can you be big enough to swollow your pride?

United States
February 14, 2009 9:31am CST
say that you have issues with your sibly, or your spouce does. and the fighting takes a total on yor parents. and you have all your cousins over to your house but refuse to invite your own sibly. or really have nothing to do with whoever the person is. you know it hurts other so much because of your actions and spouce's actions. to keep peice and work to make things better mean you have to swollow your pride could you do it? myself last year had a big blow out fight with my sister in law, and i didn't want to go over to my in law's for thankgiving or christmas but i did for my wife, kids, and other family member i swollow my pride and until this day i show her respect because i promise my wife and her parents. can you be big enough and say ok i will get along just because it hurting more then me and the other person ?
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• Janesville, Wisconsin
14 Feb 09
Any time I stand up for myself, am happy or sharing.. I am to prideful and egostistical for the fact that I am happy, and they are not happy.. Whether it has anything to do with them or not. They are not happy if I am in a good mood, and they are not. So then I am seen as to egotistical and proudful... So, I am to the point in my life where I do not care if they see me this way. I have a right to my pursuit of happiness, and they are happy in their misery and fighting they can be.. So I avoid them as much as I can. Over half of my family I do not talk to...Not because I do not like them, but out of respect of our differences.. So I would not invite them but if they wanted to they could as long as there was an agreement to no fighting, and agreement to allow plenty of space to remain out of eachothers hair. - DNatureofDTrain
• United States
14 Feb 09
that is understandble, we don't talk to my one brother due he always bully my dad, but our two kids and daughter in law don't get along. to me my son and his wife do things out spike, we have told all them hey this not effict you guys but it's hurting me and thier mom as well more my wife. to me they should be like ok let get along, let don't do things out of spike and get along so mom won't get sick over this and cry all the time. they all make me feel like *itch slapping them.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I don't think I really have too much problem swallowing my pride but if I am hurt or angry with someone I find it really difficult to be around them until I get over those feelings. I just feel so uncomfortable and tense. I know its better to just get over it but I have a really hard time with that sometimes..even if I think I've forgiven the person. Anyway, its something I definitely need to work on.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
16 Feb 09
it depends the reason.but in my case i dont swallow the pride.i have a high pride.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Many times. I forgive easily and hate it when people do not get along, so I will always offer the Olive branch.