Is it still expected?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
March 12, 2009 2:37pm CST
I have had a child. I didn't have a baby shower for my son. He is my second, and last child. People have been wonderful and have given us alot of terrific things. A little here, a bit there over the last 2 months. He is 3 months old day before yesterday. I am trying to get caught up on thank you cards. Yes, I am sending them out. I am behind, but getting there. Just wondering what the current wisdom is without a formal shower. Thank you notes, yes/no?
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12 Mar 09
I don't think they are expected anymore. However I think they are still a lovely idea. It's a nice gesture to let people know their gifts are appreciated.
• United States
12 Mar 09
Hi ersmommy: I'm sorry to hear you didn't have a shower for the baby, but am happy to hear you do have people in your life who care enough to give you gifts so you know you and your new one are loved, and welcome. That appreciation should definately be expressed some way, if not with a thank you card, then maybe with a small get together. Good luck with the new baby.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Even a phone call to close friends or family to thank them is a good idea as well I feel. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Common courtesy says send a thank you card for most things actually. That's the way I feel anyhow. Even being invited to a friends for dinner, I will send a thank you note/card the follwoing day or so just out of courtesy. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Yep, that is how I was raised. And I am trying to instill this habit in my daughter.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Current wisdom... I'm not so sure. Common courtesy, yes. Take your time doing them, people understand you are busy with a baby. They may have forgotten even giving you anything by the time they get your card and it will make their day to know you went to the trouble when you could make time. Thank you notes.. yes!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Even without a baby shower is is still send thanks you notes. For those that might have a computer it might be easier and cheaper to send a card that way..they have some great online cards..I have a favorite site called riversongs that has a couple great ones. http://www.riversongs.com/thankyou_cards.html And Smilebox has some great ones as well.
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• United States
13 Mar 09
Hrm.. that kind of falls outside my scope. I think it is nice to give a mother a baby shower. I'm sorry you didn't get one.
• Canada
12 Mar 09
Yes :) And, don't worry if you didn't have a formal shower. According to the Emily Post Institute, any gift that was not opened in front of the giver should be acknowledged with a thank you card. It's also not critical if they are "late"... it's better to send one than not send one :) http://www.emilypost.com/everyday/thank_u_note_qna.htm