Have you seen the worst from your partner?

@modstar (9605)
Philippines
March 8, 2009 6:58pm CST
Like have you seen him/her so mad like you've never imagined before. Like you've seen him/her doing something you never thought he/she'd do to the point that you want to hate him/her.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I can say yes, to your question. My husband got outrageously angry one time over something that did not warrant that much anger. It totally took me by surprise because it was extreme. Oh yeah, I disliked him for some time after that and it took a while for us to reconcile. His anger over sometime so minute, only mad. That happened two years ago, and that was the last time we had an argument like that. I never imagined he would or could act the way he did, do the things he did or say the things he said.
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I'm curious about the reason why he got mad. Is it ok if you'll tell us? It makes you feel like you don't know him too well right?
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Haha.. Maybe I think when she speak her side we could understand each other well.
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Haha I see it everytime we argue.. She dont speak a little and im mad and sick of it.
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Haha! But don't you think it's better than having to react violently against you?
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I have seen the worst behavior of my husband and vice versa. I wasn't surprise or mad at all. Ever since, we both inform each other what makes us mad and how we get mad same with the behavior. So we are both really aware if he and I acting weird. It is better to know the worst or imperfection part of your partner than being surprise, in that way you accepted or loved not just what the good side he/she have but also you accepted the bad side too. Happy mylotting!
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Oh I already did! lol...it is when how he raised his voice and made me shock! then I felt like I swallowed my tongue and can't speak. Then he kept saying bad words that I never ever heard from him. He is not that kind of person. So, instead of throwing fire back to him, I just give him a big hug but keeping ignoring me and asking me not to talk to him because he is still shaking and his heart beating so fast...I never stopped though and tried to give him hugs and kisses which I am glad really worked!
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Now you're (...or he.lol!) talking! That's what i've been looking for. The shock value. lol! Hm... That's sweet. I'm glad you husband is not egomaniac and would admit at least on his actions that it was just a mistake.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Then i guess you haven't seen the worst yet. Worst is something you felt really bad. by worse i mean you saw him so mad that you didn't expect that he'd be. Physical imperfection for married couples is a given. Ok, like i said, you haven't seen the worst yet, but i also mean that it's possible that you won't even see it, not in this lifetime at least. Then i assume that you and your husband are a happy couple.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
The hell I have! More than several times. But I'm not going into details...
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Thanks modstar! This is really encouraging...
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
That's ok marg! I'm just glad it's over. Just focus more on your precious twins.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I haven't seen anything remotely close to the worst, and I'm hoping not to. I did with my ex's, and that's why they're ex's.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
There's a saying "the worst is yet to come" lol! Nah, wish you all the best cat! And Tukay too!
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Now you're thinking like me . When things are bad, you figure they can only get better. When they're good, you kind of figure that when you least expect it that they will get bad...lol, just like the economy . Wishing you and Moochie the best too! Hugs.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
10 Mar 09
That's the bad thing about my BF. He NEVER gets so angry to the point of showing his worst colors. It's not because I am soooo good. It's just that he's soooo patient it annoys me. Many times I tried igniting him, triggering that savage beast inside but no. I end up looking like the antagonist.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Trust me, you may not want to see the beast in him.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Apr 09
Trust me modstar, I would rather see the beast in him than the "beauty"! lol
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
YES. that is why i walked out on him. i can not believe i trusted my life to someone that i thought i know. then he turns to be a different person after all. we have four children and he is a very abbusive man i left him and bring my children along with me. it is not easy to be the mom and the dad but it more complicated living with him.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Well i'm glad it's over now for you. You made the right choice. Wish you all the best too!
