Complaining

My fiance won't do anything until I have a total and complete meltdown with screaming and crying- even then it may take more than one meltdown to get him to do something.

sometimes,he will just ignore me.but if im really angry and he knows that im going to freak out,he will do something about the problem that needs to be fix.but he will just wait for me to get really angry.he knows that im patient but if im already full,im like a volcano that will explode.

My husband occassionally complains and tells me that I nag him. I will admit tha I do. He is a huge procrastiantor and it drives me crazy. He will put anything and everything off as long as he possibly can, and sometimes even longer than that. He tends to ignore what I ask him to do. He is not the type to do things as soon as possible at all. Here's an example, in the beginning of October, he mowed our yard for the final time of the year. I asked him, that same day to plaese put the mower back into the garage so it wasn't left out in the weather. He put it off until almost Christmas!! I would have done it myself, but in order to do it, he had to move things out of the way in the garage, and he had to straighten it up. There were too many things that I could not lift by myself to do it, so my poor mower sat out in the weather. He did something very similar to our old mower, and it ended up being ruined. You would think that he would havelearned from the first time. I feel like I have to constantly remind him of even the small things that he really needs to do all of the time. I know it gets on his nerves at times, but there are some things that just need to be done and notp ut off until later.

The procrastinator is me, not my husband (shame on me!) We've been steady for three years and married for more than six. And he never gets angry with me and we never had a quarrel even once (some colleagues even jokingly asked us when we're going to have our first fight!). He understands that women sometimes go through hormonal changes and mood swings and i do get irritated at times but he just patiently waits till the smile is back on my lips and my face lit up then he holds and kisses me and tickles me and well... that's us! I don't want to nag (i don't want to be like my mother nagging at my father). If i ever complain it's when he lets the sweat dry out on his back. Or when he refuses to take his vitamin B's (he doesn't like the taste). Or when he refuses to let me buy him a new shirt. Or when he still folds the laundry i left on the bed because we had to rush out for some appointments. There were times when i asked him to do something and he did not act at once. Being the impatient me, i started doing it myself and when he saw it he's just like a knight coming to the rescue of his lady relieving me of the task and just had the job done. May I share you this passage (one of the memory verses i just recently memorized) to remind me and guide me on how to be the wife my husband deserves. I hope every couple remember their vows and renew their love for each other... 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a -- "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..."