used to it happy myloting
@kishusia (1069)
• India
5 Feb 09
I love helping my daughters in completing their homework. It is so much fun. It makes me remember my school days and home work which I used to do with the help of my mother.
• India
5 Feb 09
well in my school days i too used to hate doing home work , some times i used to tell my mother to do my home work if i dont do then next day in school teacher would give punishment so i used to tell my mother to do my homework, my mother used to do it some time when she feels i am much tired ,well we used to have 12 to 15 books to carry daily in those days it was a frustating to daily carry them but what to do i had to carry it daily.
@akari11 (82)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
It's really hard to persuade kids to do homework because they prefer to play and watch TV. But it's a parent responsibility to help their kids in making homework and to make sure they studied their lesson, it's a very challenging task for parents but at the end of the day it's a fulfilling job knowing mission is accomplished.
• China
5 Feb 09
I dislike homework,too.I only do something need to do.
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
5 Feb 09
i know how you feel. my son is in 2nd grade and homework has been a struggle since kindergarten. first of all, they should not have homework in kindergarten. let's get real. it is traumatic enough to have to go to school all day at 5 years old and be away from your parents and ride on the bus with bigger kids and then you have to slap the pressure of homework in there! who makes these stupid rules anyway? i never had homework in kindergarten and i am not sure i had it in first or second grade either. the amount of homework some nights is so frustrating and it gets worse as they get older. i think if it gets to be too much parents need to get together and start a petition to cut back on homework. the poor kids are in school over 6 hours a day as it is. how freakin' much work do they have to do? and if the teachers are doing their jobs why does work need to be sent home at all????
@MissAmie (720)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Oh that's just insane. I can't believe the teachers expect little kids to carry around that much weight. I have a 6 year old daughter in the 1st grade and although her homework is really hard, she doesn't have that much of it. She never has to bring home books, just the folder that her work is in. She brought home some English homework one day that I couldn't even figure out. I have a 4 year degree in English! I considered sending the homework back blank with a note saying, "If a college graduate can't do this, how exactly do you expect a 1st grader to get it done?" I was just so annoyed. Not to mention her teacher blows. She won't even answer my notes if I send one with my daughter. I have no idea what's going on in the classroom other than my daughter says the teacher is mean. I believe her.
• Kenya
5 Feb 09
the reason why they have increased the volume of homework is that,nowdays there is much that has come as result of modernisation and withdrawal of homework means that most kids will easily get eroded by the wave of external effects of modernisation, for instance, wathching televisin programs, browsing internet and listening to music can make a kid forget her studies.Though i do not campaighn for excessive homework,little home assignement is not bad but should have a limit since kids spend most of thier time in school.