@myralmedo (815)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
woaw actually i forsee it already that he has a tendency of "over-acting" some stuff(i replied here not to say negative comments about my dada/hubby *wink* but it's a funny way of his reactions and some guys out there:D..he already realized his stupidity before LOL) but it was before (super emphasized hehe);) bg/gf thingy LOL he used to check my cellphone's phonebook and all of my guy friends he kept on asking who's this who's that and if he doesn't feel who's the one saved on my contacts he will delete it without asking permission... i hate it some of them are my super duper close during college days and one time (long long time ago LOL) he threw his cellphone because of that and from all of my "exes" (as if there's so many LOL) i just wondered why he is like that (it's given already that he loves me that so haha but hello? it's kinda OA:D) but now he's ok and graduated on that kind of act hehe after attempting so many break ups LOL just kidding;) thanks modstar!happy myLotting!;) Godabless!0=)
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
It's called displacement. He might as well throw his cellphone than hurt you physically. I erased the male contacts on my former girlfriend's phone before and i could see the shock on her face. lol!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 09
Hello modstar, After marrying my husband like four years ago, I started to see his weaknesses one by one. I experienced watching him losing his temper badly, and sometimes I do feel like he really changed a lot from the day we met. But, I never regret marrying him. He is still the best person to me...
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Maybe there are factors that makes hi like that but it's got nothing to do with you.
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I guess I did... That was the time we both had our limit and then... blammm... I don't think I would want it to happen again.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I'm pretty sure he is also aware of not letting it happen again.
• Indonesia
10 Mar 09
yes, definitely.. but im also having the worst part of me, that i wish he will understand it will happen when i was down or sad. just that.. thats why, when it happens to him i will try to understand the reason behind it, it could be im the one who trigger him like that..who knows. but when i love some1 i'll do the best for him and accept him for who he is, like he accept me for who i am, for good and the bad in me..
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Sometimes the accepting part is pretty hard to chew especially when you have witnessed sometime you never expected he could do to you.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
we've been together for 5 years now and i guess i haven't seen him in his worst or anything that will make me hate him..and i thank god for that,he's been very patient and loving husband to me.i hope he will not change or if he will i hope it will be for the better..but don't get me wrong he's not always nice he also have his tempers sometime.have a nice day modstar!
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
That's ok. That's pretty normal.
• United States
10 Mar 09
Oh yeah. I have definately seen my fiance get very mad. He is sometimes pretty quick to catch an attitude. He has never, and I don't think he could ever say or do anything to make me hate him, or regret being with him. He is a great person, but just a has a little temper sometimes.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
That's the attitude. Whatever it is that you witnessed, don't be moved.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
yes,i have seen with my ex lived in partner the worst time he did,that i really didn't realized he can do it for me,and that was the last time we had fought in our house,he slapped me in the face though i was the first one who did it to him.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
1 May 09
Yes I have seen her mad and angry. And I know that it is the time to go outside for a small walk and let her vent her fumes. Most probably she would be mad at me at something that I failed to do or she does not approve of.
• Singapore
1 May 09
Yes, I have. And it really hurts how he could do that to me. I'm still suffering from the hurt. I'm willing to forgive him, only if he makes a decision in my favour. If he doesn't, it means that he does not care for me anymore and I have to move on. Only time will tell...
@srganesh (6340)
• India
1 May 09
Yes!We people always want to expose our positive sides alone in the starting of our relation.But after getting accustomed to each other,we will slowly reveal the other side of our face,which will be horrible at the first sight.It happens to me,when she started to shout and cry for silly reasons.Now I am used to it. Ask her,she will have a story for me.This is all in the game.We have to accept both sides of anybody to maintain the relationship.Nobody is perfect.Cheers!
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
1 May 09
hahahaha it's so funny to see this discussion now. Just now we have a big fight with my love.... just dont know where we went wrong misunderstanding maybe... but it's going to bad... I dont know if we can still recover from it. Trying to be calm though and I dont know how this would end up.... She is not talking to me so I just let it be. I just asked her why she lied then the table turned it was something like my fault now hahaha funny how things turned the wrong way. I dont want to be mad so much to hate her.... I just keep calm now and let time pass... if she calms down then I guess we will have to talk it over. But I hate it when this things happened ... well wish me luck my friend....I hope we can still patch this things up
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
I've seen it so many times in the 10 years that I have known him and that was the trigger that gave me the idea of dumping him.Can't take his worst side,it's so inhumane.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
yes i do... and i dont like it... but accepted him to be really like that...