Submissive Wife

@Rainegurl (2158)
Philippines
February 6, 2009 8:51pm CST
I recently spent time with a former classmate of mine. We were close friends at college but grew apart because we were not able to spend time with each other anymore. Until the other day, when she invited me out. What really caught me when saw each other was the way she fussed about hurrying up because her husband is waiting at some restaurant. I mean I avoid keeping my husband waiting but I know he would not mind waiting if I have a reason. But this friend of mine was really afraid to keep her husband waiting. I mean, it was not as if I was late or we were delaying on purpose. She just does not want that her husband arrives at our destination earlier that us. Oh boy. Is this a sign that she is a submissive wife? Would you like to be or would you like to have a submissive wife? What exactly is a submissive wife, anyway?
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8 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I don't know if it's right to judge right now, they have had other plans that she was worried about keeping. You've not seen her in years from what I understand. I'm not sure what else to say, it could be submissive / abusive like the first person wrote, but I don't think it's right to judge.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I'm sorry, I meant to say they may have had other plans. I don't mean to come off rude.
@Shavkat (65004)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
It is not typical for a woman to be submissive. Nowadays, women are so empowered to be what they are now. It is sad thing that being submissive still exist. One of the reason, not to loss the love of their loved one.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Ahhh! This ties in well with my discussion about doing things alone or separately even if you are married or in a relationship. This sounds controlling and bordering on abusive to me. Nobody should be AFRAID of their spouse. I also think there is a big difference between doing things that you know your spouse will appreciate and be happy about - and things out of respect (like not making them wait without knowing where you are), and doing things out of FEAR that they will get angry, restrict you, force you to ask permission, etc. I am NOT a 'submissive' wife nor a submissive person in general. I have always been fairly independent and I follow my own path, I'm not into trends and I rarely jump on a bandwagon. The choices I make are made for my own reasons and often are very important to me as well as the the choice itself. Living in fear of anything creeps me out, that is just like being a doormat, being a victim, and giving up your RIGHT to having your own life! In my case if I am running late or lost track of time, I could call my husband or text him, or he could call or text me. I am good about getting in touch with people and telling them I'm late or might be late and assuring them I am on my way, or reschedule if I won't make it. All people are different, men who are control freaks LOVE to have submissive wives or girlfriends. It makes it easier for them to make sure their overbearing controlling behavior is ACCEPTED and it enables them to continue to be the big 'head of the household' and have everybody else cater to them. There are also normal men who take a much saner approach - that of a partnership - with a wife or girlfriend. There are also some men who prefer someone else 'wears the pants', as they may be quiet and mild mannered and want someone else to make the decisions. Likewise there are different types of women. I avoid the control freak type of ... anybody because I don't need that invading my life lol.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
maybe her husband has a thing about being late, like a pet peeve and your friend just doesn't want to make her husband mad and spoil the night. Wasn't there anyway she could have communicated with her husband that she was running late? I once met someone who was like that, he doesn't accept any excuses for someone being late. If its traffic jam, then he will say that you should have given some time allowance or left early so that you won't be late. I don't think its about submission though, a wife can be submissive yet not afraid of her husband. Respect doesn't have to mean that a wife is scared of the husband
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Submissive wives are those who say "yes" to whatever their husbands tell them. They lack opinion and later end up lacking personality because they let their husbands get their way on everything that they no long think for themselves. You friend on the other hand, sounds scared. Scared to disappoint her husband for some reason. I hope she's happy in her marriage... Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
7 Feb 09
Being submissive is showing quiet obedience. It would not suit me for I am a free agent but I imagine it suits some people to have wives or husbands who are submissive to them just as it suits the one being submissive...whatever rows your boat I guess. If I had agreed to meet someone, whether it be my husband, child or friend at a specific time I would become anxious if it looked like I might be late. Being late for an appointment is something I don't handle well so I am rarely, if ever late for anything. I hate, detest, despise being kept waiting too. maybe this lady doesn't like being late either.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
7 Feb 09
I thin she is more responsible and respects her husband more than you.She was not liking her husband to wait without prior information.She might have thought,her husband would worry for her not turning back at the right time.Let us think it in the positive way!Cheers!
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I work with a married women who is like that! She is so bad sh does everything around the house and out doors! Her husband doesn't lift a finger! This women is so brain washed by her husband she worships him! To her he knows best! I swear this women can't think for herself! It is really bad! This one reason I'm glad I have never gotten married!