Looking into homeless shelters

@seabeauty (1481)
United States
February 19, 2009 9:20am CST
Just in case my house goes into foreclosure and I wind up with no place to go. Last year, my ex husband left me for another woman. I have three kids one of which lives with my ex, the other two live with me. He stopped paying the mortgage on this house starting in October. We are now 5 months behind on it. I am not working because I was a stay at home mom for many years and I don't know how to drive so I can't get to a job. Right now I am depending on my neighbors to take me food shopping. I am on medicaid and foodstamps. I had to apply for those for the kids sakes as my ex is not paying child support. He is giving me a certain amount to pay the gas, electric and phone bills. We have our house up for sale and it has been since June of 2008 and no offers have been made. I get medicaid transportation which takes me and the kids to our doctors appointments. I have a case open with Child Support Enforcement to get the support. The problem I am facing is, if this house goes into foreclosure or if I have to do a short sale, I don't have the money to move someplace else. I was thinking of giving him the kids and going into a homeless shelter. I have no family in this state and none of my family can help me financially. I am a total nervous wreck. I don't know what else I could do. I called section 8 and they are not taking any applications for 6 years. Where the heck am I supposed to go? My brother wont let me live with him even though him and his wife have a 3 bedroom trailer. My mother lives in a one bedroom apartment in a senior citizen building so I can't move in with her. My other brother rents a room with another guy so that's out. I am really scared right now. I don't want to give up my kids but don't see any options. Any suggestions?
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
i am a single mom of four children, i left my abbusive husband and tagged along my children with me. i dont know where to start too but lucky me that i get help from my family and relatives as well. so starting was rough and was not easy for i need to be a dad and a mom at the same time. but i was 30 years old back then. in this country it is okay if you dont know how to drive for we have a lot of public transporting vehicles. this is a tough decision to make. in my case i dont like also to leave my children behind. i can not live without them. well you can not also start without having a job. i think taht is the most important. you can not stand alone if you dont have job. i think you need to start there. i just wish you get child support and i hope it will all turn out the way you wanted it to be. keep praying. i am sorry that it is only now that i saw this i responded at the one you said you dont know were your friends are. i will be lighting a candle for you for peace of mind, and hope that it all ends well.
@seabeauty (1481)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Thanks Roni for the prayers and all. It means a lot.
@Shellyann36 (8918)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. Have you ever considered going to college? In your financial situation you could very well get all sorts of funding for this. Pell grants would be given and possible social services could help with more money. The excess could be used to put yourself into another place to live. The child support always takes forever to kick in. I waited over 6 months for mine and I finally got fed up and went to a lawyer with my tax returns. This bit me in the @$$ though because now it can only be enforced through child support. The courts will not touch or enforce something that was settled outside of child support enforcement. You need to be checking into other places to live and find somewhere very cheap. Somewhere is better than no where. Does your ex give you the money to pay the bills or does he pay them on his own? If he gives you the money save it up and try to move out on it.
@seabeauty (1481)
• United States
22 Feb 09
My ex pays the bills on his end. He does give me some money for non food items like toilet paper, paper towels and stuff. I get food stamps and they don't pay for that stuff. He sends that western union. All that money gets spent on that. I will see about schools. Don't drive though so I don't know how I would get there.
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
There are a lot of homeless people in my country... and a lot of them are families who lost their home because of various reasons... there is no government agency willing to help them... so they just beg and litter on the street not minding the danger... even little children who can barely walk does that... and it breaks my heart to see them... In your case... i know you are going through a very tough time right now... but i am sure everything will turn out fine in the future... just be patient and try to work hard... and i think you should pressure your husband into giving you more financial support... that is his obligation...
@seabeauty (1481)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Oh I plan on getting more money. I went to child support enforcement and I am waiting on a hearing date. Right now, he is only paying the gas, electric and phone bills on the house. He stopped paying the mortgage because it was too much for him. I am not even getting child support although I could understand it is hard to pay his rent and my bills at the same time. Still, he chose to leave the marriage so he should take care of me until I can get on my feet. Thanks for replying :).
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear about everything that is going on with you. It is a shame that the only family that is really able to help you is unwilling to help you out. I don't really have any advice for you or suggestions. I am sure it is hard being in your position. I would not want to give up my kids either.
@seabeauty (1481)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I was shocked too that my own brother and sister in law won't help. I was hoping they would let me stay with them till I got on my feet. I am just taking things one day at a time. Thanks for commenting :).
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I'm sorry that you went through this and may still be going through this. I am not sure if they do this but good will is a great company that does help with job training. What i'm not sure about is transportation to and from the work site. If you haven't found a job yet maybe looking into that will be beneficial. I'm not sure if it costs, it's been awhile since I started the process and then stopped. Of course if you have access to a computer try to be on and making money. That can be costly too with the price of the internet included. I hope that you can get the help you need. If your religious which I think you are, subscribe to a few christian newsletters, ask for prayers in the community and at church, and even ask for donations from the church.